Good morning SLAYERS! You might feel worthless to one person, and priceless to another. Know your worth.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then… SLAY on!
Self Help
When You See Your Worth You Find It Harder To Stay Around Those Who Don’t
We are what we allow.
And when we allow people to treat us as if we’re not worthy—when we accept behavior that belittles us or dims our light—we start to believe we deserve it.
But our worth isn’t something other people get to define. It doesn’t come from approval, status, or success. It comes from within. From who we are, what we value, and how we show up in the world. True worth is self-sourced. And once we see it clearly, it becomes much harder to stay around people who don’t.
Before I Knew My Worth
When I was living in the dark, I didn’t believe I had any worth.
I made choices that reflected that belief. I tolerated disrespect. I spoke to myself with cruelty. I stayed in environments that diminished me. I confused success with self-worth and chased external validation to feel like I mattered. And when I didn’t get it, the old narrative played on a loop: You’re not good enough.
I lived like someone who had no value—because I didn’t believe I did.
It wasn’t until I stepped onto the path of recovery that I started to challenge that story. At first, I couldn’t even look in the mirror. I couldn’t say, “I love you” to myself. The words got stuck in my throat.
But slowly, with support from others who had been there, I started to find glimmers of self-worth. I made a list of what I liked about myself. On days when that felt impossible, I wrote down the opposite of the harsh thoughts I was thinking—and used that as my starting point.
Building from Within
I did the work. I stayed the course. And slowly, something shifted.
Acts of kindness, both given and received, started to restore me. I gave back where I could. I surrounded myself with people who saw me clearly. I honored the little girl inside me who had never felt safe, and promised her I wouldn’t abandon her again.
With each step, my self-worth grew.
And as it did, my tolerance shrank.
I no longer accepted treatment that chipped away at my light. I no longer stayed in rooms where I felt unseen. I started seeking out people who inspired me, who respected themselves, and who respected me too. Because once you see your own worth, you can’t unsee it—and you won’t settle for less.
Worth Doesn’t Wait for Permission
You don’t have to earn your worth. You don’t have to prove it. You just have to see it—and then live like it matters.
Surround yourself with people who reflect that truth back to you. And when you feel yourself dimming to fit into a space that doesn’t honor you, step back and ask: Is this what I deserve? Or am I shrinking to make someone else comfortable?
You have value just as you are. The right people will recognize it. But most importantly: you will.
SLAY on.
SLAY Reflection: Where Are You Honoring Your Worth?
- Do you believe you have worth? If not, where did that belief come from?
- Are you surrounding yourself with people who reflect your worth—or diminish it?
- What’s one thing you love about yourself? Say it out loud. Write it down.
- Have you ever tolerated behavior that made you feel small? Why?
- What’s one way you can stand in your worth today?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way you’ve reclaimed your worth—and how did it change what (or who) you allowed in your life?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s forgotten how worthy they are, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a reminder to rise.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Create your own opportunities.
New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Don’t trip over what’s behind you.
SLAY on!
No One Ever Injured Their Eyesight Looking At The Brightside
There is always a bright side. Sometimes, it may feel impossible to find—but it’s there if we look for it. Often, we don’t see it until later, when hindsight reveals that not getting what we thought we wanted brought something even better.
But here’s the thing: when we actively choose to seek out the good, the positive, the light—it trains our minds to keep looking. And eventually, it becomes second nature.
We are bombarded by fear and negativity every day. So why not choose the opposite? Why not be intentional about focusing on what’s working, what’s good, and what’s worth celebrating?
How I Found the Bright Side
Before I began walking this path, I lived in a negative world—one fueled by fear, shame, and pain.
The light didn’t last long in those days. I had fleeting moments of brightness, but the clouds of my own mind would roll in and dim it. I always defaulted to the worst-case scenario, and even when something good happened, I’d immediately brace for when it would be taken away.
My hope lived in superficial things—external markers I clung to like a lifeline. If something bright appeared, it was often a distraction rather than a shift. And because it wasn’t rooted in anything lasting, it never stuck around.
Recovery changed that. It taught me to start with gratitude. To look for moments of light. And when I couldn’t feel it? To write it down anyway. Even on my darkest days, I could find one thing. A kind word. A warm cup of coffee. A song I loved. Those small sparks reminded me that light is always there—we just have to invite it in.
Train Your Eyes to See the Light
Every day, we’re given a choice: focus on the fear or look for the light.
And as someone who has lived in both places, I can tell you—choosing the light is where everything changes.
It’s not about pretending things are perfect. It’s about deciding not to let the darkness win. It’s choosing to see that yes, things may be hard—but they’re not only hard.
The more we practice gratitude and look for the good, the more it shows up. That’s not magic—that’s mindset. And it’s powerful.
Be someone who looks for the bright side. And even better? Be someone who becomes the bright side for someone else.
