You Never Look Good Making Someone Else Look Bad

There was a time in my life when I thought winning meant being right.

Having the last word.
Proving my point.
Defending myself loudly.
Making sure my side of the story was known.

I believed that if I made someone else look wrong, I somehow looked better.

But that kind of “power” is hollow.

Because here’s the truth, I had to learn the hard way:

You never look good making someone else look bad.


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When Ego Masquerades as Strength

It’s easy to confuse reaction with strength.

Clapping back feels powerful.
Calling someone out feels justified.
Exposing flaws feels like control.

Especially when you’re hurt.

Especially when you feel misunderstood.
Especially when you feel wronged.
Especially when you feel disrespected.

But most of the time, that reaction isn’t strength — it’s pain trying to protect itself.

It’s ego trying to survive.


What It Actually Costs You

Every time we try to elevate ourselves by diminishing someone else, we lose something.

We lose dignity.
We lose integrity.
We lose clarity.
We lose alignment with who we say we are.

It doesn’t bring peace.
It doesn’t bring healing.
It doesn’t bring resolution.

It only brings more noise.

And more distance from ourselves.


I Had to Learn This Through Experience

I’ve been on both sides of this.

I’ve been the one hurt.
I’ve been the one reactive.
I’ve been the one defensive.
I’ve been the one who needed to feel seen.

And I’ve learned that nothing I ever gained by tearing someone else down made me feel better for long.

Not once.

What did change things was choosing restraint.

Choosing silence over spectacle.
Choosing dignity over drama.
Choosing growth over gratification.

That choice didn’t make me weak — it made me free.


Healing Changes How You Handle Conflict

When you’re healing, you stop needing to prove yourself.

You stop needing validation from chaos.
You stop needing to control the narrative.
You stop needing to win every interaction.

Because your worth isn’t up for debate.

You don’t need to make someone else look small to feel big.

You don’t need to expose someone else to feel seen.

You don’t need to damage someone else to feel whole.


Strength Is Quiet

Real power doesn’t announce itself.

It doesn’t need applause.
It doesn’t need witnesses.
It doesn’t need a platform.

It shows up as restraint.
As self-control.
As emotional maturity.
As boundaries.
As integrity.

Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is walk away without explaining.


Your Character Is Always on Display

People may not remember the details of the conflict.

But they remember how you handled it.

They remember your energy.
Your tone.
Your behavior.
Your posture.
Your restraint — or lack of it.

Character speaks louder than argument.


You Can Protect Yourself Without Destroying Others

Boundaries don’t require humiliation.
Truth doesn’t require cruelty.
Healing doesn’t require revenge.
Growth doesn’t require comparison.

You can hold people accountable without making them small.

You can speak truth without tearing someone down.

You can walk away without burning everything behind you.


Choose Who You’re Becoming

Every conflict is a mirror.

It shows you who you are — and who you’re becoming.

You get to choose:

Reaction or reflection
Ego or evolution
Drama or dignity
Noise or peace

Because every response is shaping your identity.


You Don’t Rise by Lowering Others

You rise by becoming more of yourself.

More grounded.
More aware.
More aligned.
More whole.
More healed.

Elevation comes from integrity — not comparison.


SLAY Reflection

Let’s reflect, SLAYER:

S: Where have you felt tempted to make someone else look bad to protect yourself?
L: What emotion was really driving that reaction?
A: What would strength look like instead of reactivity?
Y: How would your life shift if you chose dignity over drama more often?


Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
Have you ever noticed how different it feels to walk away with dignity instead of winning an argument?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone stuck in conflict or comparison, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Slay Say

Not everyone knows how to sit with themselves.
Some people fill the silence with noise, distraction, or disruption — not because you invited it, but because your calm reminds them of what they avoid.

Peace can feel threatening to someone who hasn’t learned how to rest inside themselves.
So they poke.
They provoke.
They project.

This isn’t a reflection of your openness or your strength.
It’s a signal to protect your quiet.

Stillness is not weakness.
It’s discernment.
It’s clarity.
It’s a boundary you don’t have to explain.

This is your reminder:
You are allowed to keep your peace intact.
You don’t need to absorb someone else’s unrest to be compassionate.

