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You Can Start Your Day Over At Any Time

Even when we wake up with the best intentions—determined not to let the world, our own mood, or the actions of others throw us off course—things can still derail. Maybe a negative thought creeps in, or an unexpected challenge throws us for a loop, and just like that, our good day starts spiraling. It’s easy to let it snowball into frustration or defeat.

But here’s the thing: we always have the power to reset.
No matter how far off track things feel, we can hit pause, regroup, and start fresh.

I like to joke that when technology stops working, my go-to solution is to “plug it out.” Unplugging and reconnecting works wonders for electronics—and it works for us too. When in doubt, take a deep breath, step back, and give yourself a fresh start.

From All or Nothing to Progress Over Perfection

When I was living in the dark, I was trapped by an all-or-nothing mindset. I’d start my day determined to be positive, but as soon as something went wrong—or as soon as negative thoughts piled up—I’d throw in the towel. One setback, and I’d tell myself the whole day was ruined.

What I didn’t realize was that I was giving away my power. My day didn’t have to be derailed just because I’d made a mistake or things weren’t perfect. When I began to embrace this path of growth and self-love, I learned to see each setback as an opportunity to learn.

Instead of beating myself up, I’d ask: What can I do differently next time?
I practiced gratitude, wrote down positive affirmations, and even carried a list of things I was thankful for in my pocket to remind me that I could always choose to see things differently. And when all else failed, I’d reach out to help someone else—because getting out of my own head and being of service always helped me reset.

A Reset is Always Within Reach

It’s easy to let a bad moment hijack our whole day. But we don’t have to let it.
We have the power to stop, breathe, and start over at any moment.

You are not a victim of your thoughts or circumstances.
You are not bound by your old patterns.
You can choose—again and again—to turn things around.

Remember, every day is a new chance, and every moment is an opportunity to begin again.

SLAY on.

SLAY OF THE DAY

Do you give yourself a restart when your day takes you off course?
Or do you let it pull you down?
How long do you stay stuck? Why?
What stories do you tell yourself about deserving to stay down?
Have you found ways to restart your day? What are they?
When you hit the restart button, what message are you sending yourself?
It’s okay to mess up or feel frustrated—but what matters is what you choose to do next.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
When was the last time you gave yourself permission to restart your day? How did it feel?
Share your experience in the comments below. Let’s lift each other up with stories of resilience and reset.
And if you know someone who could use this reminder, send this blog their way.
We rise by lifting each other.

Let’s Not Forget Who We Are

It’s easy to fall into the whirlwind of fear, panic, and media overload. It’s easy to retreat inward, to think only of ourselves and our immediate circle. But now more than ever, it’s crucial to pause and remember the truth of who we are.

We are resilient.
We are survivors.
We are, if we allow ourselves to be, heroes.

In my lifetime, I’ve seen us rise in the face of adversity. During times of uncertainty—whether caused by health crises, security threats, or social unrest—there have always been those who stood tall, offering kindness, generosity, and a steady hand.

Lately, I’ve noticed the shift. At the grocery store, I’ve felt the undercurrent of fear, witnessed the frantic hoarding, the wary glances as people clutch their carts. That isn’t our best. Fear shrinks us. But we can choose differently.

Stepping Out of Fear and Into Service

As someone who once lived in constant fear and anxiety, I understand what it feels like to be paralyzed by “what ifs.” I used to hide behind drawn blinds, isolating myself from the world. But not anymore. Today, I show up. For myself. For others.

Fear doesn’t have to define us. When we act with compassion, even small gestures—like offering a smile or a supportive word—can shift the energy around us. Our actions ripple outward. We impact more lives than we realize.

Holding Onto Our Humanity

I know so many of you SLAYERS have fought through personal challenges, faced down fear, and kept moving forward. This moment is no different. We can walk through it with grace and compassion. We can check on our neighbors, offer help, and think beyond ourselves.

Even as we adapt to new ways of showing care—like elbow bumps instead of hugs, virtual support instead of in-person—our core humanity remains. This moment will pass, as all things do. When it does, how will you feel about who you were during this time?

