Even when there is nothing that can be done, no way to fix or help a situation, sometimes all anyone wants to hear is “I’m sorry,” even if you had nothing to do with the situation, it’s nice to have someone acknowledge them and their situation.
When I think back to how I felt before walking on this path, I would have loved someone to say I’m sorry, I think there is so much power in another human being looking you in the eye, connecting, and sharing their heart with you. That moment makes us feel not so alone. It makes us feel like we matter and that our feelings matter. And they do. I remember as I started to heal and get better, sharing my story with someone I had grown to trust, and I remember her putting her hand on mine and telling me she was sorry, she, had nothing to do with any of the events that had brought me to my knees, but it felt like the first time that someone had validated how I felt, and what I had been through. That moment was really powerful for me, and it sent a feeling of love and warmth through my body. It let me exhale a moment, and, ultimately helped me to let it go. It’s amazing who powerful those two little words can be to someone who is in pain, or lost, or struggling to find their voice.
When we do owe someone an apology because we were directly involved, those words hold even more weight. To take responsibility for what we’ve done, whether purposely or not, we honor who we are, as well as the other person. It honors us because we, no matter what we’ve done, don’t shy away from the truth, we don’t hide in shame, we stand tall and admit our mistake and work to do better. We as SLAYERS are learning to be our best selves, we are striving for it, and every so often we may fall back into old behaviors or patterns, or perhaps, still haven’t learned all we need to learn, so there may be times when it is up to us to admit our wrong and say I’m sorry. That may send a shiver down your spine, but trust me, there is a lot of power in it, in saying those words to someone else. I used to think those words meant surrender, failure, or an admission of weakness, but in truth, it’s the opposite, it shows strength in character and a willingness to do better. And, I can attest, that those two words and mend relationships or situations that seem unmendable.
There is something magical about saying, or hearing the words, I’m sorry. Those two words hold a lot of weight, and can be the start of a new chapter in a relationship that may have been damaged by events of the past. They may also be the start of a healing process for someone who may be holding on to what has happened to them and is having a hard time moving on. Those words may not come from the person who should be saying them, but if they come from someone who cares, who listens, who truly means them, they mean just as much, and they mean the beginning of the process of healing. SLAY on.
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you have a hard to time telling someone you are sorry? Why? What do you think it says about you if you apologize? Do you think of it as a sign of weakness? Why? Do you see that it can be a sign of strength? Do you appreciate hearing someone say they’re sorry, even in they are not the person involved? How does it make you feel? Do you offer that same courtesy to the people in your life when they are hurt or struggling? If not, why not? I’m sorry is a bridge to stronger relationships, it strengthens bonds and connects us with others, even if it just means the other person took the time to listen, to care, to find compassion for you, it’s a gesture that can help us move forward and stay out of the past, it can also show us that we are not what’s happened to us, and that there are people around us who care, and can help us walk through those situations that used to haunt us. We are stronger together. Next time someone is struggling with someone, listen, and if you are sorry say so, even if it’s just because you don’t want to see them suffer any longer.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you