Good morning SLAYER! Large things are made up of many small things. Celebrate the small things.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then… SLAY on!
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Every Little Thing Should Be Celebrated
We often save our celebrations for big events, or accomplishments, but what about those every day victories that get us to those big celebrations? Every day is worth celebrating, heck, most of us have made it through some pretty treacherous waters to get where we are right now, I know I have, and yet, sometimes we forget to celebrate how far we’ve come, how our day-to-day choices, decisions, or our overall mindset has changed for the better. We tend to focus on those big changes or life events instead of those little shifts each day. Many times we dismiss our hard work, or downplay what we have accomplished, never acknowledging ourselves for a job well done. It takes a lot to even recognize we need a change many times, let alone actually making them.
When I made the decision to change my life for the better most of what I had been doing to get by, and the way I had been living my life, had to be changed. That seemed really daunting, and scary. I, in the past, was someone who didn’t like change, and at times, when things were changing around me, beyond my control, I had turned to behaviors that ultimately harmed myself to cope with the feeling that my life was out of control. So, to set forth knowing I was embarking on an unknown path that was going to require me to change almost everything took some courage, but I had to trust I had been led to the path ahead for a reason and I had to trust that those I was walking with were going to help me and walk with me into this foreign land. I was encouraged to celebrate the little things, which, for me, back then, weren’t little, but even just the fact that I woke up, that I put a new routine in place that was in support of good mental health and a spiritual practice, and that I had stopped leaning on old habits that were harming me just to get by. Each day was a celebration because I had made it through, I had come from a place of wanting to die each day, so just waking up and looking forward to the day ahead was always something to celebrate, even if it was a difficult day, it was still better than where I had come from. But focusing on the victories, small or large, helped me to keep going, and it started to build my self-esteem. It also gave me a connection to others who were on a similar path, and I learned to celebrate their victories as well, sometimes even more than my own, because I knew how hard they were working and how tough the road could be. I learned compassion through taking an interest in others, and encouraging them to keep going as I celebrated along with them. Life started to look different, and instead of it being a series of horrible events, or punishment, it became full of celebrations, for me, and those around me.
We often set parameters in our lives for what we think is worthy of celebrating, and often we set those parameters higher for ourselves than those around us. What if we looked for all the ways we can celebrate ourselves today? What if we focused on our wins and not our losses? Why don’t we look at all the ways we deserve to be celebrated today, and share that joy with others as they celebrate themselves, or, perhaps, inspire them to celebrate their own. SLAY on!
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you celebrate the smaller moments in your life, acknowledging how far you’ve come or how hard you’ve worked? If yes, how do you do that? If no, why not? Do you set the bar high for what you deem important enough to celebrate? What is worthy of celebration in your life? When was the last time you celebrated you? How can you do that more? What can you celebrate in your life today? How can you do that? Each time we walk through something we struggle with, each time we make a positive change in our life, or a positive thought replaces a negative one, each time we step out of our comfort zone and reach for something new we should celebrate. Maybe there’s a celebration just for reading this today and considering it, it starts with one small step, but that step could change the rest of your life.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYERS! Your body hears everything your mind thinks.
New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYERS! There’s no weight limit on beauty.
SLAY on!
Don’t Let Your Mind Bully Your Body
It was in my teens that I first remember turning against my body.
I had been a thin, athletic kid, comfortable in my skin — and then things started to change. My body began doing things I didn’t understand and didn’t want. It started drawing attention I didn’t ask for. And instead of curiosity, I felt betrayal.
I felt like my body had turned on me.
I already carried discomfort inside myself — parts of who I was that I kept hidden — and when my body began changing, it only amplified that discomfort. I started comparing myself to everyone around me. Measuring myself against them. Finding myself lacking in every direction.
Nothing ever felt good enough.
And that’s when the spiral began — not in my body, but in my mind.
My mind started bullying my body.
When Control Becomes the Goal
Looking back now, I can see it clearly.
What I was really afraid of wasn’t my body — it was not being in control.
There were so many things in my life I felt powerless over, and my changing body felt like the final betrayal. So I did what I thought would give me control back.
I tried to stop it.
Manipulate it.
Shrink it.
Silence it.
That path led to an eating disorder — one I was lucky to recover from.
It took years to heal. Years to rebuild trust with food. Years to rebuild trust with my body. And even now, there are still days I have to stay conscious and accountable with my thinking.
What makes me sad looking back isn’t my body — it’s the hatred I had for myself.
There was never anything wrong with my body.
The Voice Was the Real Problem
I see now that the damage wasn’t physical — it was mental.
The voice in my head was cruel.
Relentless.
Unforgiving.
The more I hated myself, the louder it got.
I wanted to disappear into the crowd.
Blend in.
Not be noticed.
Not be questioned.
So I tried to control myself into invisibility.
That voice told me I was the problem.
That my body was the problem.
That I had to fix it to be acceptable.
But the truth is: my body was never the enemy.
My mind was.
Learning a New Relationship
Today, I appreciate my body.
Not because it looks a certain way —
but because of what it does for me.
It carries me.
It heals.
It protects.
It supports my life.
And while I still have days where old thoughts creep in — because healing isn’t linear — I no longer live in war with myself.
I no longer punish my body for existing.
I no longer try to control it out of fear.
I no longer define my worth by how it looks.
