Silence Your Own Doubt First
The world will always have critics, doubters, and voices ready to tell you what you can’t do. But the most dangerous voice is the one inside your own head. When you start believing you’re not capable, you hand your power away before the fight even begins.
This is your reminder to guard your self-talk, to build yourself up, and to never let your own doubt be the thing that holds you back.
SLAY on!
Not every day will be a sprint—and that’s not a failure. Some days will feel like momentum, others like maintenance. And that’s still progress.
The truth is, life isn’t about hitting your peak every single day—it’s about honoring where you are and showing up in a way that’s true to that moment. Some days you’ll move mountains. Other days, you’ll simply stand your ground. Both matter.
Progress is built in moments, not just milestones. The small steps you take on your slowest days are just as valuable as the leaps you take on your strongest ones.
This is your reminder to celebrate the fact that you’re still moving forward, no matter the pace.
SLAY on!
Comfort is fleeting.
It’s easy to map out your life for the good days, the smooth seasons, the times when everything flows.
But those aren’t the days that test the strength of your foundation.
True growth happens when you shape your future with resilience in mind—when you build a life that can hold you steady through the storms, not just the sunshine.
This is your reminder: The stronger you become in the hard moments, the more unshakable your path forward will be.
SLAY on!
Even when it feels unfamiliar…
Even when no one understands your choices…
Even when it’s hard to let go of who you were…
Keep going.
The point of growth isn’t staying the same.
It’s giving yourself permission to evolve.
You don’t need to prove your past to anyone.
What matters is who you’re becoming—and the life that’s waiting on the other side of your courage.
So if it’s time to close a chapter, do it.
Not out of regret. But because the next one deserves a fresh page.
SLAY on!
You may never know who’s watching, or whose life you’re silently shifting just by staying the course.
The most meaningful encouragement often doesn’t come with applause—it comes with resonance.
Your courage to keep going, even when no one’s looking, might be the very thing that gives someone else the strength to do the same.
This is your reminder to keep showing up—not for validation, but because your story holds power, even if it unfolds quietly.
SLAY on.
If I’m being honest, most of the time…I don’t feel ready.
Whether it’s a new opportunity, a big decision, or even sitting down to write something like this—I rarely feel 100% ready. If left to my own devices, I’d keep fine-tuning, researching, adjusting, and second-guessing. I’d wait until everything was “perfect.”
But what I’ve learned on this path is simple and powerful: ready isn’t a feeling—it’s a decision.
We tell ourselves we’ll start when we feel more confident.
We’ll speak up when we feel more prepared.
We’ll leap when we feel less scared.
But the truth is, that feeling of readiness? It doesn’t always show up. And if it does, it usually comes after we’ve already taken action—not before.
The illusion of “readiness” keeps us stuck. We wait, thinking there’s some magical moment where we’ll feel different—bolder, braver, more equipped. But most opportunities don’t wait for us to feel ready.
They ask us to decide to be ready.
In my life, there have been countless times I’ve had to make that decision.
Sometimes it was because of a deadline.
Sometimes it was because an opportunity had an expiration date.
Sometimes I just knew if I didn’t move forward, I’d stay stuck.
And every time, I’ve learned this: I didn’t need to know everything. I just needed to know enough to start.
Being ready doesn’t mean having every answer. It doesn’t mean knowing the full path. It means saying, “I’ve got what I need to take this step, and I’ll figure the next one out as I go.”
One thing I’ve carried with me on my journey is this simple reminder:
Do what’s in front of your hands.
That means staying grounded in the present step—even when your mind wants to jump five steps ahead. Yes, it’s wise to have a vision. I like to look a little ahead, to prepare for what’s coming. But the real growth? It happens in the now.
When you focus on what’s right in front of you—just the next task, the next decision, the next act of courage—you start to build momentum. And that momentum leads to clarity, confidence, and more opportunity.
Waiting until you feel ready often comes from a deeper fear of making mistakes. But perfection isn’t the goal—progress is.
You’re allowed to make messy starts.
You’re allowed to learn as you go.
You’re allowed to pivot, evolve, and adjust your plan.
Because the truth is, the journey is the point. It’s not about getting it “right” the first time. It’s about moving forward, learning, and becoming.
You’re not behind. You’re not unqualified. You’re simply standing at the edge of the next thing. And all that’s left is to decide to begin.
If you’ve been waiting for the perfect moment to start, here’s your sign: stop waiting.
Make the decision. Be willing to show up before you feel completely ready. Trust that you’ll grow into each next step—and that you already have everything you need to begin.
