living in truth

Invisible to What Isn’t Love

There’s a quiet kind of power that comes from living in love, in truth, and in alignment with who you are. It doesn’t scream for attention. It doesn’t need to prove itself. It simply is. And when you settle into that place—your authentic place—you’ll notice something miraculous: the noise, the chaos, the lies, the drama, the things that used to pull you under, can’t even touch you anymore.

It’s like you become invisible to everything that doesn’t match your frequency.

That’s not magic. That’s alignment.

Love Is the Foundation

When I talk about love here, I don’t mean the hearts-and-flowers version of love that gets wrapped up in greeting cards or romanticized movies. I mean the kind of love that starts inside you—the radical, unconditional love that says:

  • I am worthy.
  • I am enough.
  • I don’t need to perform, please, or prove my value.

When you stand in that kind of love, you stop chasing after scraps of validation. You stop bending yourself into pieces just to keep others comfortable. You recognize that your energy, your time, your spirit are sacred.

And that love becomes your shield. Not a shield that hardens you, but one that keeps out anything that doesn’t reflect back respect, kindness, or reciprocity.

Truth Sets You Free

Living in truth can be terrifying at first. Many of us were taught to hide pieces of ourselves to stay safe, to keep the peace, or to earn approval. For years, I wore masks—smiling when I wasn’t okay, saying “yes” when everything inside me screamed “no,” bending my truth so others wouldn’t have to face theirs.

But here’s the thing: bending your truth breaks you.

When I finally began to speak honestly—about what I needed, what I felt, and what I believed—I was terrified people would leave. And you know what? Some did. But the ones who stayed? They were the ones who truly saw me.

Truth is a filter. It doesn’t cost you real love. It only costs you illusions.

Alignment Makes You Untouchable

Alignment is what happens when your actions, your words, and your values finally match. It’s when your “yes” means yes, your “no” means no, and your energy flows in the direction of your highest good instead of being drained by people-pleasing, perfectionism, or fear.

When you’re aligned, you don’t need to force anything. You don’t need to beg, explain, or overcompensate. You simply are, and that “being” is enough.

And here’s where the magic happens: the things that are not love, not truth, not aligned—they literally can’t find you anymore. They bounce off. The drama you used to get pulled into suddenly looks exhausting. The games people play feel irrelevant. The old triggers don’t stick because you’ve outgrown the version of yourself that needed to engage with them.

You become invisible to what’s beneath you, because you’re no longer on that frequency.

The Power of Choosing What You Align With

Here’s what I know for sure:

  • If you align with fear, fear will find you.
  • If you align with shame, shame will chase you.
  • If you align with love, truth, and integrity, only those things can stay.

It doesn’t mean life will be free of challenges. But it does mean you’ll have the strength, clarity, and resilience to meet them without losing yourself.

And it’s in that space that you realize: peace isn’t about controlling your surroundings—it’s about controlling your alignment within them.

How to Stay in Love, Truth, and Alignment

It sounds simple, but it’s a daily practice. Here are some ways I stay anchored when the world tries to pull me out of myself:

  1. Pause before reacting. Ask: Am I about to respond from fear, or from love?
  2. Check your motives. Are you acting to be seen, validated, or liked—or because it’s aligned with your values?
  3. Revisit your boundaries. If something drains you, it’s not aligned with your truth.
  4. Speak honestly. Even if your voice shakes. Even if it costs you approval.
  5. Choose peace over proving. You don’t need to convince anyone of your worth.

The Gift of Invisibility

Being invisible to what isn’t love, truth, or alignment isn’t about ignoring reality. It’s about being so rooted in your truth that lies can’t hook you. It’s about being so anchored in love that hate has nowhere to land.

It’s about being so aligned that drama looks for someone else to feed on—because you’ve stopped giving it energy.

And that, SLAYER, is freedom.

SLAY Reflection

  1. Where in your life are you still bending your truth to keep the peace?
  2. What practices help you return to self-love when you feel unworthy?
  3. Who or what drains your energy because it’s not aligned with your values?
  4. How does it feel when you fully act from alignment?
  5. What’s one area of your life where you can choose love, truth, and alignment this week?

S – Stand firm in your truth, even when it’s uncomfortable
L – Let love, not fear, be your guide
A – Align your actions with your values, daily
Y – Yield to your highest self and let the rest fall away

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What shifted when you chose to stay in love, stay in truth, and stay aligned?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s struggling with people-pleasing, fear, or chaos—send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a reminder that alignment makes us untouchable.

Authenticity Is a Higher Vibration Than Joy and Love

We spend so much of our lives chasing happiness, love, and the so-called “good vibes.” But what if the real key to alignment isn’t about always being joyful or even feeling loved? What if the most powerful shift we can make is to be authentic?

