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State Of Slay
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! When you let go you create space for something better.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then… SLAY on!
When Your Past Comes Back
I recently got a phone call from someone in the same industry as me—a person I’ve known for years. They called to say some kind things that truly meant a lot. But what triggered this call was a conversation they’d had with someone I used to consider a close friend.
This former friend had abruptly ended our friendship years ago when I confronted them about behavior I found troubling—putting ambition and personal gain above authentic relationships. Fast forward to now, and they were using my name to connect with people in the industry, as if we were still close. This wasn’t the first time I’d learned they were leveraging my name, but hearing it again stirred something deep inside me.
The Stirring of Old Wounds
At first, I was stunned. Then, the anger bubbled up. How dare they use my name after cutting me off? They had no right. But as my hands trembled and my mind raced with all the things I could say, I stopped.
I took a deep breath.
Here’s the truth: calling them out, lashing back—it wouldn’t change the past or make me feel better. In fact, it would likely pull me into a spiral of frustration and negativity. Instead, I simply told the caller the truth—that this person was no longer a part of my life. I kept it factual, free of venom. I trusted the person on the other end to connect the dots.
Choosing Light Over Darkness
Not long after, I was on a video call where this same person, my former friend, appeared. They made a point to say they were there because of me. I smiled tightly and said nothing. I realized then: the truth would reveal itself in time. It always does.
What I’ve learned on this path is to stay true to myself. It’s not about winning an argument or proving someone wrong. It’s about preserving my peace, keeping my side of the street clean, and focusing on what brings me light and joy.
Letting Go of the Scorecard
Life isn’t about keeping score. People will hurt us, sometimes deeply. But carrying those grievances around only weighs us down. Every time we dwell on them, we feed the darkness instead of the light.
I’ve learned that when someone tries to pull me back into old wounds, I can choose to let go. I can choose to focus on what fills me with light. I can refuse to be dragged down a path that dims my soul.
Moving Forward with Strength
We all face moments when our past rears its head. The question is: how do we respond? Do we pick up the bitterness, or do we lay it down and walk away?
I choose to walk forward, with grace, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to my own well-being.
SLAY on.
SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise
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Have you ever confronted someone about an old hurt? How did that feel?
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If you felt relief at the moment, did it last? Or did it leave you feeling hollow?
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Do you find it hard to let things go, or do you feel pulled to dive back in?
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How do you feel after going back—empowered or depleted?
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Can you shift your focus to the present and release the chains of the past?
The past is a weight we don’t need to carry. Set yourself free today.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way you’ve chosen light over darkness in your past?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s struggling to let go of an old hurt, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a gentle reminder: we have the power to move forward.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Whatever is good for your soul, do that.
New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Dress like you’re going somewhere better later.
SLAY on!
Dress Up To Feel Up
For most of us right now, we spend most—if not all—of our time at home. With work shifts, working from home, or simply staying in, our biggest decision on wardrobe might be which pair of stretchy or sweatpants to throw on. And while that feels good for a while, it can also start to weigh us down emotionally, whether we realize it or not.
It’s amazing how dressing up—or even just getting dressed—can shift our mindset and spark a little lightness in our day.
The Power of Expression
For anyone who knows me, you know I love my fashion. I love to dress up, to express myself through what I’m wearing, and to share whatever side of my personality feels right that day. I’ve always lived by the motto that it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed.
But during these days, weeks, and dare I say months, where events, gatherings, and date nights out have disappeared, my closet isn’t seeing much use. Sure, I walk in there, take a look around, and think about what I might wear if I had somewhere to go. In the early days, I still dressed up for grocery runs or errands. But as time went on, I found myself dressing down to blend in—for safety and comfort.
That doesn’t mean, though, that I can’t throw on a cute outfit while I’m at home.
A Boost of Confidence
We take pride in looking good. Looking good often leads to feeling good. And at a time when we might feel uncertain, fearful, or just plain bored by the sameness of days at home, dressing up can give us a much-needed boost.
I’ve spoken with friends who still dress for work, even though their “office” is now their living room. They say it puts them in a professional mindset, helps them get more done, and lifts their self-esteem when they catch a glimpse of themselves looking put-together in the mirror.
For those who think that might be a bit much, or whose jobs don’t typically require dressing up, why not pick a night—maybe a Friday or Saturday—and dress up anyway? People are hosting virtual parties, dressing up for dinners or drinks with friends, or celebrating birthdays and milestones.
But why wait for an occasion? Why not celebrate yourself, just as you are?
You Deserve It
Pick out something that makes you feel good. It could be your favorite pair of jeans, a statement piece from your closet, or even a touch of sparkle. It may just be the mood boost you need during a time when your social calendar is empty.
