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Slayer Say
Good morning SLAYER! Nothing lasts forever, the good, and the bad, so enjoy the good when it happens, and know, the bad will pass, especially when you focus on the good.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then…SLAY on!
Slayer Say
Good morning SLAYER! When you can’t find a solution to the problem, it’s probably not a problem to be solved, but a truth to be accepted. Accept the truth, move on, and let go of what no longer serves you, that is where happiness lives.
New blog goes up Friday, until then…SLAY on!
Slayer Say
Good morning SLAYER! Be Yourself. Accept Yourself. Value Yourself. Forgive Yourself. Bless Yourself. Express Yourself. Trust Yourself. Love Yourself.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then…SLAY on!
Slayer Say
Good morning SLAYER! We alone build the walls and fences shutting us off from the world around us, and we alone can take those down. Let go of the fear of letting the outside world in, be true to yourself, stand tall, and set yourself free.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then…SLAY on!
Slayer Say
Good morning SLAYER! We all make mistakes, and sometimes we hurt someone as a result of our actions, but it is how we take action after the fact that defines who we are. If and when it’s possible a simple ‘sorry’ isn’t always enough, it’s taking responsibility for the damage caused, and making amends to correct the behavior in the future or fixing the damage. We may think that we’ve done permanent damage, but miracles happen when we are open and honest about what we’ve done, the relationship may even strengthen where it had been weak.
New blog goes up Friday until then…SLAY on!
Slayer Say
Good morning SLAYER! Learning to celebrate our flaws, loving them, and turning them into strengths makes us flawsome! We have the power to do that. Loving ourselves and embracing our uniqueness gets us on the road to flawsomeness, as we continue to accept and love ourselves we work towards finding a place where we stop judging ourselves and start to shine, and that, is true perfection!
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then…SLAY on!
I’m Not Perfect, I’m Flawsome!
The picture accompanying this blog is from a time when I was definitely not flawsome, flawed yes, but not flawsome. I’ve had this picture since 2003 and, outside of the person who took it, I’ve ever only shown it one other person. This is a picture I would have never let anyone see before stepping onto this journey, and, in reality, it’s taken over 11 years of this journey for me to finally show it you today. This was not the picture of someone who had it all together, nor is it a picture of the person I had so painstakingly crafted for you all to see for most of my life. This is a person in pain, in fear, and slowly loosing her grip on all of the outside things she used to “keep it together,” I look at this person and recognize her, but I now feel compassion for her, knowing she’s still inside of me, but has learned to stand up and be proud of who she is, flaws and all, I appreciate all them because they have made me stronger, and they’ve made me flawsome!
What exactly is flawsome? Well, flawsome is learning and living to celebrate our flaws, to celebrate not being “perfect,” well there’s no such thing, so stop holding yourself up to unrealistic standards, so instead turn those things that we think make us flawed into strengths, to love ourselves, all of ourselves, for living authentically. We have the power to turn what we think are flaws into being flawsome! Now, this, not perfection, is actually something we can achieve and make happen. Are you game?
How do we do this? How do we achieve flawsomeness? Well, it’s about loving and knowing who we are. Who the heck are we? Loving ourselves unconditionally. Like I’ve said before, let your freak flag fly and be proud. It’s about forgiving yourself. Oh yeah, that again. How are you doing with that? It’s time to forgive yourself for all the things that you think make you unlovable, and well, flawed. Let that stuff go, it’s only holding you back from SLAYDOM, and for showing the world how truly flawsome you are. Look at yourself and your flaws with love, love everything about yourself, show yourself the love that you would want from others, the love starts with you, love all of you, and when we love ourselves it shows others how to love us, it shows them how we want to be loved. Stop living in the past and the future, live in the now! We can learn from the past to do things better in the future, but to sit in resentment from our past doesn’t serve us, it’s already happened and there isn’t anything we can do to change it, what can you do better next time, make a commitment to do that and move on! Focus on the positive, the things you know you are good at, celebrate those things, focus on the good and you will find more good. And, focus on the strengths and talents you know you already have, build on those, and share those with others. One of the fiercest qualities of being flawsome is sharing your flawsomeness with others, sharing the love you have for yourself and perhaps making it OK for someone to share their flawsomeness with you.
Listen, there’s nothing really flawsome about that gal in the picture above, except that she didn’t stay in that place, she, with every last bit of strength she had, got up and fought for herself and started a journey of healing and self love, unfortunately she put herself through hell for many years after this picture was taken, but she eventually got there, and now that gal up there, is this gal right here, writing these words, now that’s flawsome.
If you are feeling lost, beat down, empty, and hopeless, make today the first day of the rest of your life, you have the power to do that, the journey won’t be easy, but trust me, it’s worth every step, and, you have all of us SLAYERS by your side walking the same path.
Get out there today and be flawsome!
SLAY OF THE DAY: What makes you flawsome? Write it down. Smile SLAYER. Make a commitment today to not judge yourself, when something comes up that you feel is a flaw and needs to change, acknowledge it, smile. Write down the list of flaws that no longer serve you. How can you make those flaws flawsome? When those things come up, stop, and think before reacting, how can you make a better choice for yourself in that moment? Look at yourself with love each day. You are learning SLAYER, be kind to yourself on your way to SLAYDOM, and remember, you are flawsome!
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you
Slayer Say
Good Morning SLAYER! When our intentions are in the right place, and we know what other people’s intentions are, we are less likely to cause or run into problems because of miscommunication or lack thereof. Make sure you let your intentions be known and don’t be afraid to ask what someone else’s are. Everyone has their own reasons for getting involved and when you know the facts, you are safe.
New blog goes up Sunday…until then, SLAY on!
Slayer Say
Good Morning SLAYER! Learning to take care of your own needs is the ultimate expression of self love, when you show yourself respect and honor yourself you are better able to share that love, honor, and respect with others, and it gives you a strong foundation to handle what life throws at you. Self love is like a spell of protection from the outside world, it cushions us from life and all it’s bumps and scrapes, it gives us strength, and it teaches us a gentleness, bringing us a new-found compassion for who we are and honoring were we’ve been.
New blog goes up Friday, until then….SLAY on.
