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Knowing Yourself Can Become Another Way of Limiting Yourself

We spend a lot of time trying to figure ourselves out.

Who am I?

What do I want?

What am I good at?

What are my weaknesses?

What makes me happy?

What doesn’t work for me?

Self-awareness matters. The better we understand ourselves, the easier it can be to make choices that actually fit who we are instead of living according to who everyone else expects us to be.

But there’s a strange thing that can happen along the way.

We can become so certain about who we are that we stop leaving room for who we might become.

The things we’ve learned about ourselves slowly become definitions.

Then the definitions become rules.

And eventually, without realizing it, knowing ourselves can become another way of limiting ourselves.

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SELF-AWARENESS ISN’T SUPPOSED TO BE A CAGE

There is power in being able to say, “I know myself.”

I know what matters to me.

I know what drains me.

I know what I value.

I know what I need.

But knowing yourself and deciding you have yourself completely figured out are two very different things.

One creates awareness.

The other can create boundaries around your identity that you never think to question.

“I’m shy.”

“I’m not creative.”

“I’m terrible with money.”

“I’m not athletic.”

“I don’t like change.”

“I’m not a relationship person.”

“I could never run a business.”

“I’ve always been the responsible one.”

Sometimes those statements are useful observations.

But sometimes they are old conclusions masquerading as permanent truths.

YOU MAY BE DESCRIBING SOMEONE YOU USED TO BE

Think about how many things you know about yourself because of experiences you had years ago.

Maybe you decided you weren’t good at public speaking because you froze during a presentation in school.

Maybe you decided you weren’t athletic because you hated gym class.

Maybe you decided you weren’t creative because someone else was better at drawing.

Maybe you decided you weren’t good at relationships because several of yours ended badly.

At the time, those conclusions may have made sense.

But you kept living.

You learned things.

You had experiences.

You developed skills.

You healed.

You changed.

And yet the description remained.

Sometimes the person we think we know so well is actually someone we haven’t been for years.

IDENTITY LIKES EVIDENCE

Once we believe something about ourselves, we tend to notice the things that support it.

If you believe you’re socially awkward, the conversation that goes badly may stay with you much longer than the five that went well.

If you believe you’re someone who always quits, you may remember every unfinished project while overlooking all the things you’ve stayed committed to.

If you believe you’re bad with money, one impulsive purchase can feel like proof, while months of responsible decisions barely register.

If you believe you’re terrible at setting boundaries, the one time you said yes when you wanted to say no can become evidence that nothing has changed.

We don’t always examine our identity objectively.

Sometimes we defend it.

Even when the identity isn’t particularly flattering.

Because there is something strangely comforting about being able to explain ourselves to ourselves.

At least we know who we are.

The problem is that when we become invested in a particular version of ourselves, we may unconsciously keep collecting evidence that allows that version to survive.

“THAT’S JUST WHO I AM” CAN END THE CONVERSATION TOO SOON

There are few sentences more effective at stopping growth than:

“That’s just who I am.”

Sometimes it’s true.

You don’t need to turn every preference into a personal development project.

You’re allowed to dislike things.

You’re allowed to have limits.

You’re allowed to know what works for you.

But “that’s just who I am” can also become an easy way to avoid asking whether something is actually part of our identity or simply something we’ve practiced for a very long time.

Maybe you aren’t “bad at confrontation.”

Maybe you’ve spent years avoiding it.

Maybe you aren’t “someone who can’t be alone.”

Maybe you haven’t learned how to be comfortable in your own company yet.

Maybe you aren’t “terrible with change.”

Maybe uncertainty makes you anxious, and you’ve built your life around avoiding that feeling.

There is a difference between describing yourself and sentencing yourself.

LABELS CAN HELP UNTIL THEY START MAKING DECISIONS FOR YOU

We have more language than ever for understanding ourselves.

Introvert.

Extrovert.

People pleaser.

Perfectionist.

Highly sensitive.

Overthinker.

Type A.

Avoidant.

Anxious.

Independent.

Empath.

Labels can be incredibly helpful when they give us language for something we’ve struggled to understand.

There can be relief in discovering, “There’s a reason I experience things this way.”

But a label should help you understand yourself.

It shouldn’t become your instruction manual.

There is a subtle difference between:

“I tend to be introverted.”

and

“I’m an introvert, so I would hate that.”

