Examine What You Tolerate

I used to tolerate a lot. From myself, and from those around me. Back then I would rather just let things slide than address something that was bothering me, or even harming me. Either I just didn’t want to make waves, or look bad, or, I was just too mentally exhausted to take it on. […]

No One Can Drive You Crazy Unless You Give Them The Keys

We often let people get under our skin. We let them derail our day, or in extreme cases, large parts of our lives, feeling consumed by someone else’s actions and behaviors. But they can’t do that if we don’t give them the keys and let them drive. In the past, I often thought I was […]

From Victim To Victor

Before walking this path I thought of myself as of victim. I felt I was a victim of those around and me and a victim of life. I truly believed that everything and everyone was conspiring to get me. And, my disease told me that I deserved it. I used the victim label like a […]

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Don’t let a bad situation change your inner goodness. New blog goes up Tuesday, until then… SLAY on!

Someone Doesn’t Need To Feel Sorry For You To Love You

How often, when we meet someone new, do we sit them down and share all of the terrible events of our past, how we were wronged, times we were a victim and just how difficult live has been for us thus far? Those stories or events from our past have become our narrative and what […]

It’s Got To Me To Set It Free

I was with a group of ladies yesterday who I regularly see and the topic of resentments came up. Always a crowd pleaser. We had talked about things that may have happened to us as children. As an adult I’ve learned to always look for my part when I am disturbed, angry or have a […]

Don’t Blame A Clown For Acting Like A Clown If You Keep Going To The Circus

I can certainly relate to this, I mean I typically I stay away from clowns, but with people in my life. Before walking this path I operated by a lot of magical thinking. I would think that just by hoping someone or something would change it would, and most times I would be disappointed or […]

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Life is 10% of what happens to you, and 90% of you react to it. SLAY on!

Your Problem Isn’t The Problem, It’s Your Reaction To The Problem

There are so many things in life we have no control over, but what we always have control over is our reaction to life. Before stepping on this path I always played the victim, I looked at life as something that was happening to me, and, felt I was always on the wrong side of […]

Walk Up From The Basement

We forget sometimes that we have the power to walk away from a situation that no longer serves us, or maybe never did. We don’t have to stay down in the basement. In the dark. We can walk up those stairs and live the life we want, have dreamed of, and truly deserve. We sometimes […]