Author: Carrie Genzel

Slay Say

The Dance Is Still Yours

Growth doesn’t always move in a straight line.
Sometimes you stumble. Sometimes you step back.
But none of it means you’ve failed.

Every step—forward, backward, sideways—is still part of your rhythm. Still part of your story.
Even the ones that felt offbeat taught you something about your strength, your timing, your heart.

So when you feel like you’ve lost your way, pause.
Listen.
The music is still playing.
And the dance is still yours.

This is your reminder to give yourself grace in the messy middle.

SLAY on!

Even the steps that felt like setbacks were shaping your rhythm. This is your reminder: you’re still in the dance, and it’s still yours.

Your Energy Writes the Invitation

Energy isn’t invisible—it’s contagious. The way we move through the world speaks volumes, long before we say a word. That’s why it’s so important to be mindful of the energy we give off. Because whether we mean to or not, we’re always sending out an invitation—and what we invite will show up.

The Energy Exchange is Always On

You don’t have to be in someone’s presence for long to feel their energy. Some people lift a room. Others bring it down. We’ve all felt it. And whether we like it or not, we’re putting out our own energy, too.

If I’m being real, there were times in my life when I walked around spewing frustration, negativity, or fear—and then wondered why the same kept showing up in return. The truth? The energy I put out was the energy I got back. It wasn’t personal. It was physics.

What You Put Out, You Welcome In

I had to learn the hard way that if I didn’t want chaos, I couldn’t keep putting out anxious, defensive energy. If I didn’t want drama, I had to stop contributing to it. The way I spoke to myself, the way I reacted to others, the thoughts I repeated silently—all of it was casting energetic invitations out into the world.

And the guests always showed up.

It took time and effort to shift the energy I was putting out. But once I started leading with calm, openness, kindness—even when I didn’t fully feel it yet—everything around me began to change.

You Don’t Have to Be Perfect, Just Present

Let’s be clear: we all have hard days. You’re not expected to radiate sunshine 24/7. But awareness is key. Ask yourself:

  • Is this the kind of energy I would want to receive?
  • Would I want someone to speak to me the way I’m speaking to them?
  • Am I leading with intention or just reacting?

Your energy doesn’t have to be perfect—but it should be honest, compassionate, and intentional.

A New Kind of Invitation

Today, I try to think of my energy as a handwritten note I send out to the universe. What does it say? Is it welcoming, kind, curious? Or is it guarded, judgmental, defensive? Whatever I send, I know it’s going to bring something back to me.

So I try to send what I’d want to receive: peace, patience, gratitude, joy. And on the days I can’t muster those feelings genuinely? I pause. I breathe. I reflect. Because I’d rather send nothing at all than send something I’ll regret.

You’re always casting invitations. Make them count.

SLAY on.

SLAY Reflection

  1. What kind of energy are you putting into your relationships, conversations, or even your self-talk?
  2. Have you ever noticed the same energy you give off coming back to you?
  3. What would shift if you led with more kindness or curiosity?
  4. Are there moments in your day where you could pause before reacting?
  5. What kind of invitation do you want your energy to send today?

S-L-A-Y:

  • Slow down before you react.
  • Lead with intention, not impulse.
  • Ask yourself what energy you’re inviting.
  • You have the power to shift the energy in any room.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one shift you can make today in the energy you’re putting out into the world?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s stuck in a negative loop, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Slay Say

Truth Without Testing

We often accept the thoughts we think every day as truth—without ever asking where they came from or if they’re even real.
But your dominant assumptions are more than thoughts.
They’re blueprints, quietly sculpting how you see yourself… and how you show up in the world.

If you never stop to question the story, you might keep building a life on someone else’s beliefs.
This is your reminder to pause, get curious, and challenge what you’ve been living on autopilot.

Your mind is listening.
Make sure it’s following a truth that’s actually yours.

SLAY on!

Stop Waiting To Feel Ready

If I’m being honest, most of the time…I don’t feel ready.

Whether it’s a new opportunity, a big decision, or even sitting down to write something like this—I rarely feel 100% ready. If left to my own devices, I’d keep fine-tuning, researching, adjusting, and second-guessing. I’d wait until everything was “perfect.”

But what I’ve learned on this path is simple and powerful: ready isn’t a feeling—it’s a decision.

The Myth of “Feeling Ready”

We tell ourselves we’ll start when we feel more confident.
We’ll speak up when we feel more prepared.
We’ll leap when we feel less scared.

