As we start the new year it’s a great time to do a check on where we’re at in our lives. To look at what we like, what we don’t, and to ask ourselves if we are happy with the consequences we are getting? As I have said many times at State Of Slay, our […]Read More Are You Happy With The Consequences You’re Getting?
I used to fear failure. I thought it validated me being not good enough, less than. Every time I failed it stung like it was proof I didn’t deserve to have what I wanted, or I wasn’t good enough to get it. But what it was really there to do was give me feedback. To […]Read More Failure Isn’t Fatal, It’s Feedback
Before stepping on this path I walked through a lot of pain, not always gracefully, in fact, often not gracefully, but more like the Tasmanian Devil spinning out of control, taking down anything and everything I could in my path. I would tell myself, as would those around me, that the pain was making me […]Read More It’s Not The Pain That Helps Us Grow, It’s Our Response To It.
When we’ve come from a situation, whether from our childhood or as we’ve moved through life, where we felt, or where, in danger, we move forward from that place always looking for danger. We are in a constant state of alert, always looking for what is coming next to hurt us, or knock us down. […]Read More Hyper-Vigilance: Looking For Danger
Good morning SLAYER! We live inside an unfinished story…and you can change yours at at anytime. New blog goes up Tuesday, until then…SLAY on!Read More Slay Say
Now this one seems like a no brainer, but how many of us hang out, or choose to spend time, with people who don’t really like us? When we are not feeling good about ourselves, when we are not proud of ourselves or we are feeling less than, we look for people who we can […]Read More Hang Around People Who Like You
Good morning SLAYER! You are the author of your own story, don’t like the story, change the narrative. New blog goes up Friday, until then…SLAY on!Read More Slay Slay
I used to agonize over what I shared and how I shared it, if I was in a large group, I would think of each person who would be there and how what I had to say might affect them or possibly hurt them by them by hearing what I had to say. I was […]Read More People Hear What They Want To Hear
I’ve talked a lot about “the facts,” and it’s the facts we need to look at and what we know to be true over what we feel, our feelings can sometimes trick us, or carry some baggage from our past, manipulate our perspective, but when we just stick to the facts we’re dealing with what […]Read More Ignoring The Facts Doesn’t Make Them Go Away
I was sitting across someone the other day who was wearing a cap that said Peaceful Warrior on it. I watched him, and he certainly did look like a warrior, he was a pretty solid guy, but he also looked grounded, and, as advertised, peaceful. It reminded me as we walk our path that when […]Read More Peaceful Warrior