SLAY OF THE DAY

Do you find yourself consumed by fear with the current world events?
Is that fear real in your daily life today—or is it false evidence appearing real?
How can you stay grounded and out of fear?
How can you be of service today—to yourself and those around you?
What can you do today to find a sense of normalcy?
What can you do today that you’ll appreciate or thank yourself for later?
This is your chance to rise above the fear and show the best of who you are.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear your thoughts.
How are you staying grounded in these uncertain times? What small act of kindness or service are you committing to today?
Share in the comments below. Let’s lift each other up and remind one another of our strength and humanity.
And if you know someone who could use this message, share it with them.
We rise by lifting each other.

One Voice In A Large Choir

It started with a single tap. Then another. Then a steady rhythm.

I was sitting in my car when the rain began to fall. It started slow—one drop, then another—until it became a chorus. And as I sat listening, it reminded me of the beginning of my recovery journey.

That quiet build into something greater reflected what it felt like to go from being alone to being part of a group. From silence to solidarity. From isolation to inclusion.

Becoming a “Group Person”

For a long time, I insisted I wasn’t a group person. I told myself I preferred one-on-one connection, that I worked better alone. And in some ways, that was true. But it was also a shield. A story I told myself to avoid being seen too closely.

When I started recovery, I was encouraged to join a group. Just try it, they said. Keep an open mind. So I did—nervously, reluctantly, with my heart pounding in my chest.

As I scanned the room that first night, I was sure I didn’t belong. These people looked “normal.” They laughed. They smiled. I made a quiet deal with myself: stay for the hour, then leave.

But then a woman began to speak. And what she shared—her pain, her fear, her struggle—sounded a lot like mine. My guard dropped just a little. I kept listening. More voices joined in. Not every story mirrored my own, but enough did. And for the first time in a long time, I didn’t feel alone.

From Loner to One of Many

I kept going. Not just to that meeting, but to others.

Even when it was hard to speak. Even when it felt awkward to introduce myself. Even when all I could do was sit and listen—I showed up. And slowly, I found myself becoming part of something.

For someone who had always prided herself on independence, this shift felt strange—but also incredibly healing. There’s power in walking into a room where no one needs you to be anyone other than who you are that day.

In group, we’re not our resumes. We’re not our past mistakes. We’re not our fears. We’re just people—trying, learning, healing. Together.

And eventually, I stopped saying I wasn’t a group person. Because I realized I’d become one.

The Strength of a Shared Voice

There’s strength in numbers, but more importantly, there’s connection in numbers.

When we come together with a shared purpose—whether it’s healing, growing, or simply supporting one another—we amplify each other’s voices. We lift one another up. We carry each other forward.

Being part of a group reminded me that I don’t have to do this alone. And more than that, it reminded me that I don’t want to.

That lesson followed me outside of recovery. I began to see how I could be part of something bigger in all areas of my life—work, community, friendships. Today, I don’t walk into a room wondering what I can get. I ask myself what I can give. Even if it’s just a kind word or a warm smile.

You Still Matter in the Crowd

Some of us naturally gravitate toward solitude. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

But if we never join in, we might miss the magic of what happens when our voice joins others. A single voice is beautiful—but a choir? That’s transformation.

Your story, your energy, your experience—they’re all valuable. And when you bring them into a shared space, you become part of something powerful.

Don’t underestimate the impact of your presence. Sometimes showing up is the biggest gift you can give—to others and to yourself.

SLAY Reflection

Let’s reflect, SLAYER:

  • S: Do you naturally lean toward solitude or connection? Why do you think that is?

  • L: What fears come up for you in group settings, and where do those fears stem from?

  • A: Have you ever felt seen or supported by a group? What made that experience meaningful?

  • Y: How can you contribute your voice to a group or community today—without needing it to be perfect, just honest?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
Have you ever discovered strength or healing by joining a group or community?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s afraid to take that first step into a group, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Selfishness Leads To Suffering

We all want peace, fulfillment, and connection—but we can’t get there by putting ourselves first at the expense of others. I learned this the hard way.

