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Good morning SLAYER! We cannot change the past but we can start a new chapter.

New blog goes up Sunday, until then… SLAY on!

State Of Slay New Start Happy Ending

Make Your Own Happy Ending

When we are kids, and I think especially us little girls, we dream of a happy ending for ourselves. I know for myself as a kid I lived a lot in my head and found fantasy much more appealing than reality, and sometimes I still do, so I dreamed up many happy ending scenarios for myself, never really knowing if I could really have one. As my life got complicated with mental illness that happy ending seemed far from reach as I struggled just to get by with daily life and the vicious cycle I found myself in. The path I was on was going to lead to anything but a happy ending if I didn’t make some changes.

Hitting my emotional and spiritual bottom got me to a place where I was desperate enough to ask for help, that action opened the door to my freedom from self. As I began to walk the path of recovery and make the necessary changes to live a healthy and happy life I began to realize that I had the power to make decisions and take action to bring me to a place where I could find my own happy ending. I wasn’t sure what that would be exactly, but I was also told I didn’t need to figure that out and take it one day at a time making each day the best I could. As I began to love and forgive myself those dark days of my past lessened I started to let myself believe in a happy ending for myself again, but I also allowed there to be room for a happy ending that may not be what I had previously planned out. See, on this path I have discovered that I most definitely don’t know everything, and that what I can imagine as the best happy ending may actually be short-changing myself because there may be something better or more suited to me that I haven’t even thought of. What I do know is what I’ve experienced and learned on my journey and what I am responsible for is doing what’s in front of my hands and making the next right decision, and if I am unsure of that next right decision, I know to ask someone I know and trust to share their thoughts on it based on their experience. By staying present and keeping an open mind and heart, doing the work in front of me, my path has taken me to places I never thought I would have traveled, and it has taken me to my very own happy ending, one that I may have dreamed of as a little girl but as an adult never really believed I could have. I, in turn, by doing the work, by listening to my heart instead of my head, by saying yes and trusting, having faith, and being true to myself made my own happy ending along with someone else, and, now it is our responsibility to continue to make our own happy ending every day.

Each of us has the power to make our own happy ending. That will look different for each of us, and that’s OK, because each of us is unique in our own way, what works for one doesn’t always work for the other, so no one can tell us what our happy ending is except us, and there is no wrong happy ending if it’s what fills us with joy. Get out there today and take action on making your happy ending a reality. SLAY on!

SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you believe there is a happy ending out there waiting for you? If not, why not? Did you ever believe there was? What changed? What does your happy ending look like? Or, do you not know? There’s no shame in not knowing, that just means you have an exciting path of discovery in front of you with a blank slate. When we take the action each day that fills our souls with love we begin to see that happy ending form in front of us, we begin to believe we deserve it and we begin to walk towards it. Find your happy ending and make it happen.

S – self  L – love  A – appreciate  Y – you

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Fear the boredom that comes with not learning and taking chances.

SLAY on!

State Of Slay True Self

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! A quiet mind is able to hear intuition over fear.

New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!

State Of Slay Dont Believe Think

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Does your brain have too many tabs open?

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Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Action always beats intention.

New blog goes up Tuesday, until then… SLAY on!

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Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! When somebody hurts you try to understand the situation instead of just trying to hurt them back.

New blog goes up Sunday, until then… SLAY on!

State Of Slay Bleed

Slay Say

Good morning SLAYER! Without your struggle you may not have stumbled on your strength.

New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!

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Good morning SLAYERS! Life has a way of evening things out, focus your energy on your own success.

SLAY on!

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Don’t Ever Pray For Justice, You Might Just Get It

We’ve all been wronged, hurt, or misled, and it’s easy to sit in our hate or anger wanting revenge, or justice, but when we sit on that space and want negative things to happen to others, we invite the darkness in. We allow that darkness to take over and dominate our thoughts and soon it makes it’s way to our actions, or, by sitting in our hate we have brought on punishment to ourselves. It’s easy to judge someone else for what they’ve done, but we may be guilty of our own crimes, and forgetting our own actions we are just as guilty and shouldn’t be so quick to only look at the actions of others. We always have a choice of how to respond to what happens to us and when we invite revenge to come in we may just get a dose back we’re not expecting.

When I made a choice to walk this path I was eager to point the finger at all the people who I thought had wronged me, who I blamed for all of my bad behavior and bad decisions, but it was pointed out to me that in most cases, the exception was when I was child, I had a choice in who I allowed into my life, who I engaged with, who I chose to trust, and how I interacted with each of those people. It was easier to play the victim and blame everyone else for my problems and to sit and plot my revenge or wish bad things on those people who I thought had hurt me. The truth was, I hurt myself, time and time again, by the choices I was making, and by sitting in that misdirected hurt I became angrier and more depressed, praying for justice didn’t make me feel any better, it fueled my hate and if I was really being honest with myself, it concerned me that the same fate I wished upon others could be coming for me. Living in the light I have been encouraged to wish what I would want for myself for others, even when they have wronged me. Now, that can be a tough one, but I have done it, many times, and it does work to keep me out of negative thinking and keep me in the light. When you’ve been hurt instead of praying for justice, pray they receive everything you would want every day for 2 weeks, trust me, you will feel better, and that anger will pass. And by doing this you let the light in, you focus on the positive and from that place real change can happen, good change. It’s like the blinders come off and we can see clearly, the whole picture, and not just what we want to see because it suits the narrative we want to tell. We, as adults, always have a part, and perhaps what has happened is there to show us changes we need to make, or to teach us something, perhaps, just maybe, we should be thanking that person for that lesson rather than condemning them.

We should never be wishing or praying for something we would not want for ourselves, when we do we are working from a place of victim-hood and not taking responsibility for our part or the power we have. Even if we are a victim of a random crime or accident, we still have a choice how we respond to what happened, and when we choose revenge we are also choosing to live in the darkness which only invites more darkness in our lives. It’s important to practice contrary action and send out good energy, even to those who may have harmed us, and it’s important to send it back to ourselves as well, as we likely contributed to our own harm. Send out positive energy and positive is what you’ll get back and what you’ll see moving forward. SLAY on!

SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you pray for revenge when you’ve been wronged, hurt or harmed? How do you feel when you do that? Does it make the situation any better? Do you find that your thoughts stay in the negative and affect your daily life? How do they do that? Does that feel good? Are you able to see your part in those situations? Do you think you could wish good things for someone who may have wronged, hurt or harmed you? Do you think you could try? Trust me SLAYER, when we are able to send out love, even to those who have not shown us love, we win, and we allow ourselves to live in the light and look for the positive in our lives. Light attracts light, and when we choose to live in it we find more, and, we find more people who also live there instead of focusing on those who do not.

S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you