Slay on.

Self-Betrayal

Self betrayal rarely looks dramatic.

It doesn’t always arrive as a big, obvious choice.
It often shows up quietly — in the moments we go against ourselves just to keep the peace, to avoid conflict, or to feel chosen.

It’s the yes we give when our body is screaming no.
The truth we swallow because it feels inconvenient.
The boundary we erase because we’re afraid to be left.

And every time we do it, a small part of us learns that our needs are optional.


What Self Betrayal Really Is

Self betrayal is not about making mistakes.

It’s about abandoning your inner truth to make someone else comfortable.

It happens when you prioritize being liked over being honest.
When you ignore your intuition.
When you stay in situations that don’t respect who you are.

Over time, self betrayal doesn’t just create discomfort — it creates disconnection. You stop trusting yourself. You stop hearing your own voice. You start needing permission to feel what you feel.

And that’s where resentment and exhaustion are born.


Why We Learn to Betray Ourselves

Most of us didn’t wake up one day and decide to abandon ourselves.

We learned it.

We learned that love was conditional.
That approval came with a price.
That being easy was safer than being real.

So we adapted.

We became agreeable.
We minimized our needs.
We learned how to read the room instead of reading our own heart.

Those patterns might have protected us once — but they don’t serve the people we’re becoming.


The Cost of Self Betrayal

The cost isn’t just emotional.

It shows up as anxiety.
Burnout.
Chronic people pleasing.
A feeling that something is always off.

When you keep betraying yourself, your body knows — even when your mind tries to justify it.

That inner tension is the part of you that refuses to disappear.


Rebuilding Trust With Yourself

Healing from self betrayal begins with listening.

Not to everyone else — to you.

To your discomfort.
To your boundaries.
To the small quiet voice that says, “This doesn’t feel right.”

Every time you honor that voice, you rebuild trust.

You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to stop ignoring yourself.


Boundaries Are Not Rejection They Are Self Respect

Saying no doesn’t mean you’re selfish.
Speaking up doesn’t mean you’re difficult.
Choosing yourself doesn’t mean you don’t care.

It means you do.

Boundaries are how you protect the relationship you have with yourself — and that relationship shapes every other one you have.


You Are Allowed to Change Your Mind

One of the most powerful ways to stop self betrayal is giving yourself permission to shift.

To grow.
To outgrow.
To choose differently.

You don’t owe anyone the old version of you.

You owe yourself the truth.


Integrity Begins on the Inside

Integrity isn’t just about what you do in public.

It’s about how you treat yourself when no one else is watching.

Are you listening to your needs?
Are you honoring your limits?
Are you telling yourself the truth?

That’s where self respect lives.


SLAY Reflection

Let’s reflect, SLAYER:

S: Where in your life have you been saying yes when you meant no?
L: What fears have kept you from being honest with yourself?
A: What boundary would bring you back into alignment?
Y: How would your life change if you stopped abandoning yourself?


Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
Where have you noticed self betrayal in your own life and what helped you start choosing yourself again?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who keeps putting themselves last, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Sometimes You’re Not Getting Closure You Have to Close the Door Yourself

There’s a belief many of us hold onto longer than we should:
that closure comes from another person.

From an apology.
From an explanation.
From a final conversation that magically makes everything make sense.

But real life rarely works that way.

Sometimes the person who hurt you won’t take accountability.
Sometimes they won’t explain themselves.
Sometimes they won’t even acknowledge the damage they caused.

And waiting for closure that never comes can quietly keep you stuck.

Here’s the hard truth most healing journeys eventually teach us:
Sometimes you’re not getting closure — you have to close the door yourself.


The Myth of Closure From Other People

We’re taught that healing requires answers. That if we just understood why, we could finally move on.

So we replay conversations.
We analyze behavior.
We wait for messages that never arrive.
We imagine scenarios where they finally “get it.”

But closure that depends on someone else keeps your peace hostage.

Because when closure lives in their hands, your healing is delayed by their willingness — or lack of it — to show up differently.

And not everyone will.


Why Waiting for Closure Keeps You Stuck

Waiting for closure often looks like hope — but underneath it is attachment.

