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Revenge Through Radiance

There’s a kind of revenge that doesn’t come from words or payback — it comes from peace.

It’s the kind of revenge that doesn’t need to be seen or declared. It’s quiet. Intentional. Unbothered.

It’s choosing to heal instead of hurt. To rise instead of retaliate. To glow so brightly that the shadows of the past can’t touch you anymore.

That, SLAYER, is revenge through radiance.

The Temptation of Retaliation

When someone wrongs us, it’s natural to want them to feel what they made us feel. To prove they can’t get away with it. To even the score.

But here’s the truth: trying to hurt someone who hurt you only keeps you tethered to the pain they caused.

Retaliation feels powerful for a moment — but it drains you. It pulls you back into their energy, their story, their chaos.

And you’ve worked too hard to go back there.

True power isn’t in revenge. It’s in release.

Because when you stop fighting for closure and start choosing peace, you take your power back. You show them — and yourself — that their actions no longer define your energy.

The Glow-Up Is the Get-Back

Your healing, your joy, your success — that’s your revenge.

Not because you’re pretending it didn’t hurt, but because you refuse to let it keep you small.

When you choose to rise, to love again, to rebuild, to believe in yourself after someone tried to break you — that’s power. That’s grace. That’s radiance.

You’re no longer matching their energy. You’re elevating it.

So, go ahead — glow so hard they have to squint.

Because when you shine, you remind the world (and yourself) that light always wins.

Healing Is the Highest Form of Revenge

Healing doesn’t mean you excuse what happened. It means you refuse to let it continue controlling you.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean they deserve peace — it means you do.

When you start to heal, you start to see things differently. The same people who once triggered you lose their power. The same memories that once haunted you start to fade.

You begin to understand that closure doesn’t come from an apology — it comes from acceptance.

You can’t rewrite the past. But you can write a new story for yourself, one filled with light, purpose, and peace.

That’s the kind of revenge that lasts — because it’s built on your freedom.

Becoming Untouchable

There’s a moment in healing when you stop trying to prove your worth to those who never saw it — and start living like you’ve always known it.

That’s when you become untouchable.

Your peace unnerves people who thrive on chaos. Your confidence exposes their insecurity. Your light blinds the ones still living in the dark.

That’s not arrogance — that’s alignment.

You’re no longer responding to the old version of you who needed validation. You’re responding as the healed, grounded, radiant version who doesn’t chase what dims her light.

Your glow becomes your boundary.

How to Practice Revenge Through Radiance

1. Focus on your healing, not their reaction.
They don’t need to see your progress for it to be real. You don’t owe them proof.

2. Invest in your peace.
Silence, self-care, and solitude are weapons of peace. They restore your power.

3. Choose grace over gossip.
You don’t need to talk about them. Let your peace do the talking.

4. Redirect your energy.
Pour into your goals, your passions, your purpose. That’s where your glow begins.

5. Remember who you are.
They didn’t break you. They revealed where your strength lives.

SLAY Reflection

  1. Who or what have you been giving your energy to that no longer deserves it?
  2. What would it look like to choose peace instead of payback?
  3. How can you redirect that energy toward your growth or healing?
  4. When was the last time you felt radiant from within — not because of something external, but because of who you’ve become?
  5. What’s one action you can take today to shine instead of react?
  • S – Stop giving energy to what hurts you
  • L – Let your peace speak louder than your pain
  • A – Align your focus with your healing
  • Y – Yield to your glow — it’s your greatest power

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What does revenge through radiance mean to you?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone still fighting battles they could walk away from, send this to them.
Sometimes, the best revenge is peace — and a little extra glow.

Slay Say

Where You Stand, You Belong

Imposter syndrome whispers that you’re lucky to be here—
but luck didn’t build the path beneath your feet.

You did.

Every risk you took, every doubt you silenced,
every time you showed up scared but still showed up—
that’s what opened the door.

You earned your place.
You belong in every space your growth has brought you to.

The room didn’t make you worthy.
Your courage did.

This is your reminder to stop questioning your seat at the table
and start owning the strength that got you there.

Slay on!

Slay Say

Not Everyone Can Hold Your Whole Self

Some people will gravitate toward you
because they see your joy, your spark, your shine.

They love what your presence gives them—
but they are not prepared for your truth,
your strength,
or the boundaries that protect your energy.