When Selfishness Masquerades as Selflessness

Selfishness, by definition, is lacking consideration for others—being concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure. When I was living in my illness, I often operated from a selfish place, though I wouldn’t have admitted it. In fact, I convinced myself I was doing others a favor. But my motives were always self-serving, even if I masked them in acts of kindness. And when we act with impure intentions, even if we get what we wanted, it rarely feels good for long.

The truth? That kind of gratification is short-lived. It may look shiny on the outside, but the emptiness we feel afterward speaks volumes. Selfishness, no matter how cleverly disguised, leads to suffering. For me, it did—over and over again.

Getting Honest with Myself

The moment I decided to get help was the moment I was told I had to get honest—with others and with myself. That sent me into a full-blown anxiety spiral. Honesty meant confronting the wreckage I had left behind, facing the truth that much of my pain was self-inflicted.

But as I began doing the work, I realized something: by identifying where I had been selfish, I could finally stop carrying the weight of guilt and shame. I could make amends—sometimes directly, and sometimes through my actions moving forward. The idea of a “living amends” helped me break free from the belief that I was doomed to repeat my mistakes.

We’re only doomed to repeat what we refuse to acknowledge.

The Power of Motivation

One of the most valuable tools I’ve gained over the last 14 years is asking myself, What’s your motivation? Before I act, I pause. If I’m doing something with even a sliver of expectation, I check myself.

Real kindness, real service, comes with no strings attached. When our actions are rooted in the desire to simply do what’s right—or to make someone’s day a little brighter—we find peace. But when we act from a place of ego, validation-seeking, or self-interest, suffering follows.

That doesn’t mean every decision must be self-sacrificing. It means our actions should come from truth. When you’re honest about your intentions, you create room for growth, peace, and real connection.

You Don’t Have to Be Perfect—Just Honest

Even now, I sometimes catch myself slipping into old patterns. That’s okay. Awareness is everything. The difference today is that I know how to pause, reassess, and choose a different path. I don’t pretend I have it all figured out. I just stay willing to learn—and that willingness keeps me free.

We all have the capacity to reflect, correct, and grow. The work isn’t about perfection. It’s about integrity. When your heart is in the right place, it shows.

And when we each commit to doing what’s right—not just for ourselves, but for those around us—we rise. Together.

SLAY on.

SLAY Reflection

  1. What typically motivates your actions—selfless intention or personal gain?
  2. Have you ever justified a selfish act as something noble? How did that affect you?
  3. Can you recall a time when you acted with pure intention and it brought unexpected peace?
  4. What steps can you take to check your motives before making a decision?
  5. Are there areas in your life where you can practice more self-awareness and accountability?

S-L-A-Y:

  • Start being honest about your intentions.
  • Let go of manipulative patterns masked as kindness.
  • Act with integrity, even when no one’s watching.
  • You are worthy of peace—and it starts with truth.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What helps you check your motives before taking action?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s working on self-awareness and growth, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Nothing Fear-Based Is Real

Fear is a liar—but it’s a convincing one. I didn’t always know I was living in fear. In fact, for most of my life, I thought I was just being careful. But when I finally got honest with myself, I realized every decision I made was rooted in fear—fear of not being enough, fear of losing what I had, fear of being judged, fear of being alone.

And none of it was real.

Fear Doesn’t Live in the Present

Fear loves to play in the shadows of the past and the “what ifs” of the future. But when we ground ourselves in this moment, we realize that most of the things we’re afraid of? Aren’t actually happening.

When I finally started to live in the present, my fears—those loud, relentless voices—quieted down. They didn’t vanish overnight, but they lost their grip. Fear thrives on secrecy and silence. When I finally opened up about my truth, I wasn’t met with rejection. I was met with compassion. That was the moment I learned that fear’s power depended entirely on my willingness to believe it.