Attachment to a version of the story where things end neatly.
Attachment to the belief that their words could soothe your pain.
Attachment to the idea that you need their validation to move forward.

But here’s what waiting really does:

It keeps the door cracked open.
It keeps your nervous system braced.
It keeps you emotionally tethered to something that’s already over.

And every time you wait, you reopen the wound.

Not because you’re weak — but because you’re human.


Closure Is an Inside Job

True closure doesn’t come from understanding them.
It comes from understanding yourself.

It comes from accepting what happened without needing it to be justified.
From acknowledging that something hurt — even if it was never named as such.
From deciding that your peace matters more than their explanation.

Closure is the moment you stop asking, “Why did they do this?”
and start asking, “What do I need to feel whole again?”

That shift changes everything.


Closing the Door Doesn’t Mean You Didn’t Care

One of the hardest parts of closing the door yourself is the guilt.

We tell ourselves:

  • If I move on without closure, maybe I’m being dramatic
  • If I stop waiting, maybe I’m giving up too soon
  • If I close the door, maybe it means it didn’t matter

But closing the door doesn’t erase the meaning of what you shared.

It honors it.

It says: This mattered — which is why I won’t keep bleeding over it.

You can care deeply and still choose to walk away.
You can love someone and still choose yourself.
You can grieve what was and release what will never be.


Acceptance Is Not the Same as Approval

Closing the door doesn’t mean you agree with what happened.
It doesn’t mean you excuse harm.
It doesn’t mean you pretend it didn’t affect you.

Acceptance simply means you stop fighting reality.

You stop trying to rewrite the past.
You stop hoping someone becomes who they never were.
You stop giving energy to a story that has already reached its end.

Acceptance is choosing peace over explanation.
Freedom over familiarity.
Healing over waiting.


You Don’t Need the Final Word

Sometimes the most powerful ending is the one no one else hears.

No confrontation.
No dramatic exit.
No final paragraph explaining your pain.

Just clarity.
Just boundaries.
Just the quiet decision to close the door and lock it behind you.

You don’t owe everyone access to your healing.
You don’t owe anyone a front-row seat to your growth.
And you don’t need permission to move on.


Closing the Door Is an Act of Self-Respect

When you close the door yourself, you reclaim your power.

You stop outsourcing your peace.
You stop waiting to be chosen, understood, or validated.
You become the authority in your own life again.

And that choice — that moment — is where healing accelerates.

Because energy flows where attention goes.
And once you stop pouring attention into what ended, you create space for what’s next.


What Awaits You on the Other Side

On the other side of the door isn’t bitterness.
It’s relief.

It’s quiet.
It’s clarity.
It’s a nervous system that finally gets to rest.

You may still feel sadness.
You may still feel grief.
But you’ll also feel lighter — because you’re no longer carrying hope for something that cannot meet you.

Sometimes closure doesn’t arrive with answers.
It arrives with courage.

The courage to say: This chapter is over — and I’m choosing to move forward.


SLAY Reflection

Let’s reflect, SLAYER:

S: Where in your life are you waiting for closure that may never come?
L: What door have you kept open that’s costing you peace?
A: What would it look like to give yourself the closure you’ve been waiting for?
Y: How might your life shift if you chose peace over explanation?


Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
Have you ever had to close the door without getting the closure you hoped for — and what did that teach you?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s waiting for answers that aren’t coming, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Peace Over People

There comes a point in life when you realize that protecting your peace isn’t selfish — it’s necessary.

For a long time, many of us are taught to prioritize relationships at all costs. To be accommodating. To be understanding. To be available. To keep the peace, even if it costs us our own.

But here’s the hard truth no one says out loud enough:
Not everyone deserves access to you.

And choosing peace over people doesn’t make you cold, unkind, or difficult.
It makes you honest.

Peace isn’t something you stumble into by accident. It’s something you choose — often after learning the hard way what happens when you don’t.


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When Choosing People Costs You Yourself

There was a time when I believed that loyalty meant endurance. That loving someone meant tolerating discomfort. That being a good person meant explaining myself, overextending, and shrinking to keep others comfortable.

So I stayed.
I justified.
I made excuses.
I carried emotional weight that wasn’t mine to hold.