Our light shines the brightest when we share it.
SLAY on.
SLAY Reflection: What Are You Choosing to See?
- Do you tend to focus on the negative or look for the light? What habits shape that tendency?
- Was there a time in your life when you struggled to find anything good? How did that affect your day-to-day experience?
- What small moments of light have shown up for you recently? Did you notice them?
- Has something you once saw as a disappointment turned out to be a blessing?
- What could shift in your life if you committed to seeing the bright side—just once a day?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way you’re choosing the bright side today—even when it would be easier to stay in the dark?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who needs a little light right now, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a reminder that it’s still there—waiting to be seen.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! This present moment is all we have.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then… SLAY on!
How Is Your Now?
Fear can show up in sneaky ways. It did just the other day—while talking with a group of women, someone brought up fear, and we all shifted in our seats.
There’s a lot of uncertainty in the world right now. And with uncertainty often comes fear. But most fear doesn’t live in the present—it lives in the past or the future. That’s what makes it so tricky. It takes us out of the only place where we have power: the now.
When I feel fear creeping in—and I have, especially recently—I bring myself back to the present. I ground myself in gratitude. I focus on my breath. I ask: How is my now?
Because right now, in this moment, I’m okay.
Living Outside the Now
Before I began walking this path, I didn’t live in the now. I lived everywhere but here. I obsessed over what had already happened or worried about what might come next. I was spinning—and because I wasn’t grounded in the present, I couldn’t take meaningful action.
My life became unmanageable. Fear ran the show. And instead of facing what was in front of me, I avoided it. I let things slide. I convinced myself that if I ignored the chaos long enough, it might resolve itself. Spoiler: it didn’t.
Eventually, the only way forward was through. I had to stop hiding from the now and start making peace with it. Slowly, the present stopped feeling like a battlefield and started becoming a place of peace—a space where I could reflect, reset, and realign.
The more I committed to living in the now, the less power fear had over me. It still visits, of course. But today, I don’t let it drive. I stay focused on the moment—and when I do, I can breathe again.
Return to What’s in Front of You
We don’t know what tomorrow holds. We can’t change what’s already happened. But we can choose how we show up today.
Even when life feels uncertain, we can find clarity by focusing on what’s in front of us. One step. One breath. One moment at a time.
This is how we quiet the fear. This is how we get grounded.
And if the now doesn’t feel great? That’s okay. The present is still the place where change can happen. We get to respond differently. We get to choose a new direction.
Ask yourself: How is my now? And if you don’t like the answer, know that this is the best place to begin again.
SLAY on.
SLAY Reflection: How Is Your Now?
- Do you often get pulled into the past or future? How does that impact your emotional state?
- What role does fear play in your life when you’re not present?
- How do you feel when you manage to stay grounded in the now?
- What tools or habits help you return to the present moment?
- If today feels heavy, what’s one thing you can do right now to lighten the load?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way you’re bringing yourself back to the now when fear tries to take over?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s stuck in fear or uncertainty, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a moment of presence to find our power again.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYERS! When let go you go you create a space for something better.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then… SLAY on!
The Stories From Our Past
Before I began my recovery journey, I lived by stories that weren’t mine. I believed I was different. Less-than. Unworthy of good things. And I made decisions from that place—choosing people and situations that reinforced the story I was already telling myself.
Even the small things stuck. A dismissive comment. A look. A joke that hit too close to home. I internalized those moments and built my identity around them. And as I kept repeating those stories to myself, I gave them power. I let them define me.
When I finally sought help for my mental health, one of the first exercises I was given was to write down all the things I believed about myself. Most were negative. Then came the harder part: asking if those things were actually true.
It turned out, most of them weren’t. They were stories I had inherited. And I had the power to release them.
Telling a New Story
Doing the work—challenging those false beliefs—wasn’t easy. But with time, support, and a lot of self-reflection, I began to rewrite the script.
I started telling myself the truth.
That I’m capable. That I’m worthy. That I’m more than enough.
The stories from my past didn’t disappear. But they no longer control me. Today, I use them as tools. When those old narratives resurface, I pause. I ask myself: Is this true? Is this helping me grow? Is this a story I want to keep?
And if the answer is no, I let it go.
Instead, I choose to tell stories of healing. Of courage. Of growth. I choose relationships that reflect the truth of who I am, not the lies I once believed.
You get to choose your story, too.
SLAY on.
SLAY Reflection: What Story Are You Living?
- Are you holding onto any stories from childhood that no longer serve you?
- Who or what shaped those beliefs—and are they actually true?
- What have those stories cost you in your adult life?
- What’s one belief you could rewrite today?
- What story would you rather live—and what’s one small step you can take toward it?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one story from your past you’re ready to rewrite?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s still living by an old story that isn’t serving them, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a reminder that we’re the ones holding the pen.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Don’t call it a dream, call it a plan.
New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!