One describes a tendency.

The other may make the decision before you ever have the experience.

SOMETIMES WE BECOME LOYAL TO OUR OWN STORY

Changing your mind about yourself can feel surprisingly uncomfortable.

Because identity creates continuity.

It connects the person you were yesterday to the person you expect to be tomorrow.

So when you begin behaving differently, part of you may resist.

Someone who has always been independent may feel uncomfortable asking for help.

Someone who has always been the caretaker may feel selfish when they begin putting themselves first.

Someone who has always avoided attention may feel exposed when they begin allowing themselves to be seen.

Someone who has always been practical may feel irresponsible pursuing something uncertain.

Nothing may actually be wrong.

You may simply be behaving outside the boundaries of the person you have decided you are.

Sometimes growth feels unfamiliar because you are meeting a version of yourself you haven’t had enough time to recognize yet.

YOUR PREFERENCES ARE ALLOWED TO CHANGE TOO

Not every change in identity needs to be profound.

Sometimes you simply change your mind.

You discover you like something you once hated.

You become interested in something you once dismissed.

You want a life you once swore you would never want.

You stop wanting something you spent years pursuing.

You enjoy staying home when you used to want to be out every night.

You become adventurous after years of playing it safe.

You discover that solitude feels peaceful instead of lonely.

We sometimes treat consistency as proof of authenticity.

But being authentic doesn’t mean remaining identical.

It means being honest about who you are now.

You don’t owe lifelong loyalty to every preference you’ve ever had.

SELF-KNOWLEDGE SHOULD INCLUDE CURIOSITY

Maybe the healthiest version of knowing yourself still includes a question mark.

Instead of:

“I’m not good at that.”

Try:

“I haven’t been good at that.”

Instead of:

“I could never do that.”

Try:

“I’ve never done that.”

Instead of:

“That’s not me.”

Try:

“That hasn’t been me.”

Those small changes leave something important intact.

Possibility.

They acknowledge your history without requiring your future to repeat it.

You can know yourself deeply and still remain curious about yourself.

In fact, maybe real self-awareness requires both.

YOU ARE NOT A FINISHED PERSON

We often talk about “finding ourselves” as though somewhere inside us is a completed person waiting to be discovered.

But much of who we are is still being created.

Through experience.

Through failure.

Through love.

Through loss.

Through curiosity.

Through choices we haven’t made yet.

Through places we haven’t gone.

Through people we haven’t met.

Through things we haven’t tried.

There are parts of you that may only exist because of something that hasn’t happened yet.

That doesn’t mean you don’t know yourself.

It means there is still more of you to know.

KNOW YOURSELF, BUT KEEP THE DOOR OPEN

Self-awareness should help you move through life with greater clarity.

It shouldn’t shrink the number of lives you believe you’re capable of living.

Know your patterns.

Know your values.

Know your boundaries.

Know what brings you peace.

Know what you need.

But leave a little space around the edges.

For surprise.

For contradiction.

For growth.

For the possibility that something you once believed about yourself is no longer true.

For the possibility that you might enjoy something you thought you’d hate.

For the possibility that you might be capable of something you assumed you couldn’t do.

For the possibility that tomorrow’s version of you might make absolutely no sense to yesterday’s version.

You are allowed to know yourself without deciding you have yourself figured out.

Sometimes the most important thing you can discover about yourself is that you were wrong about who you thought you had to be.

SLAY REFLECTION

S — Spot the Definition
What is something you regularly say about yourself as though it is an unquestionable fact?

L — Look at the Evidence
Is that belief still supported by who you are today, or are you using old experiences to describe your current self?

A — Allow for Change
Where could you replace “I am” with “I have been” and leave room for another possibility?

Y — Your Next Discovery
Do one small thing this week that doesn’t fit the version of yourself you think you know. You don’t have to become someone new. Just give yourself the opportunity to discover something new about who you already are.

CALL TO ACTION: JOIN THE CONVERSATION

I’d love to hear from you.

What is something you believed about yourself for years that eventually turned out not to be true?

Maybe you discovered you were braver than you thought. More creative. More independent. More social. More capable of change. Or maybe you simply realized that something you had always described as “just who I am” wasn’t who you were anymore.

Share your thoughts in the comments. Your experience may help someone else question a definition of themselves they’ve been carrying for far too long.

And if you know someone who has been living inside an old description of themselves, send this to them.