When You Speak the Truth, Fear Loses Its Voice

Fear told me that if I shared what I was going through, people would walk away. That I’d be labeled “crazy.” That no one would understand. And for a long time, I believed it.

But the moment I found the courage to speak up, something miraculous happened: no one ran. Instead, they leaned in. They listened. They helped. And in that moment, I realized: my fear had been lying to me all along.

Fear is cunning. It will dress up as protection. It will whisper old stories from the past and pretend they still apply. But when we act in contrary motion—when we move forward anyway—we take our power back.

Feel the Fear, Then Do It Anyway

Fear still shows up in my life, but now I know to ask:

  • Is this fear true right now?
  • Is this fear based on fact or just feeling?
  • Am I responding to reality or a recycled lie?

I’ve learned to breathe, to pause, and to stay present. And when fear tries to get loud again, I remind myself: “Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will.”

That’s not just a quote—it’s a truth I’ve lived.

The Power to Break Free Has Always Been Yours

There’s a difference between the fear that keeps us safe and the fear that keeps us small. The latter is what robs us of opportunity, connection, and joy. And here’s the truth: you are not powerless against it.

The more you speak your truth, the weaker fear becomes. And the more you move in spite of fear, the stronger you become. So today, choose truth over fear. Choose growth over comfort. Choose you.

Fear may knock, but it doesn’t get to live here anymore.

SLAY on.

SLAY Reflection

  1. Do you let fear control your life or stop you from going after what you want?
  2. What past situations did fear prevent you from experiencing fully?
  3. Can you identify a recent moment where fear held you back? How could you respond differently next time?
  4. When have you done something despite fear? How did that make you feel?
  5. If fear wasn’t in the driver’s seat, what would you pursue today?

S-L-A-Y:

  • See fear for what it is—a story, not a sentence.
  • Let yourself feel it, but don’t let it lead.
  • Act in spite of it.
  • You get to reclaim the pen and write a new ending.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one fear you’re ready to stop believing in today?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s letting fear write their story, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

If You’re Thinking Long You’re Thinking Wrong

Overthinking is something most of us know all too well. Whether we’re trying to talk ourselves into a decision we know deep down isn’t right, delaying a choice we don’t want to face, or spinning our wheels in solo analysis instead of asking for help—we waste a lot of time trying to force a result that usually isn’t meant for us.

I’ve done it more times than I can count. I would think a situation to death, trying to make it make sense or to justify an action I wanted to take. And almost always, that thinking led me in circles. No resolution. No peace. Just more confusion.

Thinking Isn’t the Problem—Overthinking Is

There’s value in pausing to make a thoughtful choice. But when that pause becomes paralysis? That’s usually a red flag.

In my past, I often sat in silence with my thoughts. I wouldn’t share them. I wouldn’t ask for help. I just stayed stuck—spinning in fear, doubt, and self-sabotage. My negative inner voice had full control, and the longer I stayed in my head, the more power I gave it. That thinking nearly cost me my life. Because at some point, I had to face the truth: my thinking alone wasn’t always trustworthy.

Recovery taught me something vital: just because I think it doesn’t make it true. And just because I want something to work, doesn’t mean it’s right.

Gut Check: What’s Really Going On?

When we find ourselves overthinking, it’s often because we’re trying to:

  • Force something that isn’t right
  • Avoid something we don’t want to face
  • Convince ourselves to go against our intuition

Sometimes, our mind will fight our gut. Our fear will argue with our truth. That’s why it’s so important to stay honest—and to talk it out with someone you trust.

You don’t have to think your way out of everything alone. Insight often comes when we open up, ask questions, and let others help us see clearly.

Action Beats Inaction

Long thinking is often a mask for fear. But taking action—even one small step—can break the loop.

If you’ve been stuck in thought, ask yourself:

  • What am I really afraid of?
  • What’s one action I can take to move forward?
  • Who can I talk to about this?

Not every decision needs weeks of thought. Sometimes, you already know the answer—you’re just scared to act on it.

