Good morning SLAYER! Your day is not ruined. Your world is not over. Take a deep breath and start over.
New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!
State Of Slay
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Reset. Readjust. Restart. Refocus. As many times as you need to.
SLAY on!
You Can Start Your Day Over At Any Time
Even when we wake up with the best intentions—determined not to let the world, our own mood, or the actions of others throw us off course—things can still derail. Maybe a negative thought creeps in, or an unexpected challenge throws us for a loop, and just like that, our good day starts spiraling. It’s easy to let it snowball into frustration or defeat.
But here’s the thing: we always have the power to reset.
No matter how far off track things feel, we can hit pause, regroup, and start fresh.
I like to joke that when technology stops working, my go-to solution is to “plug it out.” Unplugging and reconnecting works wonders for electronics—and it works for us too. When in doubt, take a deep breath, step back, and give yourself a fresh start.
From All or Nothing to Progress Over Perfection
When I was living in the dark, I was trapped by an all-or-nothing mindset. I’d start my day determined to be positive, but as soon as something went wrong—or as soon as negative thoughts piled up—I’d throw in the towel. One setback, and I’d tell myself the whole day was ruined.
What I didn’t realize was that I was giving away my power. My day didn’t have to be derailed just because I’d made a mistake or things weren’t perfect. When I began to embrace this path of growth and self-love, I learned to see each setback as an opportunity to learn.
Instead of beating myself up, I’d ask: What can I do differently next time?
I practiced gratitude, wrote down positive affirmations, and even carried a list of things I was thankful for in my pocket to remind me that I could always choose to see things differently. And when all else failed, I’d reach out to help someone else—because getting out of my own head and being of service always helped me reset.
A Reset is Always Within Reach
It’s easy to let a bad moment hijack our whole day. But we don’t have to let it.
We have the power to stop, breathe, and start over at any moment.
You are not a victim of your thoughts or circumstances.
You are not bound by your old patterns.
You can choose—again and again—to turn things around.
Remember, every day is a new chance, and every moment is an opportunity to begin again.
SLAY on.
SLAY OF THE DAY
Do you give yourself a restart when your day takes you off course?
Or do you let it pull you down?
How long do you stay stuck? Why?
What stories do you tell yourself about deserving to stay down?
Have you found ways to restart your day? What are they?
When you hit the restart button, what message are you sending yourself?
It’s okay to mess up or feel frustrated—but what matters is what you choose to do next.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
When was the last time you gave yourself permission to restart your day? How did it feel?
Share your experience in the comments below. Let’s lift each other up with stories of resilience and reset.
And if you know someone who could use this reminder, send this blog their way.
We rise by lifting each other.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then… SLAY on!
Let’s Not Forget Who We Are
It’s easy to fall into the whirlwind of fear, panic, and media overload. It’s easy to retreat inward, to think only of ourselves and our immediate circle. But now more than ever, it’s crucial to pause and remember the truth of who we are.
We are resilient.
We are survivors.
We are, if we allow ourselves to be, heroes.
In my lifetime, I’ve seen us rise in the face of adversity. During times of uncertainty—whether caused by health crises, security threats, or social unrest—there have always been those who stood tall, offering kindness, generosity, and a steady hand.
Lately, I’ve noticed the shift. At the grocery store, I’ve felt the undercurrent of fear, witnessed the frantic hoarding, the wary glances as people clutch their carts. That isn’t our best. Fear shrinks us. But we can choose differently.
Stepping Out of Fear and Into Service
As someone who once lived in constant fear and anxiety, I understand what it feels like to be paralyzed by “what ifs.” I used to hide behind drawn blinds, isolating myself from the world. But not anymore. Today, I show up. For myself. For others.
Fear doesn’t have to define us. When we act with compassion, even small gestures—like offering a smile or a supportive word—can shift the energy around us. Our actions ripple outward. We impact more lives than we realize.
Holding Onto Our Humanity
I know so many of you SLAYERS have fought through personal challenges, faced down fear, and kept moving forward. This moment is no different. We can walk through it with grace and compassion. We can check on our neighbors, offer help, and think beyond ourselves.
Even as we adapt to new ways of showing care—like elbow bumps instead of hugs, virtual support instead of in-person—our core humanity remains. This moment will pass, as all things do. When it does, how will you feel about who you were during this time?
SLAY OF THE DAY
Do you find yourself consumed by fear with the current world events?
Is that fear real in your daily life today—or is it false evidence appearing real?
How can you stay grounded and out of fear?
How can you be of service today—to yourself and those around you?
What can you do today to find a sense of normalcy?
What can you do today that you’ll appreciate or thank yourself for later?
This is your chance to rise above the fear and show the best of who you are.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
How are you staying grounded in these uncertain times? What small act of kindness or service are you committing to today?