And slowly, without realizing it, I lost my sense of peace.

I felt constantly on edge. I replayed conversations in my head. I walked on eggshells. I questioned myself more than I trusted myself. I told myself it was normal — that relationships were supposed to be hard.

But there’s a difference between growth-discomfort and peace-eroding chaos.

And when a connection consistently costs you your clarity, your safety, or your sense of self — it’s no longer love. It’s a liability.


Peace Is Not the Absence of Conflict It’s the Presence of Alignment

Peace isn’t about avoiding hard conversations or disagreements. It’s about alignment — with yourself, your values, and the way you want to live.

You can be in a room full of people and feel completely at peace.
And you can be deeply connected to someone and feel constantly unsettled.

That’s your body talking.

Peace feels like:

  • Calm instead of tension
  • Clarity instead of confusion
  • Safety instead of anxiety
  • Being yourself instead of performing

When someone disrupts that consistently, it’s not because you’re “too sensitive.” It’s because something isn’t aligned.

And alignment matters more than approval.


Choosing Peace Will Offend People Who Benefit From Your Silence

Let’s be honest — the moment you choose peace, some people will feel threatened.

Not because you changed for the worse.
But because you stopped abandoning yourself for their comfort.

People who benefited from your lack of boundaries will call you distant.
People who relied on your overgiving will call you selfish.
People who were comfortable with your silence will struggle when you find your voice.

That doesn’t mean you’re wrong.

It means the dynamic is changing — and not everyone will be willing or able to meet you where you are now.

Peace has a way of exposing relationships that were built on obligation instead of mutual respect.


You Are Allowed to Walk Away Without Explaining Everything

One of the most liberating truths you can accept is this:
You don’t owe everyone an explanation for choosing yourself.

Closure is not something other people give you — it’s something you choose. You don’t need permission to step back. You don’t need validation to detach. You don’t need agreement to move on.

Sometimes the explanation would only reopen wounds.
Sometimes the conversation would only invite manipulation.
Sometimes silence is the boundary.

Choosing peace means trusting yourself enough to walk away without rewriting the story to make it palatable for others.

You are not responsible for how people process your boundaries.


Peace Requires Boundaries Not Guilt

Peace doesn’t come from cutting everyone off. It comes from discerning who deserves closeness and who requires distance.

Boundaries are not walls — they are doors with locks.

They say:

  • This is how I expect to be treated
  • This is what I will no longer tolerate
  • This is what I need to feel safe and whole

Guilt often shows up when you first set boundaries, especially if you were conditioned to prioritize others’ needs over your own. But guilt is not a sign you’re doing something wrong — it’s a sign you’re doing something new.

And new doesn’t mean wrong.

Every time you honor your boundaries, you reinforce your self-respect. Every time you choose peace, you teach yourself that your well-being matters.


Not Everyone Is Meant to Come With You

This is one of the hardest parts of choosing peace: accepting that some people are seasonal.

They were meant for who you were — not who you’re becoming.

And holding onto them out of nostalgia, guilt, or fear will only keep you tethered to a version of yourself you’ve outgrown.

You can love people from a distance.
You can appreciate what was without forcing what no longer works.
You can wish someone well without inviting them back into your life.

Peace doesn’t require resentment.
It requires honesty.

And sometimes honesty means admitting that access to you is no longer healthy.


Peace Is a Daily Practice

Choosing peace isn’t a one-time decision — it’s a daily practice.

It’s asking yourself:

Does this situation drain me or ground me?
Does this relationship expand me or exhaust me?
Does this choice align with the life I’m trying to build?

Peace shows up in the small choices — who you respond to, what you tolerate, where you invest your energy.

The more you choose peace, the quieter your life becomes.
The quieter your life becomes, the clearer your truth gets.
And clarity changes everything.


You Are Not Losing People You Are Choosing Yourself

If choosing peace costs you people, let it.

You are not here to be consumed, drained, or diminished for the sake of connection. You are here to live fully, honestly, and safely in your own life.

Peace isn’t loneliness.
Peace is freedom.

And the people who are meant to walk beside you will never require you to betray yourself to keep them.

Choose peace — again and again.


