Fear can show up in sneaky ways. It did just the other day—while talking with a group of women, someone brought up fear, and we all shifted in our seats.
There’s a lot of uncertainty in the world right now. And with uncertainty often comes fear. But most fear doesn’t live in the present—it lives in the past or the future. That’s what makes it so tricky. It takes us out of the only place where we have power: the now.
When I feel fear creeping in—and I have, especially recently—I bring myself back to the present. I ground myself in gratitude. I focus on my breath. I ask: How is my now?
Because right now, in this moment, I’m okay.
Living Outside the Now
Before I began walking this path, I didn’t live in the now. I lived everywhere but here. I obsessed over what had already happened or worried about what might come next. I was spinning—and because I wasn’t grounded in the present, I couldn’t take meaningful action.
My life became unmanageable. Fear ran the show. And instead of facing what was in front of me, I avoided it. I let things slide. I convinced myself that if I ignored the chaos long enough, it might resolve itself. Spoiler: it didn’t.
Eventually, the only way forward was through. I had to stop hiding from the now and start making peace with it. Slowly, the present stopped feeling like a battlefield and started becoming a place of peace—a space where I could reflect, reset, and realign.
The more I committed to living in the now, the less power fear had over me. It still visits, of course. But today, I don’t let it drive. I stay focused on the moment—and when I do, I can breathe again.
Return to What’s in Front of You
We don’t know what tomorrow holds. We can’t change what’s already happened. But we can choose how we show up today.
Even when life feels uncertain, we can find clarity by focusing on what’s in front of us. One step. One breath. One moment at a time.
This is how we quiet the fear. This is how we get grounded.
And if the now doesn’t feel great? That’s okay. The present is still the place where change can happen. We get to respond differently. We get to choose a new direction.
Ask yourself: How is my now? And if you don’t like the answer, know that this is the best place to begin again.
SLAY on.
SLAY Reflection: How Is Your Now?
- Do you often get pulled into the past or future? How does that impact your emotional state?
- What role does fear play in your life when you’re not present?
- How do you feel when you manage to stay grounded in the now?
- What tools or habits help you return to the present moment?
- If today feels heavy, what’s one thing you can do right now to lighten the load?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way you’re bringing yourself back to the now when fear tries to take over?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s stuck in fear or uncertainty, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a moment of presence to find our power again.