Sometimes we don’t need to find ourselves.

Sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to keep discovering who we are.

And, sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

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You Can Be Grateful and Still Want Something Different

Gratitude can be a beautiful thing.

It can remind us to notice what is good instead of constantly focusing on what is missing.

It can bring perspective.

It can help us recognize how much we have, how far we’ve come, and how many people and experiences have contributed to our lives.

But somewhere along the way, many of us learned to turn gratitude into a contract.

If we’re grateful for something, we think we’re supposed to keep wanting it.

If something has been good to us, we’re supposed to remain loyal to it.

If someone gave us an opportunity, we’re supposed to stay.

If a relationship once made us happy, questioning it can feel like a betrayal of everything it gave us.

And if our life looks good from the outside, wanting something different can feel almost embarrassingly ungrateful.

So we start arguing with our own desires.

What more could I possibly want?

Maybe that’s the wrong question.

Because gratitude tells you how you feel about what you’ve received.

It doesn’t necessarily tell you what you want next.

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GRATITUDE IS NOT A CONTRACT

Being grateful for something does not obligate you to keep choosing it forever.

You can be grateful for a job that gave you stability when you desperately needed it and eventually realize you want to do something else.

You can appreciate a friendship that carried you through a difficult period and recognize that the relationship has changed.

You can love the home where you built years of memories and still decide it’s time to move.

You can appreciate what someone has done for you without owing them permanent access to your life.

Gratitude acknowledges what something has meant to you.

It doesn’t sign away your right to change.

Sometimes we confuse appreciation with obligation because leaving feels as though we’re declaring that what came before wasn’t good enough.

But that’s not what change means.

Something can have been wonderful.

And you can still be finished with it.

DIFFERENT DOESN’T ALWAYS MEAN BETTER

We often talk about change as though we’re trying to upgrade our lives.

A better job.

A better relationship.

A better home.

A better version of ourselves.

But what if you don’t want better?

What if you simply want different?

That’s an important distinction.

You don’t have to prove that your current life is terrible before you’re allowed to imagine another one.

You don’t have to turn your job into the villain of the story before you’re allowed to leave it.

You don’t have to compile a list of someone’s faults to justify changing the relationship.

You don’t have to discover something wrong with where you are before you can become curious about somewhere else.

Sometimes change isn’t an indictment.

It’s movement.

And sometimes the pressure to prove that the next thing will be better is exactly what keeps us from exploring what might simply be more appropriate for who we are now.

A GOOD THING CAN STILL HAVE AN ENDING

This can be one of the hardest truths to accept.

We’re comfortable leaving things that are obviously bad for us.

At least then we have a reason.

But what about something that was good?

Something that worked?

Something we loved?

We tend to believe good things should continue indefinitely.

So when we begin wanting something different, we search for a problem to explain it.

Maybe nothing went wrong.

Maybe nothing needs to.

Not every ending is evidence of failure.

Some experiences belong to a particular period of our lives.

They give us something.

We give something to them.

And eventually the relationship between who we are and what they provide changes.

We don’t have to rewrite the past to make leaving the present acceptable.

WANTING MORE DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE LESS

There is a strange guilt that can come with wanting.

Especially when you know you’re fortunate.

You look around and see things you once hoped for.

Things other people would love to have.

Things you’ve worked hard to create.

And then another desire appears.

Immediately, we can begin policing ourselves.

Shouldn’t this be enough?

Enough is a complicated word.

Because something can be enough and still not be everything you want.

You can have enough love and still want more connection.

You can have enough success and still want a different challenge.

You can have enough security and still crave adventure.

You can have enough stability and still feel curious about change.

Wanting something else doesn’t erase what is already there.

Desire isn’t always evidence of dissatisfaction.

Sometimes it’s information.

BE CAREFUL WHEN GRATITUDE BECOMES GUILT

Gratitude says:

I appreciate this.

Guilt says:

Because I appreciate this, I’m not allowed to leave.

Those are very different things.

Guilt can make us stay long after our desire has gone quiet.

We think about the person who gave us our first chance.

The partner who stood beside us during a difficult time.

The friend who was there when nobody else was.

The family member who sacrificed for us.

And those things matter.

But gratitude becomes unhealthy when it requires you to build the rest of your life around repayment.

You can appreciate what someone gave you without handing them ownership of what comes next.

