I know what you’re thinking, why would I say thank you for something I don’t like? We should always say thank you, because we are grateful or appreciative for the good, and because we are grateful and appreciative for the not so good because we will learn from it.
We label things as good or bad. We assign value to things. But really nothing has more or less value unless we give it that value. So the idea of saying thank you to something you don’t like is a way to level the playing field. To make everything a positive experience. Some things, because they favor us, or are what we want, most definitely fall into a positive experience, and others take a different perspective to look for the positive. But, it’s always there.
When I look at things, or situations, that did not go my way, I can choose to think of those as negative, but really they weren’t. I always learned something from them. I learned about myself and I learned about the other people involved. I might learn that I needed to prepare more, or ask more questions, or maybe I needed to make my expectations known, perhaps I set my expectations so high no one could have met them, or maybe my lesson is to learn to be graceful and humble when things don’t go my way. No matter what, I look at what I could have done better and what I could learn for the next time. That’s the positive way to look at a negative situation. It’s also about living in a place of gratitude.
It’s easy to be angry or bitter that when we don’t get our way, and it’s easy to get into a negative pattern of thinking that tells us we never get in our way, which likely isn’t true, we just might not be getting our own way as much as we’d like, so, the question is, how can we change that? And, is our own way really the best way for us? There might be a reason we’re not getting our own way. It may not be what’s best for us after all. And, when we’re open to not just labeling something as bad, we can be open to seeing what we can take away from those situations. Being grateful for whatever comes is living in a state of grace, and living in a STATE OF SLAY. Trusting that what comes your way is what is best for you and, even if someone reacts to you in a negative way, be grateful for what that might teach you, and, how you may have handled it. What you might learn from that. What you can take away. Look for the lesson, or, just be grateful, regardless. I know that might seem foreign, but trust me, once you practice it, it really is a happier place to live. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know no one can do this all the time, we’re not perfect, but if we land here most of the time that is enough to make a seismic shift, propelling us from a place of poor me to fortunate me. I always say, look for the good and you will find the good, and this is a perfect example.
Say thank you whether you like it or not. Be grateful. Learn. Grow from the experiences that are put in front of you, find the good, create the good, be the good.
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you let seemingly bad situations get your down? Do you blame yourself? Do you blame others? Do you carry that around and let it ruin your day, week, month, year? How does that help you? How does it hurt you? How does being grateful for things you don’t like feel to you? If it’s negative, why do you feel negatively about it? What do you get out of holding on to the bad? SLAYER, try saying thank you, even just in your own head, no matter what the outcome, and find a way to be grateful for all experiences, sometimes it’s the ones we label as bad that we learn from the most, so find some gratitude in that.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you