It’s true we can feel someone else’s energy, we can be lifted up by someone else’s excitement, enthusiasm and positivity, and we tend to go looking for a certain energy or attitudes to help us feel the way we want to feel. But what if we focused on being that attitude we want to be around instead of relying on people to do that for us? Now, don’t get me wrong, there is certainly nothing wrong with spending time with people who make us feel good and encourage us, but it’s really up to us to also find that in ourselves, and, perhaps lift someone else up by our attitude.
When I was living in my darkness, I stayed away from positive people. I was jealous of them, I didn’t trust them, and I didn’t want them to see how I was living my life. I watched them, and, I probably wouldn’t have admitted it at the time, but I admired them, but then my illness would kick in and tell me they were all faking it and that it wasn’t real. When I set myself on a path of recovery I learned that it was not fake, there were people out there who genuinely happy, positive, inspirational people. I had to learn to become who and what I wanted to be around. It seemed like I was in a far off place from becoming that, but all I could do was live each day to the best of my ability and do things that built up trust in myself through my accountability. I made a commitment to myself to be transparent, to stop lying and hiding my thoughts and actions and to change my focus from seeing what I can get out of life to what I can give. At the start I didn’t feel I had much to give, but I was wrong. Even as I was just a beginner on this journey, I was reminded that someone may be on their first day, so even if I was only a few weeks in, to them, I looked like I had been on my path for a long time. We always have something to give, to share, even on our worst day, in fact when we do share ourselves on our worst days, they typically turn into good days as we managed to get out of our own heads for a while and we help someone else on their worst day. It’s almost like those two bad days cancel each other out. As I continued to find my self-confidence and self-love I started to think about what and who I wanted to be, myself, not just who I wanted to be around, I had already surrounded myself with people who were on the same path I was, so now it was up to me to step up and be like those people I admired and to be the woman I knew I could be and could be proud of.
Much of that change in attitude came from gratitude, it came from focusing on what I was grateful for each day, that thinking kept me in the light and allowed me to put those things that challenged me into perspective. Nothing was impossible if I tackled it from a grateful place, asking for help when needed, even that was new, asking for help. I had to learn on this path that asking for help was not a burden, it did not make me weak, in fact, many times, asking for help also helped the other person, or brought the two of us closer to together. Everyone needs help at times, no one can do it alone.
Think about who you want to be, what attitude or attributes you look for in others, or want to be around, and be those things, there must be a reason you are drawn to them, and it may just be that you have them in you already, you just have to access them. Go find them, and you may just find your true self. SLAY on!
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you tend to look for people who have a certain attitude? What do you look for? Do you feel you have this same attitude? If not, why? How can you get it? If you are living in the attitude you want to be around, what attitude is that? Is this something you’ve had to work for, or have you always had it? If you’ve had to work for it, how did you go about attaining it? When we live as your true selves, our energy, love and positivity radiate from us, attracting others like us, and allowing us to share who we are with others.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you