I used to fear failure. I thought it validated me being not good enough, less than. Every time I failed it stung like it was proof I didn’t deserve to have what I wanted, or I wasn’t good enough to get it. But what it was really there to do was give me feedback. To […]Read More Failure Isn’t Fatal, It’s Feedback
I always felt different from everyone else. As far back as I can remember, sitting in school, or standing in the playground, everyone else seemed to have an easier time than I did, or so it seemed, to me. I always had friends, but I had to work at it, it wasn’t something that came […]Read More Upside-Down Personality Right-Side Up
There were so many times in my life, before stepping on this path, when I never started things. When I meant to make better choices, different choices, healthier choices, but didn’t feel like I had enough information to start, or it wasn’t the right time, or I thought I should wait for a bigger sign, […]Read More Just Show Up
Before stepping on this path I walked through a lot of pain, not always gracefully, in fact, often not gracefully, but more like the Tasmanian Devil spinning out of control, taking down anything and everything I could in my path. I would tell myself, as would those around me, that the pain was making me […]Read More It’s Not The Pain That Helps Us Grow, It’s Our Response To It.
I used a lot of things to hide my feelings, to numb them, or to distract myself from feeling what I was feeling. I would even go so far as to do things that would make me feel sick purposely to distract myself from feelings I didn’t’ want to have. I harmed myself. Anything I […]Read More What Are You Craving? What Are You Trying To Hide?
Good morning SLAYER! Know that whatever comes your way, you have the ability to accept the good and learn from the bad to allow yourself to be your best you. New blog goes up Tuesday, until then…SLAY on!Read More Slay Say
There are a few reasons why we don’t take action, but many of them are rooted in the fear of failure. We assume we’ll fail so we don’t start. We delay. We make excuses why it won’t work, instead of just trying. As I’ve said before, sometimes the win is just in the trying itself. […]Read More Inactivity: The Fear Of Failure
I know for myself, I don’t have the luxury of carrying around resentments. Those resentments end up consuming me. They become larger than the actual issue that sparked the resentment, and, really, all I’m really doing by carrying around my anger or hate around is I’m giving the person it’s directed to all my power. […]Read More Hate Only Wears You Down, It Does Nothing To Your Enemy
I’ve talked a lot about “the facts,” and it’s the facts we need to look at and what we know to be true over what we feel, our feelings can sometimes trick us, or carry some baggage from our past, manipulate our perspective, but when we just stick to the facts we’re dealing with what […]Read More Ignoring The Facts Doesn’t Make Them Go Away
Before I started to walk in this path I was often heard saying, “why do these things always happen to me,” I felt like I was in the movie GROUNDHOG DAY, always seeming to find my way in similar places and problems and not understanding how I kept getting there. Well, I kept finding myself […]Read More When You Have The Understanding, You No Longer Need The Experience