emotional honesty

Expressing Emotion Is A Strength Not A Character Flaw

Let’s get one thing straight: your emotions aren’t flaws—they’re signals. And when you express them, especially the hard ones, you’re not being dramatic—you’re being brave.

I used to think otherwise. I believed showing emotion made me weak, messy, or a burden. So I swallowed my sadness. I masked my fear. I let anger lead because it felt powerful—until it didn’t.

What I didn’t realize then is what I know now:

Pretending you’re fine when you’re not doesn’t make you strong—it keeps you stuck.

I Wasn’t Okay, and That’s Okay

Before I found this path, I believed the lie that being emotional meant I was broken. I wore “I’m fine” like armor. But underneath? I was drowning.

I thought if I kept it all inside, I’d stay in control. But all I did was isolate myself.

When I finally whispered, “I’m not okay,” I expected the world to crumble.

It didn’t.

Instead, it got quieter. Lighter. Kinder.

Speaking Truth Set Me Free

I started sharing more—first in small, scared ways. A tear I didn’t hide. A truth I told out loud. And I discovered something wild:

My emotions didn’t make me weak. They made me real.

And in being real, I connected.

People didn’t run. They leaned in.

They said, “Me too.”

Expression Became My Strength

Every time I gave my emotions a voice, I took my power back.

  • I wasn’t hiding.
  • I wasn’t shrinking.
  • I was healing.

I stopped believing the lie that vulnerability is a liability. I started believing this instead:

Telling the truth—even when your voice shakes—is the most powerful thing you can do.

Boundaries Matter. So Does Honesty.

Let me be clear: You don’t have to spill your soul to everyone. Not all feelings need a stage—but they do deserve space.

Even saying a simple, “I’m not okay right now” can be the start of something powerful.

Because emotional honesty doesn’t just free you—it invites others to show up too.

And that’s how we build the connection we crave.

SLAY Reflection

Ask yourself:

  • Are you hiding your feelings to appear “strong”?
  • What one emotion are you holding in right now?
  • What do you fear will happen if you express it?
  • What do you hope might happen if you do?
  • Who is one safe person you could open up to this week?

Your voice deserves to be heard—especially by you.

S – L – A – Y

S: Stop pretending you’re fine when you’re not.
L: Listen to your emotions without judgment.
A: Allow yourself to feel and share.
Y: Yield to the healing power of emotional honesty.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What emotion have you been holding in—and what might change if you gave it a voice?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s been holding it all in, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Name Them, Claim Them, Dump Them

For a long time, I treated my feelings like enemies. I did everything I could to ignore, numb, or bury them—hoping they’d disappear on their own. Spoiler alert: they didn’t.

Sure, I could silence them for a while. Sometimes for years. But those unspoken feelings came at a high cost. Eventually, they nearly cost me my life.

When We Bury Our Feelings, We Bury Ourselves

The longer I ignored my emotions, the louder they got. The more I tried to push them down, the more they pushed back. And when I finally stripped away the things I used to keep them at bay—addiction, distraction, denial—they all came rushing in.

It felt like I was drowning.

But that tidal wave of emotion was the beginning of something new. Something honest. Something healing. I had to learn to acknowledge my feelings—to name them, accept them, and then choose what to do with them.

Name It. Claim It. Dump It.

That became my process. Name it: What exactly am I feeling? Claim it: This is mine. I don’t have to like it, but I have to own it. Dump it: Let go of what no longer serves me.

Some emotions had roots in deep pain, old stories, or unhealthy patterns. Others were tied to my illness—trying to pull me back into the darkness I fought so hard to escape. But once I named them, I could choose whether they stayed.

Not every feeling deserves a seat at your table.

Feelings Don’t Want to Be Ignored

Even now, years into recovery, those old feelings still show up. Sometimes in disguise. Sometimes dressed in new circumstances. But I know better now.

If I ignore them, they grow. If I pretend they aren’t there, they get louder. But if I meet them with truth, honesty, and intention—they lose their power.

Feelings won’t kill you. But hiding from them just might.

I’ve learned that I don’t have to fear my feelings. I just have to deal with them before they deal with me. And when I stay honest, stay kind, and stay vigilant? That’s when I stay free.

SLAY Reflection

  1. Do you try to hide or stuff down your feelings?
  2. What feelings scare you the most—and why?
  3. What have your feelings been trying to tell you lately?
  4. Are you willing to name and claim your emotions?
  5. What outdated feelings are you ready to dump for good?

S-L-A-Y:

  • Slow down and tune in to what you’re feeling.
  • Label it honestly—no shame.
  • Acknowledge what’s useful and what’s not.
  • You get to choose what stays and what goes.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What feeling are you finally ready to let go of?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s been holding back their feelings, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

What Are You Craving? What Are You Trying To Hide?

We’ve all reached for something—food, alcohol, social media, shopping, chaos—just to feel something else. Or to feel nothing at all. But what if that craving isn’t about the thing you’re reaching for… but the feeling you’re avoiding?

Back then, I didn’t know that’s what I was doing. I told myself I was “treating” myself after a hard day. I said I deserved it. But the truth is, I was hiding. I didn’t want to feel what I was actually feeling. I just wanted to be numb.

And sometimes? I even punished myself—intentionally making myself sick or miserable—because I believed I deserved to feel bad. I couldn’t have told you that then, of course. I was too busy drowning it all out. But beneath the noise was pain. Shame. Grief. Fear. All buried under years of distractions I labeled as self-care.

The Cost of Avoiding Our Feelings

It makes me sad when I look back on those years. Because today, I feel everything—and I’m no longer afraid of it. Feelings aren’t enemies; they’re messengers. When I numb out, it’s a sign I need to slow down and listen. Because if I’m hiding from my feelings, I’ve lost touch with my authenticity.

We all use outside things to shift our mood. That’s human. But when it becomes a lifestyle—when we rely on numbing to avoid discomfort—it becomes a problem. And eventually, it all catches up to us.

I know. I hit the wall. Hard. And I’m lucky to have survived the crash.

Facing the Tsunami

The scariest part of healing was removing all those distractions. I took away every single thing I used to hide behind—and the feelings came rushing in. It felt like standing on a beach watching a tsunami race toward me, with no life jacket, no boat, no plan.

But I survived.

I didn’t survive it alone. I had support—others who were just learning how to feel again too. We held each other up. We practiced sitting with emotions that terrified us. We learned that feelings won’t kill you—but avoiding them might.

Learning to Listen

Now, even the hard emotions teach me something. They tell me when I need rest. When I need to set a boundary. When I owe someone an apology. When I have more work to do.

But they also show me joy. Love. Gratitude. They remind me I deserve to feel good—and that I must be open to feelings in order to receive them.

Feelings don’t control me today. I listen. I feel. I ask myself what they’re trying to tell me. And then I take action that honors who I am now—not who I used to be.

That’s what healing looks like. That’s what owning your power looks like. And that is a feeling worth sitting with.

SLAY Reflection

  1. What feelings do you avoid or try to numb?
  2. What do you reach for when you’re uncomfortable—and what are you really seeking?
  3. How has avoiding your emotions impacted your life in the past?
  4. What might happen if you allowed yourself to fully feel today?
  5. Are you ready to listen to what your feelings are trying to tell you?

S-L-A-Y:

  • Slow down and check in with your emotions.
  • Listen to what they’re telling you.
  • Acknowledge the urge to numb—and choose a different path.
  • You are allowed to feel everything.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one feeling you’ve been avoiding lately—and what do you think it’s trying to tell you?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s struggling to feel their feelings, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.