Your light is beautiful.
Your fire is powerful.
And both deserve people who can withstand the heat
without asking you to dim.

This is your reminder to stop shrinking
just to make someone else comfortable in your glow.

Slay on!

Slay Say

Stand in Your Evolution

Not everyone will understand the changes you make when you choose peace, purpose, or healing.
That’s okay. You’re not meant to stay small just to keep others comfortable.

The people meant for your life will never shrink you to fit their version of who you were.
They’ll hold space for who you’re becoming.

This is your reminder to move boldly in the direction of your evolution—
and surround yourself with those who cheer for your becoming.

Slay On!

Pressure Is a Privilege

There’s a saying I’ve always loved: pressure is a privilege.

At first, it can sound like something only the ultra-successful would say—like a line meant for athletes, CEOs, or overachievers. But the truth is, pressure exists wherever there’s potential.

Pressure means someone believes in you.
Pressure means you’ve earned responsibility.
Pressure means you’ve shown you can handle something worth doing.

It’s not punishment—it’s purpose in disguise.

The Weight of Expectation

When life starts demanding more of us, our instinct is often to push back. We say things like:

  • “Why is this so hard?”
  • “Why does everyone expect me to have it all together?”
  • “Can’t I just have one easy day?”

But those expectations—those moments that make us sweat and doubt and question—are actually markers of growth.

If no one expected anything of you, it would mean no one believed in your ability to rise. Pressure is often the shadow side of opportunity.

We tend to see only the strain, but pressure exists because something inside you is ready to expand.

The next chapter of your life is pressing on the walls of your comfort zone, asking to be born.

From Fear to Fuel

Pressure can crush you if you let it. But it can also create diamonds.

It all depends on how you see it.

When you frame pressure as a burden, it feels heavy, suffocating, endless. But when you frame it as privilege—as proof that something meaningful is unfolding—you stop resisting and start responding.

Think of it this way:

  • Pressure is proof that you’re trusted.
  • Pressure is proof that you’re capable.
  • Pressure is proof that you’re in the game.

When the moment feels too big, remember: you wouldn’t be under this much pressure if you weren’t meant to handle it.

You’ve already proven something powerful just by being here.

Perfection vs. Purpose

Many of us crumble under pressure not because we’re incapable—but because we confuse pressure with perfection.

We think pressure means we can’t fail. That we must perform flawlessly. That we’re being watched and judged.

But pressure isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present.

The people who thrive under pressure aren’t superhuman. They’ve just learned how to focus on progress over perfection.

When you stop chasing flawless and start chasing faithful, something shifts. You stop trying to prove and start showing up.

That’s where true resilience is built—not in trying to please everyone, but in doing your best with what’s in front of you, even when it’s hard.

Pressure Builds Strength

The first time you lift a weight, it feels impossible. Your muscles shake. Your body resists. But over time, that same pressure builds strength.

Emotional pressure works the same way.

Every time you stand in discomfort—face the meeting, have the hard conversation, take the next step when you’re terrified—you grow.

Each moment of pressure becomes a training ground for your next level.

So instead of asking “Why is this happening to me?”, start asking “What is this building in me?”

Because if you let it, pressure will make you powerful.

Reframing the Privilege

Think about this: if no one ever challenged you, you’d never know how capable you are.

Pressure doesn’t show up when you’re weak—it arrives when you’re strong enough to handle it.

That’s why it’s a privilege.

Pressure says, “You’ve proven you can do hard things.”
It says, “You’ve earned the right to grow.”
It says, “You matter enough for this to matter.”

And when you start to see pressure that way, something beautiful happens—you stop fearing it. You start welcoming it. You realize that pressure isn’t trying to destroy you; it’s trying to develop you.

That’s the difference between breaking down and breaking through.

How to Handle Pressure with Grace

Here are a few ways to turn pressure into power:

  1. Pause Before You React
    When pressure hits, don’t spiral. Breathe. Re-center. Respond from clarity, not panic.
  2. Shift Your Perspective
    Ask: “What is this moment trying to teach me?” Instead of resisting, get curious.
  3. Release Perfection
    You don’t need to ace every test. You just need to show up—consistently, courageously, honestly.
  4. Find Gratitude in Growth
    Pressure means you’re trusted with something meaningful. That’s worth being grateful for.
  5. Remember: You’ve Done Hard Things Before
    You’ve survived every pressure moment that came before this one. This, too, will become proof of your strength.