Trust yourself enough to try. And if it’s the wrong move? You can course correct. But don’t let thinking be the reason you stay stuck.

SLAY on.

SLAY Reflection: What’s Keeping You Stuck?

  • Do you find yourself overthinking important decisions? What does that usually look like for you?
  • Have you talked yourself out of action before? Why?
  • What’s one decision you’ve been sitting on for too long?
  • What’s one step you can take today to move forward?
  • Who could you talk to for clarity or support?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one decision you’re ready to stop overthinking and finally act on?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s stuck in their head, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a little clarity—and a nudge to begin.

You Can Get Anything Done If You Don’t Need Credit For It

We live in a world obsessed with recognition—likes, shares, shout-outs. But what if your greatest impact comes from what no one sees? What if your legacy isn’t built on applause, but on quiet action? What if you stopped needing credit and just… did the thing?

That was a tough pill for me to swallow. I used to chase validation like it was the prize. If I didn’t get credit, did it even count? I justified everything I did—calling it generous, kind, helpful—but really, I wanted to be seen. I wanted acknowledgment. I wanted control. But all of that masked a deeper truth: I needed to feel enough.

When I began my recovery journey, I was given a powerful suggestion: do something kind for someone—and don’t tell anyone about it. At first, that felt… impossible. If no one knew, how could I feel worthy? But I tried it anyway. And you know what? It worked. Doing good for the sake of doing good shifted something in me.

You Don’t Need Credit to Be Powerful

Let’s be real—most of us were raised in a world where “good behavior” came with gold stars. We learned that praise = worth. But here’s the truth:

When you stop seeking applause, you start discovering real power.

Doing the right thing just because it’s right builds integrity, resilience, and self-trust. It silences the inner critic. It quiets the noise. And it rewires our motivation—not for performance, but for purpose.

If your only fuel is someone else’s approval, you’ll run out of gas fast. But when you’re moved by values, by love, by truth—you become unstoppable.

Get Focused On the Mission—Not the Applause

Too often we place the success of something on whether or not it’s recognized. We post, we share, we wait for the reaction—and when it doesn’t come? We question ourselves. We downplay the win. We wonder if it was worth it.

But here’s the thing: You get to be proud even if no one claps.

The moment you detach from needing praise, you become free. Free to create. Free to give. Free to lead. When your validation comes from within, the outside world can’t shake you.

That’s how you build self-esteem—by doing esteemable acts, especially when no one is watching. Your self-worth isn’t in their hands. It never was.

Do It for You—And Let That Be Enough

Start by asking yourself: Why am I doing this? Is it to feel connected? To make a difference? To step into your purpose? Let that be your anchor.

And when you do something kind, bold, or brave? Sit with it. Let the moment speak for itself. No need to announce it. No need to chase praise. You already did the thing.

That’s the win. That’s the reward. That’s the work.

You are enough—without the tag, the trophy, or the credit. Just you, showing up in quiet, powerful ways. That’s the kind of SLAY that shifts the world.

SLAY Reflection

  1. Do you struggle with needing validation after you’ve achieved something?
  2. How does seeking credit impact your relationships—with others or yourself?
  3. Have you ever done something anonymously or without recognition? How did it feel?
  4. What motivates you more—acknowledgment or impact?
  5. What would change if you started measuring success by how you feel rather than how you’re seen?

S-L-A-Y:

  • Serve from a place of purpose, not praise.
  • Let go of the need for credit.
  • Act with integrity—especially when no one’s watching.
  • You define your own worth.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
Have you ever done something powerful without needing credit? How did that change you?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s stuck waiting for approval, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Guilt Is Trying To Control The Past, Fear Is Trying To Control The Future

All we have control over is the right here and now. And even then, really, we only have control over how we respond to it. Sure, we can take action to work toward a goal, or choose actions that align with our best selves, but control, in the way we often seek it, is an illusion.