You can honor someone’s place in your story without giving them control over the remaining chapters.

SOMETIMES THE LIFE YOU WANTED STOPS FITTING

There are things we work incredibly hard to get.

And then we get them.

That can make changing our minds particularly difficult.

Because now we’re not only leaving something behind.

We’re confronting the person we once were who wanted it so badly.

You may have spent years building a career you no longer want.

You may have fought hard for a relationship that no longer feels right.

You may have sacrificed to create a lifestyle that now feels restrictive.

And part of you may think:

After everything I did to get here, how can I possibly walk away?

But your past desire doesn’t get permanent authority over your future.

You made choices based on who you were, what you knew, and what you needed at the time.

You are allowed to receive what you once wanted and eventually discover something about yourself you couldn’t have known before you had it.

That’s not ingratitude.

That’s new information.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO MAKE THE PAST WRONG

Sometimes we make change unnecessarily painful because we think we need to justify it.

So we start editing the story.

We focus on everything that wasn’t perfect.

We magnify frustrations.

We search for reasons something wasn’t actually as good as we thought.

We make people wrong so leaving them feels easier.

But what if you didn’t have to do that?

What if you could say:

That mattered to me.

That was good for me.

I’m glad I experienced it.

And I don’t want it anymore.

There is something freeing about allowing the past to remain good.

You don’t have to destroy your memories to earn permission to create new ones.

GRATITUDE LOOKS BACK. CHOICE LOOKS FORWARD.

Maybe this is the distinction we forget.

Gratitude asks:

What has this given me?

Choice asks:

What do I want from here?

One question doesn’t answer the other.

You can look backward with enormous appreciation while looking forward with completely different desires.

In fact, sometimes gratitude makes change easier because you no longer need to leave angry.

You don’t have to slam the door.

You don’t have to convince yourself that everything was terrible.

You don’t have to carry resentment into whatever comes next.

You can acknowledge what was good.

Take what you learned.

Keep what mattered.

And still go.

YOU ARE ALLOWED TO WANT SOMETHING DIFFERENT

Maybe your life is good.

Maybe there isn’t a dramatic problem to solve.

Maybe nobody did anything wrong.

Maybe you’re not unhappy.

Maybe you simply feel something changing inside you.

We often wait for unhappiness to give us permission to change.

But curiosity can be a reason too.

Growth can be a reason.

A shifting priority can be a reason.

A desire you can’t quite explain can be worth listening to.

You don’t have to immediately act on every feeling or blow up a perfectly good life because you woke up restless on a Tuesday.

But you can listen.

You can get curious.

You can ask yourself what the desire is trying to tell you without immediately shaming yourself for having it.

Because gratitude and desire can occupy the same space.

You can love what was and wonder what’s next.

You can appreciate where you are and imagine somewhere else.

You can be thankful for everything that brought you here without deciding that here is where you must remain.

Sometimes the most respectful thing you can do with a good chapter is let it be good without forcing it to become the entire story.

SLAY REFLECTION

S — SEE WHAT YOU APPRECIATE
What in your life are you genuinely grateful for right now?

L — LISTEN TO WHAT YOU WANT
Is there something different you’ve been wanting but dismissing because you think you should be satisfied?

A — ASK WHAT’S KEEPING YOU THERE
Are you choosing something because you still want it, or because leaving would make you feel guilty or ungrateful?

Y — YOUR NEXT STEP
Give yourself permission to explore what you want without requiring yourself to make an immediate decision. Sometimes acknowledging the desire is the first step.

CALL TO ACTION: JOIN THE CONVERSATION

I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever felt guilty for wanting something different because what you already had was good?

Did you stay because you thought being grateful meant you weren’t allowed to change your mind?

Share your thoughts in the comments. Your experience may help someone else realize they don’t have to make something bad before they’re allowed to choose something different.

And if you know someone who is struggling with wanting change in a life they are genuinely grateful for, send this to them.

Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Woman standing apart from a group of people, representing the difference between what feels familiar and what is right for us.

Familiar Doesn’t Mean Right

There is a strange comfort in knowing what comes next.

Even when what comes next isn’t particularly good for us.

We know this person will disappoint us.

We know this job will drain us.

We know this friendship will leave us feeling like an afterthought.

We know this habit will make us feel worse tomorrow.

And yet, there can be something strangely reassuring about returning to what we already know.