Health Without Hate
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel healthy.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel strong.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to care for your body.
But when self care is driven by self hatred, it becomes harm.
We are not meant to all look the same.
We are not meant to fit one mold.
We are not meant to match one standard.
Different shapes.
Different sizes.
Different structures.
Different beauty.
Every body is valid.
Changing the Relationship, Not the Reflection
Healing doesn’t start in the mirror.
It starts in the mind.
In how we speak to ourselves.
In how we interpret our reflection.
In how we define worth.
In how we measure value.
Your body doesn’t need to be fixed.
It needs to be respected.
Your Body Is Not the Problem
Your body is not your failure.
Your body is not your enemy.
Your body is not your shame.
It’s your home.
And it deserves compassion — not cruelty.
Care — not control.
Respect — not punishment.
Safety — not shame.
SLAY Reflection
Let’s reflect, SLAYER:
S: What negative thoughts do you carry about your body?
L: Where did those beliefs come from?
A: What would change if you spoke to your body with compassion instead of criticism?
Y: How can you start practicing care instead of control today?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What is one way you can start treating your body with more kindness today?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who struggles with body shame, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Sometimes you face difficulties not because you’re doing something wrong, but because you are doing something right.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then… SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Everything you don’t know is something you can learn.
New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Let your intention be known, do the footwork, and trust where you are being lead.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then… SLAY on!
When Things Seem To Be Falling Apart, They May Be Falling Together
I was reminded yesterday, thanks to Facebook memories, which aren’t always a good thing, but yesterday was a good one, that one year ago yesterday my life changed, a change for the better, and a change that has brought me to this place I am today, gratefully so. Personally, a year go, I was not in a good place, a place that did not serve me, make me happy, or, was good for my spirit, I knew I needed to make a change, and had known for a while, but wasn’t sure what the next step was. An opportunity came, out of the blue, and I jumped at it, not knowing what was waiting for me on the other side. The reasons I thought the opportunity was going to be a good one turned out not to be what I received from it at all, what I received was something better, and unexpected. But it got me thinking today about this topic, when things seem like they’re falling apart, they may be falling together. We only know what we know, which, in the big picture, is very little, but we work with the knowledge we have each day to make the best choices we can. That’s all we can do. Many times we get caught up trying to future surf, trying to imagine or wish for what we would like happen when we should be focusing on what we can change in our present lives to possibly get to that place, or a better place for us. When things don’t go as we would like, or had expected, we can fall into depression, anxiety or fear and let the disappointment of what we had thought our lives, relationship or situation was going to be consume us allowing the negative self-talk to creep in telling us we’re stuck, alone or don’t deserve better, but what we should really be doing is accepting what is not meant to be and being open to what is next.
In my experience, life, very often, doesn’t go as planned, but, it always goes as it is meant to. The highs and especially the lows have all been designed for a reason, and each experience has gotten me right here where I am today. Many times those things I thought I needed or wanted, when I look back, likely saved me from heartache or a situation that may have ultimately lead me down some dark roads. But, I’ve found, when I’ve opened my heart, and asked for direction, told the universe that I am ready for change, ready for new things and ready to take action, it appears. Now, that’s not to say the sky is going to open up revealing the secrets to life, but, when we are open, the signs, the people, the opportunities do come, but we have to make sure that we don’t grab for the same ones we have before and take a chance on something new, something different if we want to see change in our lives. A wise friend used to say to me, “the universe will give us the same present over and over, but in different wrappings, just to see if we’ve learned our lesson or, really mean we’re ready for change,” and that was true for me, probably for you too. How many times have we found ourselves in a place and said, “how did I get here again,” the wrapping may have fooled us and we got the same present we had already unwrapped many times. I try to look for those signs, things that I recognize from past situations that didn’t work or got to me a place I didn’t like, but sometimes we get fooled and tricked into believing that something, or someone, are different. So, when things start to fall apart, start to look at things as they are, not how we think they may be, or want them to be, for what the facts are, and see if there may be a reason for them falling apart.
When I look back over the past year, I had no idea what this weekend was going to mean to me a year later, I just took the opportunity that was in front of me and trusted I was being directed to where I needed to be, and I trusted that it was a place where I could let my heart be open and that it was safe, as a result, something beautiful happened that weekend, something unexpected and my life shifted.
When things don’t seem to be going your way, when relationships are ending or when you just don’t seem to be getting anywhere in your pursuit of things, instead of focusing on what may not be working, ask yourself why it may not working and what it may be showing you, what you perceive as the biggest disaster may just bring you to your greatest achievement, if you let go of what you think things should be and trust where you are being lead. SLAY on!
SLAY OF THE DAY: When things appear to be falling apart do you fall into despair or trust that you are being led to something new? Have there been examples in your life when things looked to be falling apart but were actually falling together? What’s an example. When you look back on your life do see examples of this happening that you may not have thought were examples of this? Do you look for new opportunities when something ends or falls apart, or do you tend to follow the same patterns and find yourself in the same places over and over? What patterns do you see in your life that you could break for a different or better result? Look for those places SLAYER, to make changes, trust that you are being given what you need to make those changes, and also look for places that may look different, but may be places you’ve already been that didn’t work. Life is a journey, we are here to learn, but ultimately we are given the direction to get to where we are meant to be.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it, keep fighting, always.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then… SLAY on!