But the truth is, that feeling of readiness? It doesn’t always show up. And if it does, it usually comes after we’ve already taken action—not before.

The illusion of “readiness” keeps us stuck. We wait, thinking there’s some magical moment where we’ll feel different—bolder, braver, more equipped. But most opportunities don’t wait for us to feel ready.

They ask us to decide to be ready.

The Power of Deciding

In my life, there have been countless times I’ve had to make that decision.

Sometimes it was because of a deadline.
Sometimes it was because an opportunity had an expiration date.
Sometimes I just knew if I didn’t move forward, I’d stay stuck.

And every time, I’ve learned this: I didn’t need to know everything. I just needed to know enough to start.

Being ready doesn’t mean having every answer. It doesn’t mean knowing the full path. It means saying, “I’ve got what I need to take this step, and I’ll figure the next one out as I go.”

Do What’s In Front of Your Hands

One thing I’ve carried with me on my journey is this simple reminder:
Do what’s in front of your hands.

That means staying grounded in the present step—even when your mind wants to jump five steps ahead. Yes, it’s wise to have a vision. I like to look a little ahead, to prepare for what’s coming. But the real growth? It happens in the now.

When you focus on what’s right in front of you—just the next task, the next decision, the next act of courage—you start to build momentum. And that momentum leads to clarity, confidence, and more opportunity.

Progress, Not Perfection

Waiting until you feel ready often comes from a deeper fear of making mistakes. But perfection isn’t the goal—progress is.

You’re allowed to make messy starts.
You’re allowed to learn as you go.
You’re allowed to pivot, evolve, and adjust your plan.

Because the truth is, the journey is the point. It’s not about getting it “right” the first time. It’s about moving forward, learning, and becoming.

You’re not behind. You’re not unqualified. You’re simply standing at the edge of the next thing. And all that’s left is to decide to begin.

Make the Decision Today

If you’ve been waiting for the perfect moment to start, here’s your sign: stop waiting.

Make the decision. Be willing to show up before you feel completely ready. Trust that you’ll grow into each next step—and that you already have everything you need to begin.

The truth is, you won’t always feel ready.
But you can always choose to be.

SLAY Reflection

Let’s check in, SLAYER:

  • S: What are you currently putting off because you don’t feel “ready”?
  • L: What would change if you decided to start anyway?
  • A: Can you identify one small step you can take today, even if you don’t feel prepared?
  • Y: How can you reframe readiness as a mindset instead of a feeling?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s something you’ve been waiting to feel ready for—and how can you choose to begin today instead?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s stuck waiting for the “perfect moment,” send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Slay Say

Let the Shadows Fall Away

Not everyone is meant to walk beside you when you begin to shine.

As you step into your truth, the people who only saw your potential in pieces may start to fade. And that’s okay.
You weren’t made to shrink, edit, or filter who you are just to be accepted.

The more you show up fully—without apology—the more you create space for relationships rooted in real connection, not performance.

Let go of the need to be understood by everyone.
The right ones will never be afraid of your light.

SLAY ON.

Find Your People, Find Your Truth

For most of my life, I felt like a chameleon. I’d shift and mold myself to fit the people I was around. I convinced myself that if I acted the way they wanted—or the way I thought they wanted—I’d finally belong. But deep down, it didn’t feel right. And often, I’d leave those interactions feeling drained and wondering, “What’s wrong with me?”

I’d watch others with envy. They seemed to flow effortlessly through social situations, forming connections with ease. I couldn’t understand why it felt so hard for me. Why did it feel like everyone else had the key to belonging, while I was stuck on the outside looking in? I’d analyze every interaction, wondering what I did wrong, why I couldn’t seem to fit.

The truth is, it wasn’t about being wrong. It was about being in the wrong rooms.

The Missing Piece: Discovering Self-Truth

It wasn’t until I began my journey of self-discovery that the truth hit me: there was nothing wrong with me. I just wasn’t with the right people. I wasn’t being true to myself, and I wasn’t choosing connections that were aligned with who I really was—because, if I’m honest, I didn’t even know who I really was.

I’d spent so long being a version of myself that I thought others wanted me to be, that I lost touch with my core. The parts of me that were silly, passionate, curious, and maybe a little bit weird were buried under layers of trying to fit in. I muted my personality. I downplayed my dreams. I laughed at jokes I didn’t find funny. I agreed with opinions I didn’t fully believe in. All because I thought that was the way to be accepted.