When Pressure Feels Like Too Much

There will be days when you’ll want to quit—when pressure doesn’t feel like privilege at all.

On those days, it’s okay to step back. Rest. Breathe. Ask for help. Privilege doesn’t mean perfection; it means participation. You’re allowed to pause without giving up.

Just don’t confuse taking a break with backing down. Even resting is part of rising.

You’re building endurance, not just achievement. You’re learning to carry the weight without losing yourself underneath it.

SLAY Reflection

  1. How do you usually react when you feel pressure?
  2. What opportunities in your life right now are disguised as pressure?
  3. What story do you tell yourself when expectations rise?
  4. How might seeing pressure as privilege change how you show up?
  5. What’s one way you can turn current pressure into personal power?

S – Stop seeing pressure as punishment
L – Let it teach you instead of crush you
A – Align your energy with purpose, not perfection
Y – Yield to growth—pressure is proof you’re evolving

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
How has pressure shaped you into who you are today?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone feeling overwhelmed by the weight of expectations, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a reminder that the pressure we feel is the privilege of becoming more.

To Become Who You Truly Are, You Have to Let Go of Who They Told You to Be

For much of my life, I tried to be who they told me to be.

The “they” was everywhere—teachers, parents, partners, bosses, social media, society. Each one had a version of me they preferred. I wore those versions like outfits, hoping one of them would finally feel like me. But deep down, I always knew: I was playing a part written by someone else.

When You Live for Them, You Lose Yourself

Every time I molded myself to fit their expectations, I lost another piece of who I was. I became quieter when they said I was too much. I smiled when I wanted to cry. I said yes when everything inside me screamed no.

I wanted to be accepted so badly, I started rejecting myself.

Eventually, I reached a breaking point. I was exhausted. Not from being myself, but from not being myself. I had no idea who I was anymore—but I knew I couldn’t keep pretending. That was the first step.

Forget Who They Told You to Be

To find my true self, I had to unlearn the lies I’d been told:

  • That I was too sensitive.
  • That I needed to tone it down.
  • That my worth depended on being agreeable, pretty, polite, perfect.

None of that was me. It was who they needed me to be so they could be comfortable.

But I wasn’t born to make other people comfortable.

So I started letting go. I peeled back the layers of conditioning, people-pleasing, and perfectionism—and underneath, I found someone real. Someone strong. Someone worth knowing.

Becoming You Is a Brave Act

Choosing to be yourself—your real self—isn’t always easy. It might upset people. It might confuse them. It might even mean walking away from relationships or roles that no longer fit.

But becoming who you truly are is the most powerful act of self-love there is.

Every time you choose authenticity over approval, you build a life that actually feels like yours. And trust me, there is nothing more freeing than that.

You don’t have to be who they told you to be. You get to decide who you are.

SLAY Reflection

  1. Who told you who you “should” be?
  2. What roles or expectations are you still carrying that don’t feel like your own?
  3. When have you felt most like yourself?
  4. What’s one way you can show up more authentically today?
  5. What would your life look like if you stopped living for their approval?

S-L-A-Y:

  • Shed the stories that don’t belong to you.
  • Live your truth—loudly and unapologetically.
  • Acknowledge who you’ve always been beneath the noise.
  • You are allowed to become someone they don’t recognize.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What part of yourself are you reclaiming today?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s stuck in a role they never chose, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Don’t Be Afraid To Be Great

Looking back, there were many times I was afraid to be great. In my heart, I wanted it. In my mind, I believed I did, too. But in the moment—when it counted—something inside me would pull back. I would stop myself, sometimes even sabotage myself, just so I wouldn’t fully step into my potential.

And I always knew. There was a split second where I could’ve chosen differently—but I didn’t. Then I’d beat myself up for it. I’d use it as proof that I wasn’t good enough. That I didn’t deserve good things. That old narrative was strong, and I was the one keeping it alive.

When Self-Doubt Creeps In

So where does that fear come from? Why do we shrink from our own greatness?

For me, it was years of undiagnosed mental illness and deeply rooted self-hate. I was at war with myself—wanting things to change, but getting in the way of any progress. Even when opportunities came my way, I’d question if I deserved them. I’d back down, stay small, and then carry the weight of disappointment.

It wasn’t until I began my recovery that I finally started to shift. I learned to love myself. I stopped backing down from the things I wanted. And slowly, I stopped fearing success. Because success started to feel like something I was allowed to have.