Make the effort: do your hair, plan an outfit, put on something special—just for yourself. Because you’re worth it. You deserve to look your best.
I know I have a few sparkly things in my closet calling my name—long overdue for a spin around the house.
Create Your Own Occasion
Even if there’s no event on the calendar, create one. Make the occasion you. See how it lifts your mood, and maybe even inspires others to do the same.
Maybe tonight is the night. A Fancy Friday party. A night to remind yourself of who you are and what you love. Put on a special outfit that reminds you of a moment you felt radiant and strong.
Plan a date night at home—even if it’s a date with yourself. Show yourself appreciation, love, and respect. Let your best, beautiful self shine.
SLAY on.
SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise
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Have you been getting up and dressing for the day, or slipping into the most comfortable clothes from the day before?
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How does it make you feel when you dress up?
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How does it make you feel when you don’t?
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Do you typically enjoy dressing up?
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Have you been dressing to work from home? If yes, how does it make you feel? If not, why not?
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How do you think dressing up at home might affect your mood?
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Find a day or night to dress your best, and see if it lifts your spirits during these days at home.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
When was the last time you dressed up for yourself, and how did it make you feel?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s been feeling stuck in a routine, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a little sparkle to remind us who we are.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! When we graciously accept, both parties are blessed.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then… SLAY on!
Accept The Gifts
For many of us, it isn’t easy asking for help or accepting it. During this time, it’s near impossible to do everything on our own. Life, very often, presents opportunities for us to not only humble ourselves and ask for what we need but also offers a chance for someone else to step up and be of service.
I’ve written before that it’s okay to ask for help. In fact, when we do, most of the time, it not only helps us but also helps the person we ask. It’s funny how that works. Just like when we need to talk to someone about what we’re going through—the person we open up to usually gets just as much out of the conversation as we do.
Releasing the Armor
When I was living in the dark, it was very difficult for me to ask for help. I thought it was a sign of weakness. I was proud to push through on my own, no matter what the collateral damage was. There were times when I’d gotten myself into situations I couldn’t get out of and was forced to ask for help, and I’d beat myself up for doing it. Or, in my twisted thinking, I’d justify it—I thought the help was owed to me because of past grievances, some imagined, some real.
Eventually, I realized that asking for help was not only necessary but an act of courage. That first reach-out was terrifying, but it was also a huge relief. It was the moment I took my power back.
Practicing the Art of Acceptance
Learning to continue asking for help and accepting the gifts that came my way was its own journey. For me, finding acceptance in myself and learning to love myself was the key to accepting gifts from others—and from life. I’m not just talking about physical gifts. Gifts come in many forms: a smile, a warm hug, a kind word.
I had to learn to believe I was worthy of receiving these gifts. I had to trust there wasn’t an ulterior motive and that these gestures were given from the heart. It took time, but the more I learned to simply say thank you and accept them, the easier it became. And the more I gave of myself—my time, my kindness—the more I understood the power of these simple gestures.
Don’t Steal the Gift
When we refuse a gift or brush off a compliment, we’re telling the giver they’re wrong. That doesn’t feel good to anyone. To simply say thank you and leave it at that is a practice of grace. It allows us to learn to accept good things and allows the other person the experience of giving.
Right now, we can all benefit from both giving and receiving. But it’s essential for our spirit and self-worth to practice receiving with gratitude. When we do, it fills our hearts, shows us we’re worthy of kindness, and reminds us we deserve good things.
Don’t let pride or discomfort block these moments. Nothing happens by mistake. There’s a reason for the giver and the receiver, and it may be bigger than either of you can imagine. If you feel compelled to give, do it. If you’re the lucky recipient, smile, say thank you, and know you were chosen for a reason.
SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise
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Do you have a hard time accepting gifts? Why do you think that is?
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What was the last gift you accepted? How did it make you feel?
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What was the last gift you gave? How did that make you feel?
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Can you see how important it is to accept the gifts that come your way?
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Why do you feel others deserve gifts more than you do? Why do you think you’re not worthy?
You are worthy, SLAYER. Gifts come into our lives to show us something, to lift our spirits, or to bring us closer together. Trust that the gifts coming your way are there for a reason. Say thank you, and feel it in your heart.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one gift—big or small—you’ve accepted lately, and how did it make you feel?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s support each other.
And if you know someone who needs this reminder, send this to them.
Sometimes, a simple gesture says: “You’re worthy of good things, too.”
Slay Talk Live Video
Hey SLAYER! Thank you to those who joined me today for an hour of SLAY TALK LIVE, for those who couldn’t join us, here’s what you missed!
SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Emotions are reporters for the soul.
New blog is up Sunday, until then… SLAY on!