But acceptance built on pretending is fragile. It’s conditional. It’s a house of cards ready to collapse the moment you stop performing.

Those people I admired weren’t more skilled or more likable than me—they were just authentic. They were showing up as themselves, unfiltered and unafraid. I, on the other hand, was performing a version of me I thought was acceptable. And in doing so, I was hiding the parts of myself that actually made me unique and magnetic.

Why Authenticity Feels So Hard

For so many of us, the idea of being our true selves feels risky. Maybe we’ve been hurt in the past when we showed vulnerability. Maybe we’ve faced rejection, criticism, or ridicule. Maybe we grew up in environments where it wasn’t safe to be fully seen. Over time, we learn to armor up. We put on masks. We adapt.

But here’s the thing: that armor may protect us from pain, but it also shields us from connection. When we hide our truth, we also hide our light.

The reason social situations felt so hard for me wasn’t because I was broken or unlikable. It was because I wasn’t showing up as me. I was exhausted from pretending. And deep down, I felt the ache of knowing that I wasn’t being true to myself.

The Shift: Coming Home to Yourself

Everything changed when I started to get curious about who I really was. I asked myself hard questions:

  • What do I truly value?
  • What brings me joy?
  • What kind of people energize me instead of draining me?
  • What parts of myself have I been hiding, and why?

The answers were both surprising and freeing. I realized that the right people—the ones who would become my “chosen family”—weren’t the ones I had to impress. They were the ones who loved me for me. They were the ones who felt easy to be around, where conversations flowed, laughter was real, and silence was comfortable.

I stopped chasing approval from people who didn’t value my authenticity. I started prioritizing connections that felt reciprocal, nourishing, and aligned with my values. Slowly, my circle shifted. And with it, so did my confidence.

Finding Your People

Finding your people doesn’t happen overnight. It takes patience and courage. It requires being honest with yourself about the relationships in your life:

  • Are you giving more than you’re receiving?
  • Do you feel energized or depleted after spending time with them?
  • Do you feel safe enough to be fully yourself?

If the answer to any of those questions is “no,” it might be time to reevaluate.

Here’s what I’ve learned: the right people will get you. You won’t have to explain yourself or perform. They’ll love your quirks, celebrate your wins, and hold space for your struggles. They’ll lift you up, not tear you down.

And the beautiful thing is, when you start showing up as your true self, you naturally attract those people. Authenticity is magnetic. When you let your real light shine, it draws others who resonate with that light.

The Liberation of Letting Go

One of the hardest but most liberating steps is letting go of relationships that no longer serve you. It doesn’t mean those people are bad or wrong; it just means they’re not your people.

Letting go creates space—space for new connections, space for self-growth, and space for deeper alignment. It allows you to breathe easier, to trust more, and to open your heart to those who are meant to walk this journey with you.

I promise you this: when you find your people, you’ll look back and realize that you were never broken or wrong. You were simply waiting for the right connections to show you how beautiful and worthy you’ve always been.

Your Light Is Needed

Here’s what I want you to remember, SLAYER: you don’t have to dim your light to fit in. The world doesn’t need a watered-down version of you. It needs you—fully, unapologetically, courageously you.

When you find your people, everything clicks into place. Life feels easier. Conversations feel more meaningful. Connections deepen. And you start to trust yourself in ways you never thought possible.

Because finding your people isn’t just about them—it’s about you finding yourself. It’s about coming home to your truth and realizing that you were never meant to fit in. You were meant to stand out.

SLAY Reflection

Take a moment to reflect and journal on these questions, SLAYER:

  • S: Where in your life are you still trying to fit in instead of standing out?
  • L: What relationships make you feel most like yourself? How can you nurture those?
  • A: Who or what do you need to let go of to make space for the right people?
  • Y: What’s one brave step you can take today to embrace your authenticity and attract your true community?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
Have you found your people, or are you still searching?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s struggling to find their place, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Slay Say

Stillness As Strength

It’s easy to get caught up in the rush, the chaos, and the need to be doing something.
But sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is to stand still, take a deep breath, and trust the path that’s unfolding for you.

Stillness isn’t inaction—it’s a conscious choice to ground yourself, gather your strength, and move forward with clarity.

This is your reminder to choose stillness, trust your journey, and embrace your inner power.

SLAY on.

Go Where Your Voice is Needed

There comes a time in life when you realize—not every space is meant for you. Not every conversation needs your input. And not every audience is ready—or even willing—to hear what you have to say.

