Good morning SLAYER! Are you distracted by the distraction of your distraction? Make sure you’re not trying to use outside things for an inside job.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then…SLAY on!
Inspiration
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Once you choose hope, anything is possible.
New blog goes up Friday, until then…SLAY on!
Avoid Slippery Places
As we walk our own path, working to be our best selves, giving back to others, and challenging ourselves to grow and move forward, we can sometimes hit a slippery patch if we’re not paying attention to where we’re going. Those slippery patches can be different for all of us, depending on what we’re not wanting to slip back to. For an alcoholic it could be a bar or social situation that we used to drink at, for a gambler it could be a casino, for a overeater it can be passing by our favorite bakery, and it can be as simple as engaging with family and friends. Anyone, or anything, that triggers us to our old way of thinking can cause us to slide back to our old ways, if we’re not careful.
For me, those emotional places are the trickiest, as specific situations or actions can cause me to recoil, reminding me of someone or something from my past. They can, at times, seemingly, come out of nowhere, and then BAM, they’re right in my face, and it’s in those moments when I have to make a choice, to do what I’ve always done, or to make a different and better choice than I used to. Those slippery places are much more difficult for me than any physical place, or object, that may remind me of my past. And, I also have to ask myself honestly, if I sought out a specific situation because it’s one I know, even if it wasn’t done consciously. I would have to say no, today, but the universe has a way to testing us, and disguising otherwise different looking situations and then we realize they are not. For me, it’s important to acknowledge what my part may be in finding myself there, and if there were no warning signs or self-sabotage, asking why the universe has chosen to place me there and what am I there to learn. You see, just because we find ourselves in a similar situation as we have before, doesn’t mean it’s necessarily bad for us, it may be just another opportunity to do things better than we have before and to move past that issue or pain from our past and finally let it go. It takes some sleuth work to look at it for what it is, and a lot of honesty, but if we walk our new path with awareness of who we are today, and where we don’t want to go again, most things should be easy to navigate through, some are a little more difficult to identify, which is why it always helps to have some good sounding boards in our lives, those people who are like us, and can help us walk through those murky waters.
It is up to us to stay away from the slippery places in our lives, and when we find ourselves there, to recognize them and safely walk ourselves through them. Life is full of slippery places, but it’s important to stay firmly on our path and continue to make decisions and choices that honor who we are today and the way of life we are currently living. There is nothing waiting for us in the past, it has already happened, and hopefully, taught us what we need to know today and in the future, nothing can be gained by sliding back. Watch your steps today and make sure you’re not unnecessarily tempting yourself by walking too close to your old way of life. SLAY on!
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you tempt yourself by putting yourself in old situations or with triggers from your past? Why do you do this? If not, why do you think you’ve stopped? Do you sometimes find yourself in situations that are the same or remind you of your past? How do you think you get there? Do you think you seek out those situations? Or, do you think that sometimes those situations look different to start and the universe has disguised them as something they are not to see if you’ve moved past who you were before? What situations today do you avoid to live a healthier and happier life? How did you overcome them? What can you still work on to avoid slipping back? We naturally do tend to look for situations we are familiar with, but it is up to us to not engage in those activities, or those people, who pull us back to who we used to be, we must be diligent about our path today and protecting it from the those slippery places that can cause us to fall.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Our challenges don’t define us, our actions do.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then…SLAY on!
We Become What We Do
Before walking this path I had become someone I wasn’t very proud of. It happened over time, each time I crossed a line I said I never would I became someone darker, more ashamed, and further away from who I truly was, and the more I made poor choices and didn’t honor my true self the easier it became to continue down that path and step all over the me that was dying inside. I didn’t start out a bad person, but I kept making a series of bad choices that lead me to a place of such emptiness and darkness I doubted I could ever find my way back. But I could, we all can. We are what we do, our actions determine who we are and who we become, talk is just that, talk, it doesn’t cause any change, it’s the action we take that can change us, either for the good, or bad.
