Take Yourself Off The Wheel

Nothing changes if nothing changes. For years I did the same things over and over and expected different results. Like somehow, magically, things were going to work out when I was using the wrong solution, or I was going to somehow force life to go my way if I just kept repeating the same approach […]

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Good morning SLAYER! What is meant to be will always find a way. SLAY on!

Patience Is To Sit In Your Suffering

Patience is something that I never had when I was living in the dark. I wanted what I wanted and I wanted it now! If something was taking longer than expected, or just longer than I wanted, it caused me anxiety. I couldn’t let it go, I would stew and stew over it which only […]

It’s OK To Feel Out Loud

For most of my adult life I stuffed down my feelings. If I was feeling something I thought was bad or embarrassing or anything I thought put a negative light on me I wouldn’t let myself feel it. I would talk down to myself if my feelings bubbled up to the surface, and looked down […]

Celebrate Instead Of Isolate

The holiday season is here and it’s a time that may not be all that jolly for everyone. I know for myself, before I started my journey on my current path, I dreaded all holidays. It was a time that made me feel like hiding or escaping and I felt pressured to have a good […]

Don’t Let Your Mind Bully Your Body

It was in my teens that I remember starting to hate my body. I felt betrayed by it. I had been a thin athletic kid and then things started to change. I felt like things were happening in my body that I didn’t like, and what was happening was bringing unwanted attention. It was during […]

Alone In A Crowded Room

I’ve talked a lot at STATE OF SLAY about feeling different, less than, feeling awkward and anxious in social situations growing up, and into my adulthood, before walking this path. It’s a time of year when there are many social gatherings, parties and family functions and I was reminded how I used to feel alone […]

The Living Dead – Numbing Parts Of Yourself And Letting Them Die Off

For most of my life I lived my life like the living dead. I was living a life, well, going through the motions, but was numbing our stuffing down those parts of me that were too painful or I didn’t want to face. I had done that for so long that it became normal to […]

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Anger is the emotion we choose when we’re trying to avoid less comfortable feelings. New blog goes up Sunday, until then…SLAY on!

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! When you are able to be comfortable in uncertainty, infinite possibilities come into your life. New blog goes up Tuesday, until then…SLAY on!