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Mental Health
Be Informed, Not Consumed
When the world feels uncertain, it’s natural to search for answers. We scroll, click, refresh—hoping that one more headline will bring us peace. But more often than not, the opposite happens. We become consumed.
In times of crisis, fear drives us to seek control. And in today’s world, control often looks like consuming as much information as possible. With news available 24/7, alerts pinging constantly, and social media spinning every story into a wildfire—it’s easy to lose ourselves in the noise.
Staying informed is important. But there’s a difference between being informed and being overwhelmed. There’s a line where knowledge becomes anxiety, and awareness turns into obsession. If we want to stay grounded, present, and well—we have to learn how to navigate that line.
When the Need to Know Becomes Too Much
Before I began this journey of healing and self-awareness, I didn’t know where that line was. When national tragedies or global emergencies happened, I’d get hooked. I’d sit in front of the news for hours, scroll endlessly, and tell myself, “I just need to stay updated.”
But the more I consumed, the more I spiraled. I wasn’t calming my fear—I was feeding it.
And here’s what I’ve learned: when I don’t check in with myself, when I don’t have balance in my day, my mind will find the darkness. If I give my energy to fear-based media or worst-case-scenario stories, that part of my brain that wants to spiral takes over—and fast.
We See What We Seek
It’s true: we find what we’re looking for.
If we’re looking for fear, we’ll find fear. If we’re looking for anger, grief, chaos—we’ll find it, and then some. But if we make the choice to seek calm, hope, and positivity, we’ll start to notice those stories too.
Our perception is shaped by what we consume and who we surround ourselves with. The news we follow, the conversations we engage in, the content we share—it all matters. It all shapes our internal world.
That’s why I’ve learned to set boundaries. I limit the content I consume. I check my sources. And then, I require balance: something that feeds my mind, something that fuels my body, and something that lifts my spirit.
When I follow that formula, I feel grounded. I feel like me.
Information Is a Tool—Not a Lifestyle
In this 24-hour news cycle, information never stops. But that doesn’t mean you have to keep consuming it nonstop.
Just because it’s available doesn’t mean it’s healthy. We don’t need to know everything in real-time. We don’t have to refresh the feed to feel in control. Sometimes, turning the news off is the healthiest decision we can make.
Information should support you—not suffocate you. It’s meant to help you make informed decisions for your life and your family. But it should never be the thing that consumes your energy, time, or peace.
Take the Break You Deserve
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or hopeless—it might be time to check in.
Ask yourself:
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How much news have I consumed today?
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Have I moved my body?
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Have I taken a deep breath?
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Have I laughed, reached out to someone, or stepped outside?
The news will still be there when you get back. But your peace needs to be protected now.
Take the break. Put the phone down. Fold up the paper. Let your mind rest. Engage with your life—your real, tangible, beautiful life.
SLAY Reflection
Let’s check in together, SLAYER:
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S: Do you find yourself consumed by news or social media during difficult times?
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L: How does this impact your mental, emotional, and physical health?
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A: What’s one boundary you can set today to create more balance?
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Y: What can you add into your daily routine to feed your spirit and shift your focus back to the present?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
How are you protecting your peace while staying informed?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s feeling overwhelmed by the noise, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
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Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! The waters may be rough, but it’s our choice whether we succumb to the waves or learn to surf.
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How Does This Make Us Better?
Every challenge carries a choice. It can break us—or it can shape us.
Some of the hardest moments in my life are also the ones that changed me the most. Even the night I nearly lost my life—by all accounts, a night I shouldn’t have survived—eventually became a turning point. That experience didn’t just shake me, it redefined me. Not instantly, and not without pain, but over time, it became the spark for something more.
At first, I didn’t feel lucky to be alive. I felt guilty. I questioned whether my life was worth saving. What had I done to deserve another chance? Was I doing enough with the life I had?
But as I worked through the survivor’s guilt, something shifted. I began to see the opportunity in front of me—not just to live, but to give back. To take stock of my life. To use my pain for purpose.
And that’s what ultimately inspired me to create this blog—to take the hardest parts of my journey and turn them into a light for someone else.
The Darkness Doesn’t Last Forever
When you’re in the middle of it—whatever it is—it’s hard to imagine things getting better.
I remember thinking the darkness was permanent. That I’d never see light again. I hid. I shut down. I told myself if I admitted how bad things were, people would think I was broken.
But that wasn’t true.
The truth is, it took someone else shining their light to help me find my own. One person shared their story. One person reached out. And that small gesture gave me just enough hope to believe that maybe—just maybe—things could change.
Fighting my way out took honesty, stamina, and support. And I didn’t do it alone. I still don’t. Fourteen years later, I still lean on the people in my corner. Because healing isn’t a one-time event—it’s a daily choice.
Turn the Pain Into Purpose
As I began to untangle my past, I started to see how it could be used for good.
The darkness I had once resented became a foundation for something bigger. A way to connect with others. A way to offer hope. A way to create change.
The truth is, we don’t just “get through” hard things. We grow through them.
Every difficult season gave me a tool—resilience, compassion, boundaries, forgiveness. And with each tool, life became a little more manageable.
I’ve learned to ask for help. I’ve learned how to stay in the light. And I’ve learned that even when I don’t have the answers, I can reach out to someone who does.
None of this happened in isolation. And it wasn’t meant to. We’re not built to walk this path alone.
We’re Always in This Together
There’s a hashtag I see a lot: #WereInThisTogether. And while it’s been used to describe difficult global seasons, the truth is—it applies to all of life.
We are always in this together.
It’s easy to forget that when things are going well. But in moments of pain, we remember: we need each other.
And when we remember that, we grow stronger—not just as individuals, but as a collective.
When we rise, we lift others with us.
When we heal, we make space for others to do the same.
Choosing to Come Out Better
Right now, we all have a little more time to think. Life has slowed down, and in the pause, there’s a chance to reflect.
So here’s a question worth asking: How does this make me better?
Not how does this break me—but how can I use this to grow?
How can I take this struggle, this shift, this pause—and turn it into purpose?
That’s where real transformation happens. In the questions. In the actions. In the moments we choose light over darkness, connection over isolation, growth over fear.
We all have room to grow. We all have ways to get better. The choice is ours—every single day.
So what will you choose today?
SLAY Reflection
Take a moment, SLAYER, and reflect:
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S: Have difficult times in your life led to personal growth? What did you learn?
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L: Are there past challenges you now see as defining moments? What shifted?
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A: What can you take from your current season and use to grow or help someone else?
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Y: What’s one positive change you can commit to today that will lead you closer to your best self?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What lessons have you taken from your darkest moments, and how did they shape who you are today?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s still in the dark, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! One reason people resist pain is because they focus on what they have to give up, not what they’re going to gain.
New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Pain is real, but so is hope.
SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! What is meant to be will always find it’s way.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then… SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Our greatest ability is to learn and adapt.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then… SLAY on!
Slay Say
Good morning SLAYER! Your day is not ruined. Your world is not over. Take a deep breath and start over.
New blog goes up Friday, until then… SLAY on!