SLAY Reflection

Let’s reflect, SLAYER:

S: Where in your life have you been choosing people over your own peace?
L: What relationships leave you feeling drained rather than grounded?
A: What boundary do you need to set to protect your emotional well-being?
Y: How would your life feel if peace became your priority instead of approval?


Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What has choosing peace over people looked like in your life — or where do you feel called to make that shift now?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s struggling to choose themselves, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

The Version of Me You Created in Your Mind Is Not My Responsibility

There comes a point in your life when you realize something deeply liberating — yet deeply uncomfortable:

You are not responsible for the version of you that someone else created in their mind.

Not the fantasy.
Not the projection.
Not the character they turned you into inside their own story.
Not the hero. Not the villain. Not the fixer. Not the savior.

You are only responsible for the real you — the complex, changing, growing human being you actually are.

But for many of us, this truth feels like rebellion. We’ve spent so much of our lives trying to manage how others see us, bending ourselves into shapes that made them more comfortable, safer, happier, or less threatened.

We’ve apologized for things we didn’t do.
We’ve shrunk to avoid being misunderstood.
We’ve over-performed to be liked.
We’ve stayed silent to stay accepted.
We’ve carried blame that was never ours to carry.

But here’s the truth:
You cannot control the story someone else tells about you.
And you are no longer required to play a role you didn’t audition for.


Why People Create Versions of You

People build their own version of you for many reasons — none of which have anything to do with your worth.

Sometimes it’s because:

  • They need you to fill a role they’re afraid to fill themselves.
  • They see you through the lens of their own wounds.
  • They project their insecurities onto you.
  • They want you to stay the same so they don’t have to change.
  • They mistake your kindness for weakness.
  • They confuse your boundaries for rejection.
  • They prefer the idea of you over the reality of you.

But the version they create is theirs — not yours.

When someone builds a fantasy of you, it’s because they can’t face something in themselves.
When someone builds a villain out of you, it’s because they need a place to direct their pain.

Either way, it’s not your job to fix their story.


The Burden of Carrying Someone Else’s Narrative

Trying to live up to someone else’s imagined version of you is exhausting.

You end up:

  • performing instead of living
  • defending instead of connecting
  • proving instead of being
  • apologizing instead of growing

You shrink yourself to fit their expectations.
You become hyper-aware of their moods, their reactions, their interpretations.
You start to question your own motives, your own truth, your own voice.

It is emotional labor that was never yours to do.

You don’t need to shape-shift to avoid disappointing someone who was never seeing you clearly in the first place.
You don’t need to be responsible for the story they tell themselves.

You only need to be responsible for who you actually are.


When You Stop Carrying Their Story, Everything Shifts

The moment you stop trying to manage someone’s version of you, something miraculous happens:

You begin to breathe again.

You begin to stand taller.
You speak with more clarity.
You stop explaining yourself to people committed to misunderstanding you.
You stop negotiating your worth.
You stop shrinking so others feel bigger.
You stop apologizing for existing as you are.

People who love the real you will move closer.
People who only loved the idea of you will fall away.

And that’s how you know you’re finally aligned.


You Are Allowed to Change

One of the biggest reasons people hold you to an outdated version of yourself is because growth threatens the story they depend on.

You are allowed to evolve.
You are allowed to outgrow behaviors.
You are allowed to heal.
You are allowed to set new boundaries.
You are allowed to want better for yourself.
You are allowed to walk away from the environments that hurt you.

Your evolution is not a betrayal — it’s your responsibility.

And if someone refuses to acknowledge who you are now because they’re attached to who you used to be?
That’s their limitation, not yours.


The Freedom of Living as Your True Self

When you let go of the responsibility for other people’s perceptions, you reclaim your power.

That power sounds like:

“I’m not going to shrink to make you comfortable.”
“I don’t owe you the version of me that benefits you.”
“I won’t apologize for growing.”
“I am not available for projections.”
“My identity is not up for negotiation.”

This doesn’t make you harsh.
It makes you whole.

Because living as your truest self isn’t about being defiant — it’s about being aligned.
And when you are aligned, the right people will understand you intuitively.


What You Are Responsible For

Even though you are not responsible for the version of you people create, there are things you are responsible for.

