There was a time in my life when I wasn’t sure I wanted to keep living.
I kept everything bottled inside — my fear, my pain, my confusion, and the constant battle in my head that told me I wasn’t enough. I carried that darkness quietly, pretending I could handle it alone, that asking for help was weakness.
But eventually I hit a moment I couldn’t escape:
I was scared of what I might do to myself just to quiet the pain.
It was in that darkest moment that something shifted.
A story came back to me — a story a friend had shared about his own struggle. At the time I heard it, it was just a story. A powerful one, sure, but still just something I listened to and admired from a distance.
Months later, on that frightening night, I recognized myself in the beginning of his story — the part where suffering feels endless and hopeless.
And that recognition changed everything.
Hope Isn’t Just a Feeling — It’s Something We Receive and Give
I often wonder how many times we underestimate the power of connection.
That story my friend shared didn’t cure me. It didn’t fix everything. But it showed up in the exact moment I needed it — and that was enough to keep me moving forward.
Not because the pain was gone…
But because I finally saw that I wasn’t alone.
That recognition — that someone else had walked through darkness and found light — gave me a reason to keep going. That was the beginning of my own journey back to life.
And because someone shared their truth, I found hope.
Showing Up Is the Smallest — Yet Most Powerful — Act of Service
Hope doesn’t always arrive in grand gestures.
Sometimes it shows up in the simplest things:
A smile.
A hello.
A listening ear.
A message that says, I see you.
When we simply show up, we affirm someone’s worth — even when they can’t feel it themselves.
You never know who’s watching quietly from the sidelines, waiting for proof that they matter. You never know whose heart is in the dark, searching for a light.
That’s why helping others — even in small ways — matters more than we can imagine.
What We Give May Be the Hope Someone Needs to Survive
One of the most humbling things I learned is that stories matter.
Not because they are polished or perfect —
but because they are real.
When I finally shared my own journey — not just the finished version but the messy, painful beginnings — something clicked. Other people saw themselves in it. They recognized their struggle in the cracks of my story. It reminded them that they, too, could keep going.
That’s the power of truth.
It connects us.
It heals us.
It saves lives.
And sometimes the hope we give to others becomes a source of strength for ourselves.
You Don’t Have to Fix Someone to Help Them
Helping others doesn’t always mean solving their problems.
Sometimes it means:
Showing up
Listening without judgment
Sharing your story
Being present
Being consistent
Offering compassion
Willingness to care even when it’s hard
Helping others is how we remind them —
and ourselves — that we matter.
Hope Isn’t About Perfection
Hope isn’t a destination.
It’s a presence.
It doesn’t mean everything is okay.
It doesn’t erase pain.
It doesn’t suddenly make life easy.
But it reminds us that we don’t have to walk through pain alone.
And that it’s okay to ask for help.
Not just once — many times.
Not just when it’s convenient — but when it’s hardest.
Because in asking for help, we make space for others to help us — and through that exchange, something powerful unfolds.
You Never Know Who Is Watching
There’s a truth we overlook:
When you help someone — even with the tiniest kindness — you never know how far that ripple goes.
Your story might be the reason someone keeps going.
Your presence might be the reason someone feels seen.
Your kindness might be the moment that lights someone’s path.
And sometimes — years later — that person you helped could tell someone else about it.
Hope multiplies.
It doesn’t stay in one heart.
It spreads.
SLAY Reflection
Let’s reflect, SLAYER:
S: Who in your life gave you hope when you needed it most?
L: How has someone else’s journey inspired your own healing?
A: What simple action can you take today to offer hope to another person?
Y: How might your vulnerability be a gift to someone else who feels alone?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
When has someone’s presence or story given you hope — and how did it change your journey?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who might be struggling today, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a reminder that hope exists.
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Carrie,
Thank you. I’m so grateful you’re here, and healthy. I’m so thankful that you’re sharing your journey with all of us. You’re an inspiration, sure, but your struggles don’t define you, anymore. What does define you, now, is the light you carry and how bright it shines out of your eyes when you talk about your peace, your happiness, your joy, and acceptance of yourself.
Many people have terrible histories with self harm, abuse, depression, all those dark things we endure, but too few ever come to a higher place where they can bend down, back into the edge of the muck and mire, and grasp the hands of those fighting for purchase on safe ground. YOU DO! All the damn time, you reach out for the rest of us, and that means so much.
I imagine it must be difficult to stand that close to the edge and watch as others suffer, knowing how close you came to going under. I picture you screaming at us to just reach out! Just take your hand, and you’ll pull us to safety! So, we do, and there you are, smiling, encouraging, hopeful, ready to share all you’ve learned. You, Carrie Genzel, have become a soft place to land in a very hard world.
So, happy anniversary, happy rebirthday, and many wonderful returns of the day. I love you.
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Tears, you know there were tears as I read your beautiful message. Thank you. I offer my journey with the intention of giving back what was so freely given to me, and still is, and to shed some light in what can be a dark world for those who still struggle.
I cheer you all on in the hope that you will join me in the light, and know that no matter where you’ve come from, your past does not define you, and you can choose to leave it behind at anytime and become the beautiful soul you are meant to be.
Thank you so much for your words, they touched my heart. SLAY on!
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Mimi put it best. “You, Carrie Genzel, have become a soft place to land in a very hard world.”
True facts, thank you – thank you so much. My life has been blessed and changed because of your part in it and Mimi – same thing. All my love, happy rebirthday ❤
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As has mine with all of you ❤
SLAY on!
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That really was a happy birthday! Idky we wait until we dug ourselves in so deep before asking but I relate to all of what you say here. Best blog I know!
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Thank you Andria! SLAY on!
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