Hello SLAYER! I will be making my first Official SUPERNATURAL Convention Appearance next weekend, September 21-23 in Indianapolis Indiana! Come out and SLAY along with me.
Photo Op and Autograph tickets are online, I will also be in the Vendor’s Room during scheduled times as well throughout the weekend.
For ticket and show information go to: SUPERNATURAL Indy
Good morning SLAYER! Stand tall and find the courage to be exactly who you are, without apologies. You are enough, right here, right now.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then…SLAY on!
You may not know this, but you’re awesome. Yes, you. Just as you are, right now.
Before you list off all the reasons why you think you’re not—pause. Take a deep breath. And say this with me: thank you. Say it out loud. Feel it. Because the version of you that exists in this moment holds real value. Is this the final version of you? Of course not. Growth is the point. But that doesn’t mean the current you isn’t worthy of appreciation. In fact, it’s the only place you can start from. And that starting place? It’s already more than enough.
We live in a world that tells us to constantly improve, upgrade, do better. And while growth is beautiful, the danger comes when we internalize the message that we are inherently broken or lacking. You are not a problem to solve. You’re a person to love—flaws, strengths, contradictions, and all.
What if, instead of zeroing in on your imperfections with a magnifying glass, you looked at yourself the way you look at the people you care about? What if you saw your kindness, your effort, your humor, your compassion? What if, for once, you gave yourself credit for how far you’ve come and what you’ve survived?
Think of someone you love. Got them in your mind? Good. Now list three things you love about them. Easy, right? Now imagine them doing that same thing for you. Because they do. They already see it. So why not try seeing it too?
When we take time to reflect on our bright spots, we start to shift the internal narrative. Instead of constantly chasing who we think we should be, we start appreciating who we already are. Gratitude becomes the bridge between who you are now and the version of you you’re growing into.
Try this: pick three things you love or appreciate about yourself. Say them out loud. Write them down. Make them real. These are not small things. They’re the roots of your growth.
You are enough. That doesn’t mean there’s no room for improvement. It means that where you are right now is a valid, worthy, and powerful place to begin. You don’t need to punish yourself into change. You need to love yourself into it.
When you believe you are enough, something magical happens: you become willing to show up for your growth, not from a place of shame, but from a place of hope. That’s where lasting transformation lives.
So thank yourself. Thank yourself for surviving. For trying. For showing up today. Because that kind of self-acknowledgment leads you directly into who you’re meant to become. It’s not ego—it’s truth.
Here’s your moment to reflect, journal, or simply sit with these questions.
When you think of yourself, do you feel like you are enough? Why or why not?
What parts of you are you proud of? List at least three.
How has self-criticism held you back in the past? How can self-compassion move you forward now?
Think of a time when someone complimented you. What did they see that you didn’t?
What would change if you focused on the good in yourself, instead of only the areas that need “fixing”?
S: See yourself through loving eyes.
L: Let go of the critical voice.
A: Appreciate what makes you, you.
Y: Yield to growth—not because you’re broken, but because you deserve more.
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Good morning SLAYER! Seeking validation will keep you trapped. You don’t need anyone or anything to prove your worth. When you believe this, you will be free.
New blog goes up Friday, until then…SLAY on!
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Good morning SLAYER! Let the feeling of good fuel your fire to keeping working for more good.
New blog goes up Tuesday, until then…SLAY on!
Not to rain on your parade, but with all the good we put into our lives, the work involved in making positive changes, the work doesn’t stop there. Good things take maintenance. We live in a world full of distractions, negativity, and busyness, and the good we put into our lives gets chipped away by these things, so if we don’t continue to maintain them, they will eventually become so depleted they will waste away. It takes work to get the good, and it takes work to keep it. It’s also keeping up with the evolution of who we are. As we continue to work on ourselves and grow, the good we once needed may change or evolve along with us, so we may need to do some tune-ups or upgrade, to it as we upgrade ourselves. It may seem daunting to think the work is never done, but once we get in the habit of looking for and working for the good and doing what’s best for us, that work just becomes acts of loving yourself and not so much work most of the time.
Like anything, we have to always check-in with ourselves. It’s easy to rest on our laurels and coast. Especially when things feel good. Even if things feel good it’s important to still make sure they are good, because we can convince ourselves that just because things feel calm, and in reality may have become stagnant, that we’re OK where we are, even if that place isn’t challenging us, or making us happy. Just because there might not be any drama, or negativity, doesn’t mean we can sit back and stop doing the work. Especially for those of us that have come from such places of darkness, and may have had to fight so hard to get out, into the light, we can stop working when we’ve overcome the resistance of our past, and stay somewhere longer than we are meant to.