When we try to control the uncontrollable, we send ourselves spinning off into a task we cannot complete. Many times, our need or want for control manifests itself in guilt and fear. We feel guilt over what we have done in the past, over words unspoken or actions not taken. We feel fear about what has yet to happen, worrying we won’t do what we should or won’t get what we want. Neither of these places is a healthy place to live.

Instead of pouring energy into trying to control what has already happened or what has yet to come, we should focus on what we can do in this given moment.

The Trap of Guilt and Fear

When I was living in the dark, I spent a lot of time in the past and the future. The present felt lonely and terrifying. Even though I found no real comfort in reliving the past or projecting into the future, it still seemed better than facing where I was.

I spent thousands of hours berating myself over past moments, decisions, and imagined better responses. I sat paralyzed with fear over what might come next. This cycle of guilt and fear kept me sick for years, until finally the present moment became too unbearable to ignore.

Learning to Stay in the Now

It took a lot of courage to sit in the present, to truly listen, to sit still, and to focus only on what was in front of me. It was deeply uncomfortable at first. My anxiety would spike. But I was told to breathe through it, to find some comfort there. It took a lot of breathing, but the breath was the key to walking through my anxious thoughts and learning to stay rooted in the here and now.

Like any new behavior, the more it is practiced, the easier it gets—leaving room for days when it still feels almost impossible. But with willingness, it’s a practice that can be strengthened.

Reflection and Awareness

Today, my mind still wanders back to the past or into the future, but I know I can’t control either. When it happens, I take note of why. Is there unfinished business? Is my mind leaping forward because I’m avoiding something in the present?

I’ve learned that I can’t control life—past, present, or future—but I can control how I respond to it. I can control the actions I take to prepare for what’s to come and the steps I take to stay true to my path today.

The Freedom of Presence

It’s easy to escape the present by dwelling on the past or fretting over the future. But doing so robs us of the moments right in front of us—the ones that deserve our respect and love.

We all have an abundance of choices each day. All we can do is the best we can in each moment. Yes, we may look back and wish we’d done things differently, but instead of guilt, we can use those lessons to guide us. When we implement those lessons in our present day, we free ourselves from unnecessary fear about the future.

All we truly have is right here, right now. The next move is yours to make—choose the one that keeps you grounded.

SLAY on.

SLAY OF THE DAY:

  • Do you tend to live in the past or future?

  • What is the result of that?

  • How does it help you? How does it harm you?

  • What keeps you from living in the present moment?

  • How can you change that?

  • What do you try to control in your life? Are you able to?

  • How does it affect you when you can’t?

  • Do you suffer from guilt or fear? How so?
    SLAYER, the action we can take is in this moment—everything else is out of our hands. Use this moment to do something your future self will thank you for.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
Do you find yourself stuck in guilt or fear? How do you bring yourself back to the present moment?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s wrestling with guilt or fear, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Looking Through Your Own Tinted Glasses

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how we see life through our own lens. How easy it is to adjust the tint to suit the story we want to tell—or the one we’re trying to avoid.

Because the truth is, when we keep those glasses on, we keep ourselves from seeing what’s real.

The Comfortable Distortion

When I was living in the dark, I wore every shade of tinted glasses you can imagine. I’d change the lens to match my mood, my fears, or the lies I was telling myself.

Reality? I didn’t want to face it. It was too painful. Too overwhelming. Too raw.

So I hid. I convinced myself that my version of the story—my distorted, safer version—was enough. I ignored the cracks in my life, the hurt I was causing myself and others, and I justified it all with the filters I chose to wear.

But eventually, the truth caught up with me. And when it did, I realized how small and dark my world had become.

Taking Off the Glasses

It wasn’t easy. Seeing life without those filters meant facing the choices I’d made, the damage I’d done, and the lies I’d told. It meant admitting that I was the one holding myself back.

But in that hard truth, I found something I hadn’t expected: hope.

I discovered that even when the view was painful, it was honest. It was real. And it gave me a path forward.

As I began my journey of recovery, I learned to live in reality. To lean on others who were also learning to live in their truth. To reach out for help when my reality felt overwhelming.