Making a commitment to change and to not only reclaim who I knew, but find out who I truly was, I was told that my actions would determine who I would turn out to be. Thinking I was a horrible human, and being new on the path of positive thinking and actions, I wasn’t sure that I could change things around, I felt like it was a steep climb back, but I set out to do what was suggested, and I was told I only had to do what I could each day, and even if it was only one thing, that alone was enough to set me on a different path. I had to really focus on the good in my life, and even when it was hard to find it to start, I would find at least one thing and focus on that. I, first and foremost, made a commitment to be accountable, to myself, and to those in my life. If I made a commitment I had to stick to it, and if I couldn’t I had to reach out within a reasonable time and explain why I wasn’t able to follow through. That in itself kept me honest, and being honest was a big first step for someone who had been living her whole life lying to herself and everyone around her. Accountability kept me transparent, and even though I felt exposed at first, it didn’t allow me to slip back to me old nefarious ways, and if I did manage to briefly, it didn’t allow me to stay there. From there I started to make a point to be thoughtful, to find compassion for others, to not judge those around me, and myself, to find forgiveness, to be kind, and the more I practiced these actions the more I became those things, and, the more my old actions didn’t feel good, or like me anymore.
Without even realizing it, what we do is what we become, it can happen so seamlessly we don’t even realize it’s happening, but if we don’t like who we are, or where we find ourselves, we have the power to change that. Focus on the good, focus on the attributes you had or want to have and act in a way that honors those attributes and you. Even the smallest act can impact us in a big way when we change our way of thinking and stop acting out in a way that harms us and those around us. Finding the love in our hearts and letting that lead us to the us we are meant to be, the us that is our best selves and the us we can share with others and encourage them to be their best selves on their path. SLAY on!
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you see how your actions can affect who you become? How have your actions affected who you are today? What are you most proud of? What would you like to change? What action can you take today to change who you’ve become? Have you already changed who you are in a positive way? How so? We have the power to become whomever we want to be, or whomever we are meant to be just by changing our actions. Set out today to be your best self and taking action that supports that and allows you to shine.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Every time you’re able to find the humor in a situation, you win.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then…SLAY on!
Laughter: A Sign Of Good Health
When I first stepped onto my healing path, laughter felt impossible.
There was nothing funny about where I found myself. Emotionally, physically, spiritually I was exhausted. My life felt fragile. Every moment felt heavy. I was focused on survival, not joy.
So when I began seeking support from others who had walked similar roads, one thing surprised me.
They laughed.
Not in denial. Not in avoidance. Real laughter. Honest laughter. Healing laughter.
At first, I did not understand it. How could someone laugh about struggles, mistakes, pain, or dark seasons? But slowly I began to realize something powerful.
Laughter was not dismissing the pain.
It was proof they had moved through it.
And that realization gave me hope.
The Healing Power Of Humor
My mom has always said, “If I lose my sense of humor, I lose everything.”
She said it through illness, discomfort, uncertainty, and some very difficult seasons. Watching her hold onto humor even in pain showed me that laughter is not about circumstances. It is about resilience.
When I began my own recovery, I held onto that wisdom. The work ahead of me was serious. I had to face truths, take responsibility, and learn new ways of living. But I did not have to take myself so seriously all the time.
That distinction changed everything.
Humor did not erase the work. It helped me carry it.
And sometimes, laughter was the only light available in an otherwise heavy day.
When Laughter Becomes A Bridge
Something unexpected happened as my healing progressed.
I began laughing with others who had similar experiences.
We laughed about things that once felt devastating. Not because they were trivial, but because we had survived them. Laughter became a shared language of understanding. It created connection, compassion, and perspective.
There is something incredibly bonding about laughing with someone who truly understands your journey. It reminds you that you are not alone. It transforms isolation into community.
And that connection is powerful medicine.
Laughter does not isolate. It invites.
The Difference Between Healing Humor And Hiding Humor
I also had to learn an important distinction.
For years I had used humor as armor. I deflected serious conversations. I made jokes instead of admitting pain. I laughed things off rather than facing them.
That kind of humor keeps healing at a distance.
True healing laughter feels different. It comes from humility, acceptance, and growth. It does not belittle yourself or others. It does not minimize reality. It simply allows joy to exist alongside truth.
Once I understood that, laughter stopped being a shield and became a source of strength.
And that shift made all the difference.
Perspective Changes Everything
Looking back now, some of the choices I made during difficult periods honestly make me laugh.
At the time, I justified everything. I believed I was coping, surviving, protecting myself. But hindsight brings clarity. And sometimes, clarity brings humor.
Not mocking. Not shame.
Perspective.
Being able to laugh at past versions of myself means I have grown. It means I am no longer stuck there. It means healing happened.
And that is something worth smiling about.