Share in the comments below. Let’s lift each other up and remind one another of our strength and humanity.
And if you know someone who could use this message, share it with them.
We rise by lifting each other.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions they become habits.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then… SLAY on!
We’re Not Responsible For Our Thoughts But We Are Responsible For What We Give Light
When I first started walking this path, I used to beat myself up for the negative or old thoughts that crept into my mind. I thought I was failing somehow by still thinking them. But what I’ve come to learn—and remind myself of every day—is this: we’re not responsible for the thoughts that arise. We’re responsible for what we nurture, for what we choose to give light.
Negative thoughts will come and go. They always do. But judging ourselves for them only feeds the darkness.
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A Journey of “Yes” and the Cloud Analogy
Early in this journey, I made a promise to myself: say “yes” to new ways of thinking. The old ways—the clinging, the control—weren’t working. I even signed up for a meditation class, hoping for relief from the noise in my head.
I’ll never forget that first class. As we settled into silence, a garbage truck began backing up outside. Beep, beep, beep. Instantly, frustration bubbled up in me. How dare this truck interrupt my serenity!
But the instructor’s voice broke through: “Acknowledge the sound. Let it go. Like a cloud moving across the sky.”
That image stuck with me. Over time, I learned to acknowledge the intrusive thoughts, ask if they served me, and then—let them drift away.
Thoughts Are Just Thoughts—Until We Give Them Power
We can’t control what we think. But we can control what we dwell on, what we give voice and weight to. Negative thinking doesn’t make us bad or broken—it makes us human.
What matters is what we do next. Will we cling to those thoughts and let them spiral us down? Or will we choose to counter them with something positive? Something we’re grateful for?
When I catch myself spiraling, I remember the cloud analogy. I visualize those thoughts floating away. I remind myself that I have the power to choose what I give light to.
SLAY OF THE DAY
Do you catch yourself judging your negative thoughts?
What’s the result?
How can you shift that judgment into curiosity or self-compassion?
What triggers those thoughts—and what might they be trying to tell you?
Can you counter them with gratitude or a positive affirmation?
Remember, it’s not about silencing every negative thought. It’s about not giving them the spotlight. Choose what serves you, and let the rest drift by.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
How do you handle negative thinking? What helps you shift from judgment to self-compassion?
Share your story in the comments below. Let’s lift each other up with real, honest conversations about our inner worlds.
And if you know someone who needs this message today—send it their way. We’re in this together.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! People are often not disturbed by what they see, but by how they see it.
New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! If you don’t like something change it, if you can’t change it change the way you think about it.
SLAY on!
Looking Through Different Eyes
Before walking this path, I thought I knew everything—or at least better than most. I saw the world through judgmental eyes, convinced that everyone else was doing it wrong. It was easier to judge than to look inward, easier to point fingers than to take responsibility. My ego told me I was smarter, better, but deep down, I was just trying to cover the emptiness I felt inside—the fear that I wasn’t enough.
That judgment kept me blind. It limited what I was willing to see and locked me into a narrow, self-protective perspective.
Choosing Teachability Over Ego
I’ve shared before that it’s vital for me to stay teachable. It took a long time—and a lot of pain—for me to admit that I don’t know everything, that my stubbornness and ego hurt me more than anyone else ever could. Staying open-minded isn’t just a nice idea; it’s essential for my growth and healing.
When I close myself off, I shut down new ideas, new perspectives, and the chance to improve. This path of recovery and growth doesn’t end with a graduation or certificate. It’s a lifelong journey of becoming, of learning, and of serving.
Being of service means setting aside ego. It means being open to seeing things as they are, not just as I want them to be. When I was stuck in my old patterns, I didn’t care about helping others unless it benefited me. But recovery taught me that my growth and healing are deeply tied to my ability to support and lift others up.
Seeing Beyond Our Own Perspective
We all come from different places, with different life experiences. It’s natural to have a perspective shaped by our journey, but if we only see the world through our own lens, we miss the full picture.
When we stay stuck in our assumptions—what we think we know—we stunt our growth. But when we leave space for discovery, for the possibility that we might not know everything, we create room for connection, understanding, and freedom.
That space in between? It’s where transformation happens.
SLAY OF THE DAY
Do you usually assume you know the truth without investigating?
How has that approach worked—or not worked—for you?
Think of a time when you discovered the reality wasn’t what you thought. What did you learn?
Are you open to continuing to learn from others, even when it’s uncomfortable?
How do you feel when others make false assumptions about you? Remember, it feels the same when we do it to others.
Leave space to grow. Leave space to see.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
How do you keep yourself open to learning and growth? What helps you shift from judgment to curiosity?
Share your thoughts in the comments and let’s lift each other up.
And if you know someone who could use this message, share it with them. Together, we can break free from assumptions and open our eyes to new possibilities.