Because familiarity has its own kind of gravity.

We know the rules there.

We know who we are there.

We know how to survive there.

And sometimes we mistake that recognition for a sign that something belongs in our lives.

But familiar doesn’t mean right.

Sometimes it just means we’ve been there before.

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YOUR BRAIN LIKES TO KNOW WHAT COMES NEXT

We tend to think we make decisions based entirely on what we want.

But predictability has tremendous power.

When we know how something works, we don’t have to spend as much energy figuring it out.

Even an unpleasant pattern can offer that predictability.

You know which subjects not to bring up.

You know when someone is likely to withdraw.

You know how much of yourself to reveal.

You know when to apologize, smooth things over, work harder, stay quiet, or make yourself useful.

You may not be happy.

But you know the choreography.

That can create an illusion of comfort.

Not because the situation is actually comfortable, but because you have become skilled at navigating it.

There is an important difference between feeling safe and feeling competent at surviving something.

We don’t always recognize that difference.

WE CAN MISTAKE RECOGNITION FOR CONNECTION

Have you ever met someone and immediately felt like you had known them forever?

Sometimes that’s wonderful.

Sometimes it deserves a closer look.

Because what exactly are you recognizing?

Maybe you recognize their humor.

Their energy.

Their values.

Their openness.

But sometimes what feels instantly familiar is a dynamic you’ve experienced before.

Someone emotionally unavailable can feel compelling if you’ve spent much of your life trying to earn closeness.

Someone who needs constant help can feel strangely attractive if being needed has always made you feel valuable.

Someone unpredictable can create an intensity that feels like chemistry when what you are actually recognizing is uncertainty.

The feeling is real.

Our interpretation of the feeling isn’t always accurate.

“I know this feeling” can easily become “This must be right.”

Those are two very different statements.

SOMETIMES WE KNOW EXACTLY WHO TO BE IN THE WRONG PLACE

There is another reason familiar situations can be difficult to leave.

They give us a role.

Maybe you’re the fixer.

The peacemaker.

The responsible one.

The one who never needs anything.

The one who keeps everyone laughing.

The one who absorbs everyone else’s emotions.

The one who proves their worth by being indispensable.

You may have played that role for so long that it no longer feels like something you do.

It feels like who you are.

Then something changes.

You enter a relationship where nobody needs rescuing.

You find friends who don’t require you to perform for your place in the group.

You work somewhere that doesn’t expect you to sacrifice your life to prove your commitment.

Suddenly, an unexpected question appears:

Who am I if nobody needs me to be that person anymore?

Sometimes we miss the old dynamic not because it was good for us, but because we understood ourselves inside it.

HEALTHY CAN FEEL STRANGE AT FIRST

We often imagine that when something healthier enters our lives, we’ll immediately recognize it.

Finally.

This is what I’ve been waiting for.

Sometimes.

Other times, healthy feels surprisingly uncomfortable.

Consistency can make you suspicious when you are accustomed to unpredictability.

A relationship without constant conflict can feel strangely quiet.

Someone respecting your boundaries can initially feel like they don’t care enough to fight for access to you.

A friendship without competition can make you wonder what the other person really wants.

A workplace that doesn’t expect you to answer emails at all hours can leave you feeling guilty when you close the laptop.

Rest can feel irresponsible.

Peace can feel boring.

Receiving can feel selfish.

And none of those feelings necessarily mean something is wrong.

Sometimes they mean something is new.

DISCOMFORT ISN’T ALWAYS A WARNING

We are often encouraged to trust our feelings.

And we should listen to them.

But listening to a feeling doesn’t mean automatically obeying the conclusion we attach to it.

Discomfort can tell us something is wrong.

It can also tell us something is unfamiliar.

Those require very different responses.

If you’ve spent years saying yes when you wanted to say no, setting a boundary may feel terrible.

That doesn’t mean the boundary is wrong.

If you’re accustomed to explaining yourself until everyone approves of your decisions, saying, “This is what I’ve decided,” and leaving it there may feel almost unbearable.

That doesn’t mean you owe another explanation.

If you have always measured your value through productivity, taking an afternoon off may make you restless.

That doesn’t mean you should get back to work.

Sometimes discomfort is an alarm.

Sometimes it is simply the sensation of stepping outside an old pattern.

Learning to tell the difference is part of growth.

