Good morning SLAYER! Every time you’re able to find the humor in a situation, you win.
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Inspiration
Be The Attitude You Want To Be Around
We’ve all felt it—that lift you get from someone’s positive energy. The kind of vibe that makes a room feel warmer, lighter, better. We seek it out, gravitate toward it, and sometimes, we depend on it. But here’s a truth that changed everything for me:
Instead of waiting to be around the energy you want, be it.
Don’t get me wrong—we need good people in our lives. Community, support, and encouragement are vital. But real change happens when you stop outsourcing your attitude—and start showing up as the person you wish you could find.
I Wasn’t Always That Person
When I was deep in my darkness, I avoided positive people. They annoyed me. I didn’t trust their joy. I assumed it was fake. And, if I’m being honest, I didn’t want them to see the way I was living.
But beneath all that judgment was jealousy.
I admired them. I just didn’t believe I could ever be like them.
Recovery taught me otherwise.
It showed me that joy can be genuine. That light isn’t fake—it’s earned. And I could earn it, too.
So I made a promise to myself: I would become the person I wanted to be around.
Not overnight. But one day at a time.
Give What You Wish to Get
In the beginning, I didn’t feel like I had much to offer. I was still shaky, still figuring it out. But someone reminded me:
Even if you’re just a few steps in, you’ve got something to share.
Because someone else is just starting out. And to them, you might look like a mile ahead.
So I showed up. I told the truth. I dropped the act and chose transparency. And little by little, I built trust in myself by being accountable, being honest, and shifting from asking, “What can I get?” to “What can I give?”
And I found that even on my worst days, if I could help someone else, it helped me too.
Sometimes, two bad days colliding can spark one good one.
Attitude Is Energy
Gratitude was a big part of this shift. When I started focusing on what I had instead of what I lacked, everything changed.
Even the hard things didn’t feel impossible anymore—because I wasn’t tackling them alone. I learned to ask for help. That was huge for me.
Asking for help didn’t make me weak. It made me real.
And in asking, I often gave someone else the gift of showing up. We got closer. We built something.
Because we all need help sometimes.
Become the Energy You Admire
Think about the attitudes you’re drawn to. What do you admire in others? What kind of energy lifts you up?
Now ask yourself:
What if that’s already inside of me?
What if the very thing you’re craving is something you’re meant to cultivate and share?
Start there. Be that. You might just find your truest self waiting on the other side.
SLAY Reflection
Ask yourself:
- What attitude or energy am I most drawn to?
- Do I embody that energy—or just chase it in others?
- What’s stopping me from becoming that kind of person?
- How can I use gratitude and service to shift my own energy?
- What’s one small step I can take today to be the vibe I want to be around?
S – L – A – Y
S: See the energy you admire in others.
L: Listen to how your own attitude shows up.
A: Act in alignment with the energy you want to attract.
Y: Yield to your inner strength—it’s always been there.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s the attitude you want to be around—and how are you choosing to embody it in your own life?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s working on becoming their best self, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
Creativity Takes Courage
It takes real courage to put your creativity out into the world. When we express ourselves creatively—whether through art, writing, music, or any other outlet—we’re exposing a part of ourselves. We’re showing something personal and vulnerable. And that can be scary.
The fear of criticism, rejection, or being told we’re “not enough” can stop us from ever taking that leap. So many people let their creative spark die out because they’re afraid of what others might say—or worse, what they might say to themselves. But here’s the truth: your creativity is a gift. And the world needs to see it.
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Overcoming the Fear
Before I found my own courage, fear kept me small. My creative fire was there, but it was often snuffed out by my own doubts. Opportunities would come my way, and instead of stepping into them, I let the voice in my head—the one telling me I wasn’t good enough—hold me back.
That voice, that negative “committee” in my head, whispered things like: “You’re wasting your time,” “You’re not talented,” or “You’ll embarrass yourself.” And for a while, I listened. I let those fears rob me of moments where I could have shined. I let them convince me that I wasn’t worthy of good things.
It wasn’t until I started learning to love myself—truly love myself—that I found the strength to fight back against those lies. I realized that fear was never the truth. The antidote was embracing vulnerability, leaning into my creative spark, and trusting that I was enough as I was.
Your Unique Light
Every single one of us is born with talents. They’re uniquely ours, and it’s up to us to nurture them and share them with the world. When you embrace your creativity and let your voice be heard, you give others permission to do the same.
It may feel like a leap of faith at first. But every time you step into your creativity—whether it’s a small act or a grand gesture—you’re building confidence. You’re feeding that inner flame.