The truth is, you won’t always feel ready.
But you can always choose to be.
Let’s check in, SLAYER:
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s something you’ve been waiting to feel ready for—and how can you choose to begin today instead?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s stuck waiting for the “perfect moment,” send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
Before I started this path, I wished for change daily. I hoped something—or someone—would swoop in and fix everything. But I wasn’t honest about what was really going on. I blamed others. I minimized my pain. I lived in denial.
What I didn’t realize was that my life wouldn’t get better just because I wanted it to. Wishing doesn’t work without action. And action requires honesty, openness, and willingness.
H.O.W. may sound simple, but when you’re living in darkness, it can feel impossible. Denial lies to you. It convinces you to bury the truth, avoid the mirror, and keep digging deeper into the hole.
But once I got desperate enough, I stopped digging. I looked up. I told the truth. And for the first time in a long time, I was willing to climb.
The day I got honest about the mess I’d made was the day everything started to shift.
I saw the wreckage I had caused—not just in my life, but in the lives of people who had tried to love me. I stopped blaming. I started owning. I opened myself to new ideas, new tools, new people who could guide me.
And I became willing—not just to admit my mistakes, but to fix them. That’s where real healing lives. That’s where the change I had longed for finally began to show up.
It wasn’t perfect. It wasn’t fast. But it was real.
When you’re ready to change but don’t know how, ask yourself:
If the answer to any of those is no, you’re not stuck—you’re just not ready yet.
But if the answer is yes?
Get ready. Life is about to shift.
SLAY on.
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way you can practice honesty, open-mindedness, or willingness this week?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s ready for change but doesn’t know where to start, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a roadmap—and a nudge.
It’s easy to feel disappointed when things don’t work out the way we’d hoped. But here’s the hard truth: sometimes we’re disappointed not because life let us down, but because we didn’t show up and do the work. We wanted the results, but skipped the steps it takes to earn them.
I know this because I lived it. For years, I clung to magical thinking—believing that somehow, some way, the good things I wanted would just appear. I thought if I wished hard enough or hoped long enough, the change I needed would show up without me having to actually do anything different.
Spoiler alert: it didn’t.
Looking back, I realize how much time I wasted waiting for something to happen instead of making something happen. I was stuck in the cycle of perfectionism and low self-worth—telling myself there was no point in trying if I couldn’t do it perfectly, or that I wasn’t worthy of the outcome anyway. So I stayed stuck, watching others get the results I wanted while doing nothing to change my own situation.
Scrolling through social media didn’t help. I saw people thriving, hitting milestones, sharing wins. And I wanted that. But instead of getting inspired, I got resentful. Why not me?
The truth: I hadn’t done the work. They had.
It took hitting a true bottom—emotionally, spiritually, and physically—for me to finally reach out and ask for help. I didn’t know what the path looked like, and I didn’t need to. I just had to take the first step. That single act—picking up the phone and admitting I needed support—set everything into motion.
As I walked this new path, I started to do the work. And the results came. Slowly at first, but with each effort, my life began to change. The more I invested in myself, the more I believed I was worthy of what I was building. And that belief—that self-worth—became the true result of the work I was doing.
No one can do this for you. Not your friends, not your partner, not your mentor. The transformation starts with you. It might feel overwhelming to imagine all the work it takes to change your life, but you don’t have to do it all at once. You only have to do what’s in front of you. One step, one moment, one decision at a time.
Doing the work shifts your mindset. It silences the doubts and empowers you to keep going. Even when the results aren’t immediate or perfect, the effort is building something better. Something sustainable. Something real.
If you want change, you have to move. Wishful thinking might feel comfortable, but real change requires real effort. The work is where the transformation happens.
So ask yourself: Are you ready to stop hoping for results and start working for them?
SLAY on.
SLAY OF THE DAY: Time to Get Honest
Do you expect results from work you haven’t done?
Have you used magical thinking to justify inaction? How has that worked for you?
Can you remember a time when hard work led to a positive result? How did that feel?
What first step can you take today toward a goal you’ve been avoiding?
How might your life change if you committed to action instead of waiting for a miracle?
You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to start.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one thing you’ve been hoping would change without putting in the work? And what’s one step you can take today to shift that?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s stuck in the wishing phase, send this to them.
Sometimes, we just need a reminder that we already have what it takes.
I used to think perseverance was only for certain things—like career goals or material achievements. But when it came to my mental health, I was quick to throw in the towel. The moment a setback occurred, my inner critic would scream, “Why bother? You’ll fail anyway.” And too often, I listened.