DISTANCE CAN EDIT OUR MEMORY

There is another trick our memory can play on us.

Once we get far enough away from something, we can begin remembering it selectively.

We remember the good conversations and forget how anxious we felt waiting for the next one.

We remember the laughter and forget how often we cried.

We remember belonging and forget how much of ourselves we had to edit to belong.

We remember what the job gave us and forget what it took from us.

We remember the comfort of the habit and minimize the consequences.

Distance can soften sharp edges.

That isn’t necessarily a bad thing. We don’t need to carry every painful detail forever.

But nostalgia is not always an accurate historian.

Missing something doesn’t automatically mean you should return to it.

Sometimes you miss something because it was important.

Sometimes because there were genuinely beautiful parts of it.

And sometimes because your mind knows exactly where everything is in that old room.

That still doesn’t mean you should move back in.

THE UNKNOWN DOESN’T HAVE A TRACK RECORD YET

There’s another unfair advantage the familiar has over the new.

The familiar has evidence.

You know what happened before.

The unknown has nothing.

You don’t know whether the new relationship will work.

You don’t know whether the career change will be worth it.

You don’t know whether you’ll find your people somewhere else.

You don’t know who you’ll become when you stop doing what you’ve always done.

So we sometimes compare the certainty of something mediocre with the uncertainty of something potentially better.

Of course, certainty can win that contest.

It arrives carrying receipts.

The unknown arrives empty-handed.

But uncertainty is not evidence that something will go badly.

It is simply the absence of evidence about what comes next.

There are possibilities we cannot discover while insisting that the future prove itself before we are willing to leave the past.

YOU MAY NEED TO GIVE GOOD THINGS TIME TO BECOME FAMILIAR

We talk a lot about letting go of what no longer serves us.

We talk less about what happens afterward.

Because there can be an awkward stretch between leaving an old pattern and feeling at home in a new one.

You may question yourself.

You may miss what you left.

You may wonder why something supposedly healthier doesn’t feel natural yet.

Maybe it isn’t supposed to.

You had years to learn the old pattern.

You knew its shortcuts, warning signs, hiding places, and exits.

You knew your lines.

Something new doesn’t have any of that history yet.

You are learning it.

And perhaps one of the most overlooked parts of changing your life is giving yourself enough time for healthier experiences to stop feeling foreign.

For peace to become recognizable.

For mutual support to become normal.

For boundaries to stop feeling mean.

For rest to stop feeling lazy.

For being loved without performing for it to stop making you wonder what the catch is.

Eventually, what once felt unfamiliar can become the new familiar.

FAMILIAR DOESN’T MEAN RIGHT

When you find yourself being pulled toward an old person, pattern, behavior, or version of yourself, it may be worth asking a different question.

Not:

Why do I still want this?

But:

What about this do I recognize?

Maybe you recognize being needed.

Maybe you recognize chasing approval.

Maybe you recognize instability.

Maybe you recognize overworking.

Maybe you recognize putting yourself last.

Maybe you simply recognize the person you used to be when you were there.

Recognition can be powerful.

But it isn’t destiny.

You are allowed to stop choosing something simply because you know how to survive it.

You are allowed to become unfamiliar with an old version of your life.

And you are allowed to feel awkward, uncertain, or even uncomfortable while something better slowly becomes recognizable.

Because sometimes the thing that feels strange isn’t wrong.

It’s just new.

And sometimes the thing that feels like home isn’t where you belong anymore.

SLAY REFLECTION

S — Spot the Familiar
Where in your life are you repeatedly drawn toward a person, situation, habit, or dynamic that you already know doesn’t work for you?

L — Look Beneath the Feeling
What feels familiar about it? Is it the person or situation itself, or the role you know how to play within it?

A — Allow the Unfamiliar
Is there something healthier in your life that you may be resisting simply because it doesn’t feel natural yet?

Y — Your New Normal
Choose one healthy experience you want to give yourself enough time to become familiar with instead of retreating to what you already know.

CALL TO ACTION: JOIN THE CONVERSATION

I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever had something healthier feel uncomfortable at first because it was new?

Share your thoughts in the comments. Your experience may help someone else recognize when they’re choosing what they know instead of what they truly want.

And if you know someone who keeps finding their way back to the same people, patterns, or situations, send this to them.

Sometimes what feels like home is simply a place we’ve been before.