Greatness isn’t arrogance. Greatness is owning your light. It’s showing up fully, knowing your worth, and letting yourself shine.

You Don’t Need Permission

Sometimes, we wait for others to validate our greatness. To give us permission. But your power doesn’t come from someone else’s approval. It comes from you.

If someone is uncomfortable with your greatness, that’s their work to do—not yours. Your job is to honor your gifts, pursue your goals, and keep showing up for yourself. Greatness isn’t just about what you achieve—it’s about who you become as you rise.

Today, I don’t let that little voice in my head stop me the way it used to. And when I do hear it, I know it’s not the truth. I’ve worked too hard to believe in myself—and I’m not giving that up.

You Were Made for More

We all have dreams. We all have something inside us that longs to grow, to thrive, to become. Don’t let fear—or old patterns—steal that from you.

Start where you are. You don’t have to know every step—just take the first one. Say yes. Trust that the path will reveal itself as you go. The more you honor your potential, the more your life will expand.

Be great. And while you’re at it, help others see their greatness, too.

SLAY on.

SLAY Reflection: Step Into Your Greatness

  • Do you believe you are great? If not, what’s holding you back from seeing it?
  • Have you ever talked yourself out of something you really wanted? Why?
  • What is one thing you’re great at—and do you celebrate it or downplay it?
  • How does it feel when you celebrate someone else’s success? Can you offer that same energy to yourself?
  • What’s one step you can take this week to move closer to your greatness?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way you’re ready to stop holding yourself back and fully own your greatness?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who needs a reminder of their worth, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is permission to rise.

Dress Up To Feel Up

For most of us right now, we spend most—if not all—of our time at home. With work shifts, working from home, or simply staying in, our biggest decision on wardrobe might be which pair of stretchy or sweatpants to throw on. And while that feels good for a while, it can also start to weigh us down emotionally, whether we realize it or not.

It’s amazing how dressing up—or even just getting dressed—can shift our mindset and spark a little lightness in our day.

The Power of Expression

For anyone who knows me, you know I love my fashion. I love to dress up, to express myself through what I’m wearing, and to share whatever side of my personality feels right that day. I’ve always lived by the motto that it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed.

But during these days, weeks, and dare I say months, where events, gatherings, and date nights out have disappeared, my closet isn’t seeing much use. Sure, I walk in there, take a look around, and think about what I might wear if I had somewhere to go. In the early days, I still dressed up for grocery runs or errands. But as time went on, I found myself dressing down to blend in—for safety and comfort.

That doesn’t mean, though, that I can’t throw on a cute outfit while I’m at home.

A Boost of Confidence

We take pride in looking good. Looking good often leads to feeling good. And at a time when we might feel uncertain, fearful, or just plain bored by the sameness of days at home, dressing up can give us a much-needed boost.

I’ve spoken with friends who still dress for work, even though their “office” is now their living room. They say it puts them in a professional mindset, helps them get more done, and lifts their self-esteem when they catch a glimpse of themselves looking put-together in the mirror.

For those who think that might be a bit much, or whose jobs don’t typically require dressing up, why not pick a night—maybe a Friday or Saturday—and dress up anyway? People are hosting virtual parties, dressing up for dinners or drinks with friends, or celebrating birthdays and milestones.

But why wait for an occasion? Why not celebrate yourself, just as you are?

You Deserve It

Pick out something that makes you feel good. It could be your favorite pair of jeans, a statement piece from your closet, or even a touch of sparkle. It may just be the mood boost you need during a time when your social calendar is empty.

Make the effort: do your hair, plan an outfit, put on something special—just for yourself. Because you’re worth it. You deserve to look your best.

I know I have a few sparkly things in my closet calling my name—long overdue for a spin around the house.

Create Your Own Occasion

Even if there’s no event on the calendar, create one. Make the occasion you. See how it lifts your mood, and maybe even inspires others to do the same.

Maybe tonight is the night. A Fancy Friday party. A night to remind yourself of who you are and what you love. Put on a special outfit that reminds you of a moment you felt radiant and strong.

Plan a date night at home—even if it’s a date with yourself. Show yourself appreciation, love, and respect. Let your best, beautiful self shine.

SLAY on.

SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise

  • Have you been getting up and dressing for the day, or slipping into the most comfortable clothes from the day before?