But I learned something: true perseverance—the kind that transforms you—isn’t about pushing through only when it’s easy or convenient. It’s about showing up for yourself, even when the path is rocky, the finish line invisible, and the negative voices loud.
There were times I clung to perseverance for external wins but abandoned it for the internal work—the work that mattered most. I believed the lie that I didn’t deserve good things. But when I finally committed to my recovery, I discovered that same perseverance, channeled into my healing, could produce powerful results.
When you ask most successful people their secret, they’ll likely tell you: perseverance. They didn’t give up. It seems like common sense, but how often do we stop just shy of the finish line? Or give up before the miracle happens?
There’s no published timeline for how long we have to keep going without seeing results. That’s where many falter. But if you can’t stop thinking about it—if giving up feels like losing a part of yourself—then keep going. That’s your sign.
Sometimes, perseverance isn’t about bull-headedness. It’s about flexibility, too. If a particular path isn’t working, the lesson might be to pivot. But often, it’s about staying the course—especially when it comes to your own well-being.
Before recovery, I used perseverance to chase things that didn’t nourish me. Now, I channel it into what matters: my mental, emotional, and spiritual health. It’s not easy. There are still days when the voices of doubt and fear creep in. But I’ve learned to keep going, to fight for the life I want, and to trust that even the smallest steps count.
The finish line may be hidden, but it’s there. The only way to see it is to keep moving forward. Don’t let the setbacks define you. Let your perseverance become your strength.
Would you say you have perseverance?
Write out some examples of when you’ve shown perseverance. What was the result?
Do you consistently have perseverance, or only in certain areas?
What stops you from persevering?
When have you failed to persevere? Why?
What can you do to cultivate perseverance in those areas?
What challenges do you face in maintaining perseverance?
How can you channel it into things that nurture your growth and healing?
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one thing in your life you’re determined to keep going for, no matter what?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s lift each other up.
And if you know someone who’s struggling to stay the course, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a reminder that perseverance is worth it.
We all have those days—the ones where everything feels off, and the voice in our head won’t stop pointing out what’s wrong. It’s easy to slip into negativity. To complain, spiral, and believe we’re stuck. But when the clouds gather, there’s one question that cuts through the noise:
What are you going to do about it?
There was a time when negativity was my default. No matter what I had or how good things should’ve been, I’d find the flaw. I’d vent, criticize, and stay stuck in that cycle—not realizing I was cementing the very misery I wanted to escape.
I told myself I was making changes. But in reality, I was chasing quick fixes—temporary solutions that numbed the discomfort without addressing the root. The result? A deeper hole, darker thoughts, and more reasons to stay stuck.
It’s not just that complaining feeds negativity. It’s that it validates it. Every time I repeated my negative thoughts out loud, I gave them more power. And the more I listened, the more they became my truth.
When I finally asked for help and began my healing journey, I realized how much control I actually had. Not over others. Not over circumstances. But over how I respond.
If I woke up expecting a bad day, that’s exactly what I got. But when I shifted my mindset—when I took intentional steps to create good—I started experiencing good. Not perfect. But better. Brighter.
The truth is: no one is coming to save us. We can receive support, yes. But lasting change comes when we take ownership. When we stop waiting for our life to fix itself and choose to be the one who takes action.
That’s where self-love kicks in. Not the feel-good fluff, but the real work: showing up for yourself when it’s hard. Creating small wins. Caring for your body, your mind, your spirit—even when it feels easier to quit.
It’s easy to fall into victim mode. But that doesn’t mean we’re helpless. The shift happens the moment we pause and ask:
What can I do about this—right now?
Can I get up and go for a walk? Take a deep breath? Make a to-do list? Reach out to someone? Focus on gratitude? Take one small action that reminds me I’m in charge of my own energy?
You don’t have to fix everything at once. But doing something breaks the cycle.
Because staying in the same place and expecting a different outcome? That’s a trap. And you’re too powerful to stay stuck.
No one gets it right every day. Some days will be messy. You’ll slip. You’ll spiral. That’s okay.
But if you keep showing up—even imperfectly—you’ll build momentum. And over time, those small choices add up.
You deserve a life that feels good from the inside out. And it starts with asking yourself the hard question—and answering it with love.
So next time you catch yourself complaining, pause. Ask:
What am I going to do about it?
Then take the first step.
SLAY Reflection
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Call to Action: Join the Conversation I’d love to hear from you.
When you feel stuck in negative thinking, what’s one thing you do to break the cycle?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s been feeling overwhelmed or defeated, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