And over time, I realized that reality—messy, uncomfortable, imperfect—is where life really happens.

Seeing Life Clearly

These days, I still feel the temptation to slip those tinted glasses back on when life gets hard. But I remind myself that hiding doesn’t solve anything. It just keeps me stuck.

Reality can be painful. But it’s also where growth lives. It’s where connections deepen, where healing begins, and where we finally get to see ourselves—truly see ourselves.

And the more I practice living in the clear, the more I realize how much beauty there is in truth.

SLAY on.

SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise

Do you tend to hide behind tinted glasses to avoid facing your truth?
What fears or stories are you using those lenses to cover up?
What might your life look like if you took them off today?
How can you begin practicing honesty with yourself and those around you?
What’s one small step you can take today to start living in the clear?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one truth you’re ready to face today?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s struggling to see reality, send this to them.
Sometimes, a small nudge is all it takes to lift the veil.

Suicide By Installment

When I look back at how I used to live, I can clearly see how my behaviors and choices led me to the edge of my emotional, spiritual, and physical bottom. I didn’t wake up every day actively wanting to die, but it felt like I was slowly choosing to end my suffering through the choices I was making—death by installment.

At the time, I couldn’t see another solution to the pain I was in. I wasn’t sharing my struggles with anyone, so the only voice I heard was the negative one in my head, and it told me I was right. I wouldn’t have said I was on a path of self-destruction, but now, standing nearly 14 years beyond my worst, I can see it clearly.

Recognizing the Patterns

It’s always easier to see patterns in hindsight—the choices, the behaviors, the downward slide. When you’re in it, it’s much harder to see just how far you’ve fallen. Often, the people around us can see it, but while we’re caught in the spiral, we’re rarely willing to hear it.

In my life, there were countless signs that my actions were compromising my safety, health, and spirit. There were moments that should have been wake-up calls. But instead of asking for help, I brushed them off and kept going.

At first, I lived in denial. When things went wrong, I’d tell myself it wasn’t that bad. But denial eventually gave way to shame, guilt, and finally, apathy. I stopped caring. And when you stop caring about your own well-being, you’re playing a dangerous game—one that could end in disaster.

I’m incredibly fortunate that someone came into my life who recognized what was happening. They shared their story of recovery with me, and for the first time, I saw hope. They showed me that a different life was possible—if I was willing to work for it. Thankfully, I was.

The Power of Choice

Many of us engage in self-harming behaviors—whether it’s neglecting our physical health, ignoring our mental and spiritual wellness, or taking risks that put us in danger. Sometimes it’s subtle, and sometimes it’s glaring. But no matter how it shows up, it’s a slow march toward destruction.

The truth is, we hold the key to our own well-being. It takes rigorous honesty and humility to look at the choices we’re making and ask ourselves: Are these choices serving me? Or am I slowly writing a story of decline, one installment at a time?

A Turning Point

For me, the turning point came when I was willing to face the truth—that I was living in a way that was harming me, that I was denying myself the life I deserved. I had to be honest, with myself and with others, and I had to surrender.

That surrender wasn’t weakness. It was strength. It was reclaiming my power and choosing to live.

Where Are You Today?

We all make choices every day. Some lead us closer to the light, and some drag us deeper into the shadows. The question is: Are you making choices that honor your life and your worth?

If you’re on a path that’s slowly breaking you down, it’s time to stop. It’s time to ask for help, to speak your truth, to make a different choice. You deserve more. But first, you have to believe that.

SLAY OF THE DAY:

  • Looking back at your life, do you feel you’ve made choices that serve you? If not, why not?

  • Have you changed the way you live to reflect more positive, life-affirming choices?

  • Are you still making choices that harm you or lead you down a destructive path?

  • What can you do today to stop this cycle?

  • Do you believe you deserve to live a healthy, fulfilling life? If not, why not?

You matter, SLAYER. I believe that. Now it’s time for you to believe it, too. Take that first step—share your truth with someone you trust, and open yourself to finding a new way forward. SLAY on.

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