  • How does it make you feel when you dress up?

  • How does it make you feel when you don’t?

  • Do you typically enjoy dressing up?

  • Have you been dressing to work from home? If yes, how does it make you feel? If not, why not?

  • How do you think dressing up at home might affect your mood?

  • Find a day or night to dress your best, and see if it lifts your spirits during these days at home.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
When was the last time you dressed up for yourself, and how did it make you feel?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s been feeling stuck in a routine, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a little sparkle to remind us who we are.

You Don’t Have To Be A Bully To Win

Choosing Strength Without Losing Yourself

There’s a moment many of us can point to — where we made ourselves smaller so someone else could feel bigger. Where we let a louder voice drown out our quieter truth. Where we convinced ourselves that the only way to keep peace, keep harmony, keep connection… was to let someone else take the spotlight or the power.

I’ve been there more times than I can count.

And for a long stretch of my life, I believed a dangerous lie:
That the only way to win was to push, dominate, or overpower.
That the world rewarded sharp edges, not steady hearts.
That kindness was weakness, and compassion was a liability.

Except… every time I tried to step into that version of “strength,” I felt like I was abandoning myself. Winning didn’t feel like winning if I had to step out of integrity to get there. It felt hollow. It felt false. It felt like I was playing a role someone else demanded of me.

It took years to understand what I know now:

The loudest person in the room isn’t the strongest — just the loudest.
Real power doesn’t need to humiliate anyone to stand tall.
And you never have to be a bully to win.

The Myth of “Hardness” as Power

So many of us grew up observing people who led with fear, not respect. Maybe it was in our home, our school, our workplace, or even our friendships. People who believed intimidation equaled leadership. People who measured their worth through dominance. People who confused cruelty with competence.

Maybe those were the people who seemed to get rewarded. They got attention. They got results. They got their way.

And somewhere along the line, we internalized the belief that:

  • If we wanted to succeed, we had to be more like them.

  • If we stayed soft, we’d get run over.

  • If we stayed compassionate, we’d get crushed.

But here’s the truth we weren’t taught:

Strength without empathy is insecurity.
Confidence without humility is ego.
Power without kindness is fear dressed as control.

None of that is leadership.
None of that is winning.
None of that is sustainable.

Power built on intimidation crumbles the moment someone refuses to be intimidated.

Kindness Is Not Weakness — It’s Precision

People often misunderstand compassion. They confuse it with people-pleasing. They mistake boundaries for cruelty and softness for passivity.

But kindness is not a lack of backbone.
Kindness is not the absence of truth.
Kindness is not silence in the face of harm.

Kindness is precision.
It’s the ability to see clearly when others act from fear.
It’s the ability to hold your shape instead of collapsing into theirs.
It’s the bravery to choose integrity even when someone else chooses force.

Kindness is strength with the volume turned down — and the clarity turned up.

Winning with kindness means:

  • You don’t betray yourself.

  • You don’t hurt others to lift yourself higher.

  • You don’t weaponize your voice or your power.

  • You don’t step outside your values to gain validation.

It means you succeed as yourself, not as a costume someone else taught you to wear.

Standing Strong Without Striking Back

There is a quiet moment — the moment between hurt and response — where we decide who we want to be.

When someone else raises their voice, throws their weight around, or tries to provoke a reaction, you get to choose:

Do you match their energy?
Or do you rise above it?

Do you let their behavior define the moment?
Or do you let your integrity define you?

Choosing not to bully back is not weakness.
Choosing not to belittle is not submission.
Choosing not to retaliate is not letting them win.

It’s choosing peace over chaos.
It’s choosing self-respect over reactivity.
It’s choosing your future over a moment of validation.

Strength isn’t proven through force — it’s proven through discipline.

Winning By Staying in Integrity

Here’s what no one tells you:

When you stop engaging in someone else’s game, they lose control of the scoreboard.

Winning without bullying looks like:

  • Setting a boundary and sticking to it.

  • Walking away from disrespect instead of debating it.

  • Saying “No” without explanation or apology.

  • Refusing to match someone else’s cruelty.

  • Choosing peace even when chaos tempts you.

  • Being confident enough not to dominate.

  • Leading by example, not intimidation.

When you choose integrity, you reclaim the power they hoped you’d abandon.

When you choose grounding, you interrupt the cycle.

When you choose compassion — for yourself and others — you create a new standard of strength.

