Feelings can help us, they can give us a sense of things, how we feel about someone, or something, but they can also deceive us, they can be tied up in old thinking, old behaviors, things that no longer serve us. When I was living in the dark, I didn’t want to feel anything, good, or […]Read More Feelings: Changing What You Don’t Like
Before walking this path I was always proud of being a fighter. I would fight because I thought I was right. I would fight because I wanted to prove you were wrong. I would fight, just to fight. But what I didn’t realize is that I was fighting because I was in fear. Looking back […]Read More If You’re Fighting You’re In Fear
Good morning SLAYER! You can only accept mistakes and flaws in others to the degree that you accept your own. New blog goes up Tuesday, until then…SLAY on!Read More Slay Say
That may sound pretty harsh, but it’s not as harsh as it sounds. We all have busy lives, lives with many working components, we juggle many things each day and try to find our own sense of balance. And, just as we are doing that, so is everyone else. Each of us is doing the […]Read More People Aren’t Against You, They’re For Themselves
Before stepping on this path I walked through a lot of pain, not always gracefully, in fact, often not gracefully, but more like the Tasmanian Devil spinning out of control, taking down anything and everything I could in my path. I would tell myself, as would those around me, that the pain was making me […]Read More It’s Not The Pain That Helps Us Grow, It’s Our Response To It.
I talk a lot about letting things go and acceptance here at State Of Slay, I also talk about being accountable for your actions. Inevitably we will experience pain in our lives. Life does it dance and sometimes we fall and skin our knee. But it’s up to us whether we get back up again […]Read More Pain Is Inevitable, Misery Is A Choice
I was speaking with a friend the other day about not feeling good about a situation and he turned to me and asked, “how do you want to feel.? That got me thinking. How did I want to feel? And as I started to think about it, I started to feel it. For a few […]Read More How Do You Want To Feel?
Good morning SLAYER! Ignoring something doesn’t make it go away, it usually does the opposite, the longer you neglect something, the bigger it becomes. Things are only as big as we give them power to be, tackle them early, and they stay right-sized. New blog goes up Friday, until then…SLAY on!Read More Slay Say
I’ve talked a lot about “the facts,” and it’s the facts we need to look at and what we know to be true over what we feel, our feelings can sometimes trick us, or carry some baggage from our past, manipulate our perspective, but when we just stick to the facts we’re dealing with what […]Read More Ignoring The Facts Doesn’t Make Them Go Away
How often have we let shame get in the way of living the life we want to have? How often have we let it limit us, hinder us, and diminish us? We think our shame is a way to protect us from being hurt, from being rejected, from allowing others to see who we really […]Read More Shutter Shame