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The Days That Test Your Kindness

It’s easy to be patient when life feels light.
But when you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, or heavy-hearted—
that’s when self-compassion becomes essential.

Low days don’t mean you’ve lost your strength.
They mean you’re human.

Grace isn’t something you earn;
it’s something you extend to yourself
when the world feels too loud
and your energy runs thin.

Rest. Recenter. Remember who you are
beyond what today feels like.

This is your reminder to treat yourself gently
while you find your way back to center.

Slay on.

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Let the kindness in and allow yourself to be loved.

New blog goes up Sunday, until then… SLAY on!
Accepting Kindness

Accepting Kindness

We’re often quick to share kindness—offering help, lending an ear, giving generously. But receiving it? That’s where many of us stumble. We second-guess it. We deflect. We tell ourselves we haven’t earned it, that we’re not worthy. But here’s the truth: kindness isn’t something we have to earn. It’s something we all deserve—and learning to receive it is just as powerful as learning to give it.


The Tug-of-War of Worth

Before I found the path I’m on now, I wasn’t big on giving kindness freely—and when I did, it was usually with strings attached. I wanted something in return, even if it was just validation. But I also believed I didn’t deserve kindness in return. There was a constant tug-of-war in my head: I wanted more kindness in my life, but I didn’t think I was worthy of it.

As I began healing, I was encouraged to start small. Ask someone how their day was and really listen. Hold space. Offer support. Those were simple acts I could give. But when it came to receiving kindness—from compliments to genuine help—I didn’t know what to do with it. A friend told me something that changed my thinking: “If you don’t accept someone’s kindness, you’re rejecting their intention. You’re telling them they’re wrong for thinking you deserve it.”

That hit me. Hard.


Receiving Is Also Giving

So I started saying thank you. Even when it made me uncomfortable. Even when my inner critic screamed I hadn’t earned it. And you know what happened? I started to believe it. I started to see myself through the eyes of those offering kindness. And I realized: by receiving their gift, I was giving something back. I was honoring their choice to give. I was sharing a moment of connection.

Today, I practice both giving and receiving kindness. And I understand that kindness is a circle—it flows. When we shut it down, we stop the flow for everyone. But when we receive it, we keep it moving.

Let it in. Say thank you. Accept the gift. You deserve it.

SLAY on.


SLAY Reflection: Let the Kindness In

  • Do you believe you deserve kindness? Why or why not?
  • How do you show kindness to others? How do you feel when you do?
  • How do you react when someone offers you kindness?
  • What stories or beliefs might be blocking you from receiving?
  • What would it look like to accept kindness today—without guilt, without deflection?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way you can practice receiving kindness today?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who struggles to accept support, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a gentle reminder that we’re worthy.

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Use your voice for kindness, your ears for compassion, your hands for charity, your mind for truth, and your heart for love.

SLAY on!

Always Leave People

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Open Your mind before you open your mouth.

SLAY on!

Not Really Listening

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! There are two ways of spreading light: be the candle or the mirror reflecting it’s light.

New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!

State Of Slay Kindness Someone

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Kindness, somebody who brings warmth and value to somebody with no expectation of return.

SLAY on!

State Of Slay Kindness

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! One word can change someone’s entire day.

SLAY on!

State Of Slay Good People

Smize, It Might Just Change Your Life

For most of my adult life, I believed that strength meant hiding my feelings. But during these times, when our faces are hidden behind masks, I’ve realized just how much we rely on simple gestures to connect. I used to share smiles freely, but now, I’ve had to get creative.

It reminded me of Tyra Banks and her famous “smize”—smiling with your eyes. I chuckled, thinking how those skills could come in handy today. While it might seem silly, that little spark of connection through our eyes can make a big difference, especially when we feel disconnected from one another.


Small Gestures, Big Impact
I’ve always believed in the power of simple acts—saying thank you, sharing a smile, letting someone know they’re seen. But with masks and distancing, it takes extra effort. And that effort makes it even more meaningful.

Now, I find myself waving, giving a thumbs-up, or sharing a kind word. These small acts might seem insignificant, but they create a ripple effect of compassion. When we step out of our own discomfort to connect with others, it not only lifts their spirits but ours too.


From Isolation to Connection
When I was living in the dark, I wanted to hide from the world. I didn’t want anyone to see my pain. I avoided interaction, kept my head down, and hurried through my days. But on my path to healing, I was encouraged to do the opposite—to look up, to smile, to reach out.

At first, it felt forced and uncomfortable. My anxiety spiked. I thought I had nothing to offer. But I was told to “act as if” I believed I did. And slowly, as I made the effort to smile, to thank someone, to ask how their day was, something shifted. People responded with warmth and gratitude. I began to feel connected, and my anxiety eased.


A Simple Connection Matters
The truth is, we don’t always know what others are going through. A smile, a kind word, or even a “smize” might be the only positive interaction someone has that day. It might be the thing that lifts their spirits or reminds them they’re not alone.

Especially now, when the world feels uncertain and heavy, these small acts of kindness carry weight. They remind us that we’re in this together. Even a simple acknowledgment—a wave, a nod, a smile through the eyes—can be a beacon of light in someone’s day.


SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise

  • Do you go out of your way to let people know they matter while you’re out?

  • How do you do that?

  • What can you do to do more?

  • How have people done that with you? Have you appreciated it?

  • How did that make you feel?

  • What can you do today to let someone know they matter?

  • How is that different than how you would usually do it?

We all have the power to make someone’s day brighter. And by doing so, we make our own days a little brighter too. Smize on, SLAYER.


Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one small act of kindness you’ll try today to brighten someone’s day?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s inspire each other with simple ways to stay connected.

And if you know someone who needs a little light today, send this to them.
Sometimes, a simple gesture reminds us we’re not alone.

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Reset. Readjust. Restart. Refocus. As many times as you need to.

SLAY on!

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