And when you stop trying to outperform someone’s ego, you start outperforming your own past.

You Win Every Time You Don’t Become What Hurt You

What if winning isn’t about beating someone else?

What if winning is:

  • Becoming who you needed when you were younger

  • Responding instead of reacting

  • Growing instead of repeating patterns

  • Standing tall without stepping on anyone

  • Being the person who breaks generational cycles

  • Choosing softness in a world that worships hardness

What if the real victory is becoming someone you’re proud of?

Because every time you refuse to become what tried to break you, you win.

Every time you choose compassion over ego, you win.

Every time you stay rooted instead of rattled, you win.

Every time you lead with integrity, you win.

You don’t have to be a bully to win.
You just have to be brave enough to stay yourself.

SLAY Reflection

Take a moment and check in with yourself. Let these questions guide what comes next:

S — Sit With Your Truth

Where in your life have you believed you had to act harder, sharper, or louder just to be heard?

L — Look at the Pattern

Who taught you that compassion was weakness? And were they actually strong — or simply scared?

A — Align With Your Values

How can you choose strength with kindness in the next conflict or challenge?

Y — Yield to Growth

What becomes possible when you stop fighting battles that require you to betray yourself?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
When have you chosen integrity over intimidation, and how did it change the outcome?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s trying to find their power without losing their kindness, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Overthinking Overtalking

There is so much power in a pause—not just from our mouths, but from our minds.

Before walking this path, I was always thinking and talking too much. Worried that I wasn’t going to get what I wanted or that I would lose what I had, my mind and mouth were always running. Part of it was my desire to control the uncontrollable—people, places, and things around me. And part of it was that I didn’t trust myself, or that I was enough or had done enough.

My overthinking and overtalking would kick in, exhausting me and causing my mind to spiral as I tried to figure out every possible angle. I had to learn to trust myself—and the footwork I had done. I had to believe that I, and it, were enough.

The Root of the Noise

Reaching that point took a lot of work. When I stepped onto this path, I realized that I didn’t trust myself or believe I was enough in any way that counted. To counteract that feeling, I overthought and overtalked, hoping to appear prepared and to prove I had something of value to add. But in reality, I was only closing myself off from the world.

I was so determined to think and talk my way through life that I wasn’t listening, observing, or just being in the moment. It’s in those quiet spaces where we learn and take in the most. Not knowing how to calm my mind, I let it—and my mouth—run wild, assuming I’d hit the mark eventually if I just kept shooting in the general direction. I wasted a lot of energy shooting in the dark.

Learning to Trust Myself

Learning to love myself and to accept that I was enough became the turning point. It became less important to prove that to others. I knew I was enough, and that was enough.

I learned to slow down—through breathing, pausing, and listening. It’s amazing what we learn when we listen and allow ourselves to not know everything. I committed to saying yes to new things, to learning what I truly liked, rather than assuming or condemning something before even trying it. Once I opened myself up, I realized how little I did know.

The answers tend to come in those quiet spaces—in the moments when we stop, find some peace, and just be. And finding that peace took time and trust. I had always felt I had good intuition, so I began to connect with that place, practicing it daily. When I’m uncertain about the next right thing, I go there to listen for the answers. They don’t always come when I’d like, but they do when they’re meant to.

I also discovered the magic of writing. When I sit and write how I feel, I’m always amazed at the insights that emerge. The answers begin to form right before my eyes.

The Power of Listening

Today, I often find myself quiet—not because I don’t have anything to say, but because I know something better might come if I just listen. And when I know I’ve done what I can, I let it go and allow it to unfold as it’s meant to. I don’t get in the way or continue doing the work I’ve already done, hoping I can force the outcome. I’ve learned the hard way that I cannot.

Allow yourself to listen and find the answers. None of us knows everything, and you might be amazed at what’s right in front of you, showing you the way. Leave room for exploration, humility, and direction. You might be surprised at what you discover if you step aside and let it in.

SLAY OF THE DAY:

  • Do you tend to overthink and overtalk? How does it show up for you?

  • Why do you think you do this? Have you always done it?

  • How does it harm you? How can you create space today to pause and just listen?

  • When have answers come to you because you allowed yourself to be quiet? Write down an example.

  • Remember: when we let go and listen, we give the answers space to come in.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way you’ll practice quieting your mind and listening for the answers today?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who struggles with overthinking or overtalking, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.