Trust in the creative force inside you. Let it guide you. Believe that what you have to offer is not only enough, but valuable. When you embrace your gifts, fine-tune them, and share them, you inspire others to do the same. And sometimes, your greatest talent is simply having the courage to show up and express who you are.
SLAY OF THE DAY
- Do you believe in yourself and your creative talents?
- When opportunities arise, do you share your creativity, or do you hold back? Why?
- What inspires you about the creativity of others?
- Have you had a positive experience sharing your creative gifts? How did that make you feel?
- If a past experience wasn’t positive, what could you have done differently to change that?
- How have you grown by expressing your creativity?
- What’s one courageous step you can take today to share your creative fire?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one creative step you’ll take today that makes you feel brave?
Share your thoughts in the comments. Let’s inspire each other to let our creative flames burn brighter.
And if you know someone who’s holding back their creative gifts, share this with them.
Sometimes, we all need a reminder that we’re capable of more.
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Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Truth never fails in proverbs, but in judgments. Be true to who you are, and accountable to your truth.
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Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Just as you are the author of your own story, you are also the illustrator, don’t limit yourself to the pictures you’ve been painting, paint the ones you’ve imagined or dreamed of, and make them a reality.
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Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! You were given this life because you are strong enough to live it.
New blog goes up Friday, until then…SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! It’s not what happens to you that determines your future, it’s what you do about it.
New blog goes up on Sunday, until then…SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! No matter how low you may feel, someone else out there feels lower, and your light, even though it may feel dim, may be as bright as the sun to someone in need. Shine bright.
New bog goes up Sunday, until then…SLAY on!
Let Your Heart Shine
We lost a bright star yesterday. As I was in the air, traveling, my Uncle passed away. I’ve spoken about him before, on SLAY TALK LIVE, he had been battling cancer for the past 9 years, and yesterday he found his rest from that battle. What I will carry with me moving forward, and forever in my heart, is how he changed when he was first diagnosed. I imagine a cancer diagnoses must feel like a death sentence, that immediate shock and the reality setting in, although there are many survivors, some of whom I count as friends, but it would be easy to feel defeated, or to retreat from life when you feel like perhaps you don’t have much of it left to live. My Uncle Mel, was not one of those people.
He didn’t have an easy life, and he wasn’t always the man I came to know during his fight, that is the miraculous thing about Uncle Mel, he allowed something that could easily perceived as negative and let it turn him into someone so full of light, so full of love, and he let it fill him with such a desire and drive to make other people’s days brighter, that I believe, it kept him going, for years, as he continued to fight various forms of cancer. I always called him a superhero, and he would laugh, he would say, “I’m just doing what the good Lord shows me to do.” He had a strong faith, and it was that faith that he relied on as his journey was coming to an end. He found a peace with it, and made the most of his time here with us all.
He said this to me a number of times, but the last time we spoke he said that I had permission to tell his story, to share who we was, because it might help someone else. So, today, as I write this with tears in my eyes, I know it’s important to do just that, for me, for anyone who may need it, and for him.
I look at his journey and it reminds me that even in the face of adversity we can still share our light and our heart. We always have something to offer to someone who may be sicker, or feeling even lower than we do, or who just might need a friend. No matter where we are, we always have value, and have the ability to share our best selves. My Uncle never became his best self, I believe, until he started to share it, until he started to give away the light he had to give and was able to light the way for many others as they walked in their own struggle, or darkness. I believe that fire, that light, is what kept him going the past 9 years, and it lit the way for many others.
I talk a lot here at STATE OF SLAY of holding a torch for one another, so when we may find ourselves in the dark, there is always a light to find your way home. I believe that because Uncle Mel held his torch for so many, that yesterday, he saw that light and made his way home.
We have a choice, each day, to live our lives in the darkness, or to shine bright, and it may feel safer in the dark, especially if that is all we’ve known, or we feel we don’t deserve the light, but we are meant to be in the light, not only for ourselves, but so we can share it with others, and when we do not only do we bring light to those around us, but our light gets brighter. I know there will be a bright star shining in the night sky tonight, and that star is my Uncle, his star will continue to shine from above, lighting the way for us here, and as a reminder when we look up, that there is something beautiful up there, watching over us in the darkness of the night. Shine on my SLAYERS!
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you allow yourself to shine or do you dim that shine? If you do dim your shine, why do you do that? How does it help you? How does it hurt you? How can you share that light with someone in your life who may need it? Write down a time when you may have felt you had nothing to offer, but were able to make someone’s day brighter. How did that make you feel? Did you feel brighter? You did, didn’t you SLAYER? Always let your light shine, even if it’s just a small flicker of a flame, when you share that flame with someone else, that flame starts a fire, and warms all who are within it’s reach. SLAY on!
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you