For years, I believed I had to be everywhere, say everything, and make sure I was heard. Even if it meant squeezing into spaces that didn’t feel right. I thought that was how you made an impact. Be louder. Be present. Be seen.

But experience has taught me something far more powerful:

True empowerment comes from going where your voice is needed, not where it’s merely tolerated.

It’s a shift from trying to fit in to standing tall where you belong.

The Myth of Being Everywhere

We’re bombarded with messages telling us to “show up everywhere.” Post more. Be visible. Stay relevant. Hustle harder.

But visibility does not equal value.

When you stretch yourself thin trying to be in all the rooms, you lose something essential—clarity. The more you chase attention, the more disconnected you become from your true message.

Impact isn’t about volume. It’s about resonance.

The power of your voice isn’t in how many people hear it, but in who hears it and how deeply it connects.

Quality over quantity. Alignment over attention.

Your voice deserves to be heard in spaces where it is valued—where it can make a real difference.

How to Know Where Your Voice is Needed

Not every invitation is an opportunity.

Some spaces want what you represent, not who you are. You might be included to check a box, but your actual voice? It’s sidelined.

That’s not your room.

Ask yourself:

  • Does this space genuinely value my voice?
  • Is my presence here aligned with my purpose?
  • Am I heard and respected, not just seen?

If the answers are no, it’s not your place to pour your energy into.

You deserve spaces where your contribution matters.

Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone

It’s human nature to stick with the familiar. But sometimes, the places we’ve outgrown are holding us back.

Finding where your voice is needed often means stepping outside your comfort zone.

Try new communities. Enter unfamiliar conversations. Build fresh connections.

You might be surprised how much common ground you discover when you truly see and hear others. Different backgrounds, same dreams. Different paths, shared values.

That’s where genuine community begins—with curiosity, openness, and the courage to explore beyond what feels safe.

Building Meaningful Connections

As we grow, so do our relationships. Not everyone who started with you is meant to go the distance. And that’s okay.

Invest in connections that:

  • Encourage your growth
  • Challenge you in meaningful ways
  • Support and celebrate your voice

The right connections won’t just tolerate your voice. They’ll make space for it. They’ll value it. They’ll help you carry it further.

The Power of Walking Away

One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is knowing when to walk away.

Leaving a space that doesn’t align with you isn’t failure. It’s wisdom.

When you walk away from what no longer serves you, you create space for what does. For the right people. For meaningful conversations. For opportunities that honor your voice.

Walking away is a declaration of self-worth. You’re not here to prove yourself in rooms that don’t value you. The right spaces will invite you in, not because they have to, but because they want to hear what you have to say.

The Ripple Effect of Showing Up Authentically

When you focus your energy where it’s truly needed, you create a ripple effect.

You may not always see the immediate impact, but:

  • A story you share helps someone feel less alone.
  • A truth you speak encourages someone else to find their voice.
  • A perspective you offer opens minds and hearts.

Impact isn’t always loud.

It’s the quiet strength of showing up authentically, in the right spaces, at the right time. That’s where real change begins.

State of Slay™: The Return

Even as I stepped away to focus on other parts of my life, the State of Slay™ blogs never truly went silent. More people have been reaching out, telling me they’ve been revisiting old posts, finding guidance, connection, and reminders that they’re not alone.

And as you may have noticed, I’ve quietly been writing and uploading new posts over the last few weeks—preparing for this very moment.

So today, on the 8th anniversary of the launch of State of Slay™, I want to say it loud and clear: I’m back.

This next chapter will bring new energy, fresh stories, and the same commitment to real, vulnerable dialogue that started it all. If you’ve been wondering when the blogs would return, this is your answer.

I’m here. My voice is here. State of Slay™ is here.

Final Thoughts: Go Where Your Voice is Needed

You don’t need to force yourself into spaces that don’t align with you.

Instead:

  • Seek out rooms that resonate with your values.
  • Build relationships that amplify your voice.
  • Step out of your comfort zone to discover new communities.
  • Know when to walk away from what no longer fits.
  • Speak your truth where it will be heard and valued.

When you go where your voice is needed, you don’t just create change—you create connection, fulfillment, and purpose.

That’s where the real magic happens.

SLAY OF THE DAY

  • Are you investing energy in spaces that no longer align with your purpose?
  • What communities or conversations feel aligned with your voice?
  • When was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone to explore something new?
  • Who in your life helps amplify your voice?
  • What’s one intentional step you can take today to bring your voice where it’s needed?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
Where is your voice needed right now?
Share your thoughts in the comments. Let’s support each other in finding those spaces.