I like to think of the maintenance as a gift to myself. Work that will give back to me, and those around me, ten-fold, because when I am in a place that lets my true self shine I am able to be at my best and possibly inspire or help others to do so as well. So I look at it as selfish if I am not doing the work, because I am not only cheating myself out of being my best self, but possibly others as well because I am not able to shine my light as bright on the path ahead. Now, that doesn’t mean I’m always excited about doing the work, there are days when I may stomp my feet and wish the work would do itself, but I know when I do get to it, it’ll be worth it, and that work will take me to the next place I am supposed to be. Everything we do and everyone we meet is meant to take us to where we are meant to be next, or prepare us for what’s ahead, so when we keep doing the work, we’re always ready for what may come our way, good, or bad, we’ve got the tools for that particular job.
Our lives are in perpetual motion, life is always happening around us, and hopefully within us, so it’s important to keep up with it and not stall or stop our growth and enjoyment of it. Open your heart and follow it’s direction, feed it with what makes it sing, and make sure you’re giving it enough fuel to give you the gas you need to keep your positive tank, your good tank, full to take you to your next destination. SLAY on!
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you shy away from doing the work you know you should be doing to be your best self? Why do you do that? Is it a way to punish yourself? Do you think you’re not worthy of good? Are you hoping it’ll fix itself? It won’t SLAYER. When you do something good for yourself, do you feel good? How exactly do you feel? Write it down. When you don’t want to do good things for you look at what you just wrote, remember the feeling and let that inspire you to get to work. When we do more good for ourselves we attract more good. That good starts a fire inside of us and the heat and flames grow higher as we keep putting more good into it, and when it’s burning we can share those flames with someone else who may be sitting in the dark. Ignite that spark in you, and keep feeding that fire.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you
Good morning SLAYER! You just have to meet us halfway, just as you are.
New blog goes up Sunday, until then…SLAY on!
When we’re not feeling our best, or that we’re the best we can be, or maybe even ashamed of where we find ourselves we tend to shy away from the people in our lives, and certainly from meeting new people. We may be drawn to people who are working to be their best selves, but don’t think we’re worthy of their time because we don’t feel good about where we are. That thinking can keep us from getting well, and prevent us from getting the support and understanding we made need to get well. When we have the same intentions, regardless of where we are on our own paths, we meet each other where we are and move forward from there. There is no perfect start time, the time is now, come as you are and I, and others will meet you there, as they are. It’s not about coming and joining in when things are ‘perfect,’ the time to come is now, in whatever place that finds you. You will find people who will love you regardless of where you are and will walk with you on your journey, as you do with theirs.
When you align yourself with people who are all working to be their best selves, doing the best they can each day, there is no judgment of who you are, where you’ve been, and where you find yourself today. There is only love. We all have to start somewhere, we all have to have that moment when we take that leap and trust we’re being led to something for a reason, it’s within that trust that you are enough, just as you are. And who you are today isn’t who you were yesterday, and who you won’t be tomorrow. So, let yourself be enough as you are today and never be ashamed of that.
We are all here to learn, to grow, and even if you might not be at the same place as those around you, you may not meant to be, each of our paths, or journeys, are our own, we can’t compare them to anyone else’s because we are all experiencing different things and are meant to do and learn different things. And no matter where we are on our path it’s where we’re meant to be, so join us right where you are, it’s perfect.
I’ve said before that we each have unique qualities, talents, or experiences to offer, we all have something to offer, even on our lowest of days, even when we think we have nothing, our honesty may just save someone else’s life who may feel like they have even less. Never doubt your worth, you have more than you realize, but we see it, and we appreciate it. So come and join us, we love you just as you are, and together we will all help each other through the dark times, through the difficult times, to better times. We are stronger together, and your honesty in who you are, your authenticity, will give you strength. We know what you may not already, that you are an incredible person with a beautiful spirit, and will help you see that in yourself. There is no waiting for the right time, the right time is now, and who you are right now, is perfect. SLAY on!
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you shy away from connecting with people or sharing yourself with others because you think you are not good enough? What about yourself do you think isn’t good enough? What would you like to change? What can you do to change it? Why haven’t you changed it? Where do you think your feelings of not being good enough come from? Do they come from you, or someone around you? Are they because of current events or stories from your past? What can you do to get outside of those? How can you change those feelings? We all have stories we tell ourselves, most of them are just that, stories, not based in truth, or they may be based on what was said to us as children and we’ve adopted it into the fabric of who we are, never questioning it’s merit. Question it SLAYER, question all of those negative things you say and think about yourself, question whether they are based in fact, and question whether they are relevant today. What is relevant is that you find a way to forgive yourself for past mistakes, and focus on the future, the person you can be proud of, who may even be the person you are right now. We’ll meet you where you are, no matter where that is, and it will be beautiful.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you
Good morning SLAYER! To heal a wound you have to learn to stop touching it.
New blog goes up Friday, until then…SLAY on!
