When we are kids, and I think especially us little girls, we dream of a happy ending for ourselves. I know for myself as a kid I lived a lot in my head and found fantasy much more appealing than reality, and sometimes I still do, so I dreamed up many happy ending scenarios for myself, never really knowing if I could really have one. As my life got complicated with mental illness that happy ending seemed far from reach as I struggled just to get by with daily life and the vicious cycle I found myself in. The path I was on was going to lead to anything but a happy ending if I didn’t make some changes.
Hitting my emotional and spiritual bottom got me to a place where I was desperate enough to ask for help, that action opened the door to my freedom from self. As I began to walk the path of recovery and make the necessary changes to live a healthy and happy life I began to realize that I had the power to make decisions and take action to bring me to a place where I could find my own happy ending. I wasn’t sure what that would be exactly, but I was also told I didn’t need to figure that out and take it one day at a time making each day the best I could. As I began to love and forgive myself those dark days of my past lessened I started to let myself believe in a happy ending for myself again, but I also allowed there to be room for a happy ending that may not be what I had previously planned out. See, on this path I have discovered that I most definitely don’t know everything, and that what I can imagine as the best happy ending may actually be short-changing myself because there may be something better or more suited to me that I haven’t even thought of. What I do know is what I’ve experienced and learned on my journey and what I am responsible for is doing what’s in front of my hands and making the next right decision, and if I am unsure of that next right decision, I know to ask someone I know and trust to share their thoughts on it based on their experience. By staying present and keeping an open mind and heart, doing the work in front of me, my path has taken me to places I never thought I would have traveled, and it has taken me to my very own happy ending, one that I may have dreamed of as a little girl but as an adult never really believed I could have. I, in turn, by doing the work, by listening to my heart instead of my head, by saying yes and trusting, having faith, and being true to myself made my own happy ending along with someone else, and, now it is our responsibility to continue to make our own happy ending every day.
Each of us has the power to make our own happy ending. That will look different for each of us, and that’s OK, because each of us is unique in our own way, what works for one doesn’t always work for the other, so no one can tell us what our happy ending is except us, and there is no wrong happy ending if it’s what fills us with joy. Get out there today and take action on making your happy ending a reality. SLAY on!
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you believe there is a happy ending out there waiting for you? If not, why not? Did you ever believe there was? What changed? What does your happy ending look like? Or, do you not know? There’s no shame in not knowing, that just means you have an exciting path of discovery in front of you with a blank slate. When we take the action each day that fills our souls with love we begin to see that happy ending form in front of us, we begin to believe we deserve it and we begin to walk towards it. Find your happy ending and make it happen.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you