Why Laughter Supports Mental And Emotional Health
There is actual science behind this too.
Laughter reduces stress hormones, increases endorphins, supports immune function, and improves emotional regulation. It relaxes the body, shifts perspective, and enhances connection with others.
But beyond biology, laughter signals something deeper.
Hope.
When you can laugh again, even gently, it often means healing has begun.
It means you are reconnecting with life.
And that is powerful.
Finding Light In Dark Seasons
There were days when finding humor felt impossible. Those days happen to everyone. Healing is not linear, and laughter does not mean everything is perfect.
Sometimes it just means you found one small moment of light.
One memory. One conversation. One silly observation. One unexpected smile.
And sometimes that small moment is enough to carry you forward.
Laughter does not deny hardship.
It coexists with it.
And often, it helps transform it.
SLAY Reflection
Let’s reflect, SLAYER:
S: When was the last time you laughed freely, and how did it make you feel afterward?
L: Do you ever use humor to hide how you really feel instead of expressing it honestly?
A: What difficult moment from your past can you now look at with compassion or even gentle humor?
Y: How could inviting more lightness into your life support your healing and emotional health right now?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
How has laughter helped you heal, cope, or find perspective during a difficult season?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who could use a reminder that joy can exist alongside struggle, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! The only thing you can change is yourself, but that can change everything.
New blog goes up Friday, until then…SLAY on!
Be The Attitude You Want To Be Around
We’ve all felt it—that lift you get from someone’s positive energy. The kind of vibe that makes a room feel warmer, lighter, better. We seek it out, gravitate toward it, and sometimes, we depend on it. But here’s a truth that changed everything for me:
Instead of waiting to be around the energy you want, be it.
Don’t get me wrong—we need good people in our lives. Community, support, and encouragement are vital. But real change happens when you stop outsourcing your attitude—and start showing up as the person you wish you could find.
I Wasn’t Always That Person
When I was deep in my darkness, I avoided positive people. They annoyed me. I didn’t trust their joy. I assumed it was fake. And, if I’m being honest, I didn’t want them to see the way I was living.
But beneath all that judgment was jealousy.
I admired them. I just didn’t believe I could ever be like them.
Recovery taught me otherwise.
It showed me that joy can be genuine. That light isn’t fake—it’s earned. And I could earn it, too.
So I made a promise to myself: I would become the person I wanted to be around.
Not overnight. But one day at a time.
Give What You Wish to Get
In the beginning, I didn’t feel like I had much to offer. I was still shaky, still figuring it out. But someone reminded me:
Even if you’re just a few steps in, you’ve got something to share.
Because someone else is just starting out. And to them, you might look like a mile ahead.
So I showed up. I told the truth. I dropped the act and chose transparency. And little by little, I built trust in myself by being accountable, being honest, and shifting from asking, “What can I get?” to “What can I give?”
And I found that even on my worst days, if I could help someone else, it helped me too.
Sometimes, two bad days colliding can spark one good one.
Attitude Is Energy
Gratitude was a big part of this shift. When I started focusing on what I had instead of what I lacked, everything changed.
Even the hard things didn’t feel impossible anymore—because I wasn’t tackling them alone. I learned to ask for help. That was huge for me.
Asking for help didn’t make me weak. It made me real.
And in asking, I often gave someone else the gift of showing up. We got closer. We built something.
Because we all need help sometimes.
Become the Energy You Admire
Think about the attitudes you’re drawn to. What do you admire in others? What kind of energy lifts you up?
Now ask yourself:
What if that’s already inside of me?
What if the very thing you’re craving is something you’re meant to cultivate and share?
Start there. Be that. You might just find your truest self waiting on the other side.
SLAY Reflection
Ask yourself:
- What attitude or energy am I most drawn to?
- Do I embody that energy—or just chase it in others?
- What’s stopping me from becoming that kind of person?
- How can I use gratitude and service to shift my own energy?
- What’s one small step I can take today to be the vibe I want to be around?
S – L – A – Y
S: See the energy you admire in others.
L: Listen to how your own attitude shows up.
A: Act in alignment with the energy you want to attract.
Y: Yield to your inner strength—it’s always been there.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s the attitude you want to be around—and how are you choosing to embody it in your own life?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s working on becoming their best self, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! A dangerous place to live is in a state of “I’ve always done it this way.” When going back doesn’t interest you anymore, you’re doing something right.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then…SLAY on!