Because here’s the truth: authenticity is a higher vibration than joy and love.

The Truth About Vibration

Energy doesn’t lie. And when you’re pretending, pleasing, or performing, your vibration lowers—even if you’re smiling through it.

Joy without truth is performative. Love without boundaries is self-abandonment.

Authenticity, however, is rooted in truth. It’s grounded in presence. It’s the real you. And when we operate from that space, we emit the clearest, most powerful frequency we have. We show up aligned—and everything around us responds to that.

Real Over Perfect

There was a time when I thought I had to look happy to be happy. Smile through the pain. Be grateful when I was struggling. Be kind even when I was breaking.

But fake it ‘til you make it can only take you so far.

The day I stopped trying to be perfect and started being real—everything changed. People connected more deeply with me. My relationships became healthier. I became healthier. Because I wasn’t trying to stay high-vibe. I was trying to stay real.

And that is the vibe the universe actually responds to.

How Authenticity Heals

When we give ourselves permission to be real, we invite others to do the same. We create safety. We foster trust. We show others what it looks like to live in truth, not performance.

Authenticity says:

  • I feel this, even if it’s messy.
  • I’m not perfect, and I don’t have to be.
  • I can still be lovable, even when I’m struggling.

And that is where true love and joy can actually take root. Not in the performance of being okay—but in the truth of being whole.

Authenticity Is a Practice

Being authentic doesn’t mean sharing everything or letting your emotions run unchecked. It means showing up honestly.

It means:

  • Saying no when you mean no.
  • Speaking up when something matters.
  • Honoring your feelings without needing to justify them.

It means being clear about who you are—and being okay with the fact that not everyone will get it. Because your alignment matters more than approval.

The Frequency of Truth

Your truth has its own frequency. When you live it, you attract what’s meant for you. You repel what isn’t. You stop chasing and start receiving.

Authenticity isn’t a trend. It’s a vibration.

And the more you live it, the more powerful you become. Not because you’re trying to be powerful—but because there’s nothing stronger than someone who is fully themselves.

SLAY Reflection

  1. Where in your life are you performing instead of being real?
  2. What does authenticity feel like in your body?
  3. What would it look like to choose authenticity over approval?
  4. Have you mistaken being “high vibe” with being emotionally bypassing?
  5. What part of your truth are you ready to reclaim?

S-L-A-Y:

  • Speak your truth, even when it shakes
  • Let go of the need to be liked
  • Align with your values, not someone else’s
  • You are your most powerful when you are real

Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
Where in your life are you ready to get real?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s stuck in performance mode, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a reminder.

Looking Through Your Own Tinted Glasses

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how we see life through our own lens. How easy it is to adjust the tint to suit the story we want to tell—or the one we’re trying to avoid.

Because the truth is, when we keep those glasses on, we keep ourselves from seeing what’s real.

The Comfortable Distortion

When I was living in the dark, I wore every shade of tinted glasses you can imagine. I’d change the lens to match my mood, my fears, or the lies I was telling myself.

Reality? I didn’t want to face it. It was too painful. Too overwhelming. Too raw.

So I hid. I convinced myself that my version of the story—my distorted, safer version—was enough. I ignored the cracks in my life, the hurt I was causing myself and others, and I justified it all with the filters I chose to wear.

But eventually, the truth caught up with me. And when it did, I realized how small and dark my world had become.

Taking Off the Glasses

It wasn’t easy. Seeing life without those filters meant facing the choices I’d made, the damage I’d done, and the lies I’d told. It meant admitting that I was the one holding myself back.

But in that hard truth, I found something I hadn’t expected: hope.

I discovered that even when the view was painful, it was honest. It was real. And it gave me a path forward.

As I began my journey of recovery, I learned to live in reality. To lean on others who were also learning to live in their truth. To reach out for help when my reality felt overwhelming.

And over time, I realized that reality—messy, uncomfortable, imperfect—is where life really happens.

Seeing Life Clearly

These days, I still feel the temptation to slip those tinted glasses back on when life gets hard. But I remind myself that hiding doesn’t solve anything. It just keeps me stuck.

Reality can be painful. But it’s also where growth lives. It’s where connections deepen, where healing begins, and where we finally get to see ourselves—truly see ourselves.

And the more I practice living in the clear, the more I realize how much beauty there is in truth.

SLAY on.

SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise

Do you tend to hide behind tinted glasses to avoid facing your truth?
What fears or stories are you using those lenses to cover up?
What might your life look like if you took them off today?
How can you begin practicing honesty with yourself and those around you?
What’s one small step you can take today to start living in the clear?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one truth you’re ready to face today?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s struggling to see reality, send this to them.
Sometimes, a small nudge is all it takes to lift the veil.