You are responsible for:

  • your actions
  • your growth
  • your words
  • your boundaries
  • your healing
  • your truth
  • your intentions

You are not responsible for:

  • someone’s assumptions
  • someone’s projections
  • someone’s fantasies
  • someone’s insecurities
  • someone’s misinterpretations
  • someone’s made-up stories
  • someone’s expectations that deny your humanity

The distinction will set you free.


How to Release the Weight of Someone Else’s Version of You

This is the work:

1. Stop over-explaining yourself.

People committed to misunderstanding you aren’t looking for clarity — they’re looking for confirmation of their story.

2. Set boundaries around your energy.

If someone drains you because they only relate to the version of you in their head, you’re allowed to step back.

3. Stay grounded in your truth.

Write it down. Speak it. Live it.
Your truth will anchor you while others spin their own narratives.

4. Give yourself permission to evolve.

You are not obligated to stay who someone remembers you to be.

5. Accept that not everyone gets access to the real you.

Your authenticity is sacred. Not everyone gets a front-row seat.

Releasing their version of you is a reclaiming.
It’s choosing yourself over illusion.
It’s choosing truth over performance.
It’s choosing alignment over approval.


SLAY Reflection

  1. Whose version of you have you been trying to live up to?
  2. What parts of yourself have you hidden to fit someone else’s expectations?
  3. What boundaries would protect your authentic self?
  4. How do you act when you’re being the real you versus the projected you?
  5. What would it feel like to stop performing entirely?

  • S – Stand in your truth without apology
  • L – Let go of the stories others create about you
  • A – Align with who you are today, not who you used to be
  • Y – Yield to your authentic self and release the rest

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
Whose imagined version of you are you finally ready to release?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who feels trapped inside someone else’s expectations, send this their way.
Sometimes, all we need is permission to be who we actually are.

Slay Say

Honor What’s Meant to Stay

Some endings don’t come with closure.
Some people simply slip out of your life
without explanation, apology, or accountability.

And as painful as that silence can be,
it’s also information.

Not everything is meant to be revived.
Not every connection deserves resuscitation.
Sometimes the leaving tells you
everything the staying never could.

Your peace is too precious
to pour into what no longer chooses you.
Let what buried itself remain buried.
Life has a way of removing what can’t grow with you.

This is your reminder:
Your energy belongs where it’s respected,
not where you’re chasing ghosts.

Slay On!

Slay Say

Stop pouring into empty cups—it’s time to honor your own.

We teach people how to treat us by what we allow, what we stop, and what we walk away from. If you keep making others a priority while they treat you as an afterthought, you’re not being kind—you’re abandoning yourself.The truth is, you don’t need to beg for a seat at a table where you’re only ever offered crumbs. You deserve to sit where your presence is seen, valued, and celebrated.

This isn’t about becoming hard or unkind. It’s about protecting your energy and making room for relationships that meet you with the same care you give so freely.

This is your reminder to stop pouring into places that never pour back.

Don’t give priority where you’re treated as an option.

SLAY on!

Slay Say

When Your Silence Speaks Louder Than Your Words

There are moments when staying quiet feels like the safer choice—avoiding conflict, sidestepping tension, or convincing yourself it’s “not your place.” But when you stay silent in the face of harm, injustice, or mistreatment, your silence doesn’t just go unnoticed. It’s often interpreted as acceptance.

Speaking up isn’t about confrontation—it’s about alignment. It’s about choosing integrity over comfort. Even when your voice shakes, it’s better to risk being misunderstood than to live with the weight of agreeing to something that goes against your values.

The truth is, your voice has power. And the moment you choose to use it—no matter how small or imperfect—you step out of passive agreement and into active self-respect.

This is your reminder to: speak up when something isn’t right, even if your voice is the only one in the room.

SLAY on!

Slay Say

Some Wounds Aren’t Loud

Just because there wasn’t malice doesn’t mean there wasn’t damage.
The ripple of someone’s behavior can still cut deep—
even when their hands never meant to cause pain.

What matters is how you felt. What you carry.
Your truth still deserves recognition.

This is your reminder to honor what happened,
even if no one else saw it.

SLAY on!