And if you know someone who needs this reminder—send it their way.
We rise when we lift each other up.

Slay Say

Letting Go to Let Yourself In

It’s easy to carry the weight of old stories, the ones that say you can’t, or you’re not enough.
But today, release those stories.

Clear the space for your truth, for the voice that’s been waiting to be heard.
When you let go of what no longer serves you, you make room for what’s real, what’s possible.

This is a reminder to free yourself from the chains of yesterday and step into your truth.

Your truth is waiting.

SLAY ON.

Release the weight of old stories and embrace your truth. Let go of the beliefs and narratives that no longer serve you, and create space for a life rooted in authenticity. This is a reminder to take one small step today toward letting go, and give yourself permission to live fully in your truth.

Manifest Your Life

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it really means to manifest the life you want. For me, right now, it means making my own opportunities, not waiting for things to magically align. It means looking for the voids in what’s already there and figuring out how my talents and gifts can best be utilized. It means seeking inspiration from what already exists, then adding my own spin. It’s not about sitting around and dreaming; it’s about rolling up my sleeves, doing the work, and creating the life I want.

Taking Action Over Dreaming

Manifestation isn’t about wishing or hoping that things will get better. It’s about becoming an active participant in your own journey. I used to think that if I visualized enough, or just stayed positive, the universe would magically deliver. But what I’ve learned is that the universe meets us where we are—and we need to meet it halfway.

Manifesting means being intentional about what we want, but it also means moving with courage toward those goals. It’s about spotting the gaps and opportunities in your life and stepping into them. It’s about creating solutions, not waiting for them.

So I ask myself:

  • What areas of my life feel stagnant?
  • Where do I feel a pull to create something new?
  • How can I take my unique skills and perspectives and bring them to the table?

The Power of Inspired Action

Inspiration is everywhere. Look at what already exists—the businesses, projects, stories—and ask yourself: What’s missing? What would make this better? How can I bring my unique perspective to this space?

For me, this journey has meant embracing the idea that I’m the architect of my life. I’ve stopped waiting for someone to hand me the blueprint. Instead, I’m sketching it myself. That doesn’t mean it’s easy, and it doesn’t mean the plan is always clear, but it does mean I’m taking action rather than waiting for permission.

The universe loves movement. When we act, even in small ways, we generate momentum. We show that we’re serious about the life we’re building. That’s when opportunities start to show up—sometimes in the most unexpected places.

Letting Go of Perfection

One thing that held me back for years was the belief that I had to have it all figured out before I could start. That I needed to know exactly what I was doing, where I was going, and how it was going to turn out. But life doesn’t work that way.

Perfectionism is the enemy of progress. When we wait for the perfect moment or perfect plan, we risk never starting at all. I’ve learned to embrace the idea of starting before I feel ready, of learning as I go, and of adjusting the course as needed.

It’s not about getting it right on the first try—it’s about having the courage to try at all.

Manifestation Through Community

Manifesting your life doesn’t mean doing it all alone. Some of the most beautiful things I’ve created have come from collaborating with others, from sharing ideas and getting feedback, from leaning on a supportive network.

When I’m feeling stuck, I reach out. I ask for input. I listen to stories of how others have overcome challenges. Community fuels creativity, and connection reminds us that we’re not alone in this journey.

If you’re feeling isolated, reach out. Connect with someone who inspires you. Share your ideas. Be open to where the conversation might lead.

Living It Today

Manifesting isn’t about some future version of your life. It’s about living with intention today. It’s about making the most of this moment, taking the next step, and trusting that each step will lead you closer to where you’re meant to be.

So today, I’m asking myself:

  • What small action can I take today that will move me forward?
  • How can I show up for myself in this moment?
  • What can I create today that will make me proud tomorrow?

I’m choosing to live my manifestation in real time—not as a wish, but as a practice.

SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise

  • Are you waiting for permission to go after what you want?
  • What opportunities or gaps do you see around you?
  • How can your unique perspective and talents fill those spaces?
  • Are you stuck in perfectionism or fear? What’s one action you can take today?
  • Who can you reach out to for inspiration or support?
  • How can you live your manifestation today, not tomorrow?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one action you’re ready to take to manifest your life?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s inspire each other to take bold steps.

And if you know someone who’s ready to start manifesting their dreams, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a spark to start creating our own magic.

SLAY on.