mental health recovery

A Permanent Solution To A Temporary Problem

When I was living in the dark, I believed every problem was forever.
Each issue felt massive, heavy, and permanent.
I didn’t think in steps—I thought in panic.
And when I finally acted, it was usually out of desperation instead of intention.

I didn’t face things as they came.
I waited.
I hoped things would magically resolve themselves.
And when they didn’t, I reacted impulsively.
The result?
I made permanent decisions for temporary problems.

Back then, I only had two tools in my emotional toolkit: fight or flight.
And neither got me where I wanted to go.

Living in Avoidance Creates Bigger Problems

I often felt overwhelmed just by life itself.
So when a real issue came up, it was too much.
I ignored it.
I pushed it aside.
And when it inevitably resurfaced—louder, heavier, messier—I made whatever decision would make it go away the fastest.

But the quickest choice isn’t always the right one.
And those choices came at a cost.

Doors closed.
Friendships ended.
I isolated myself even more.

It wasn’t because I was heartless or careless.
It was because I was exhausted, reactive, and afraid.
And I didn’t trust that I could handle hard things in a healthy way.

What Recovery Taught Me About Decisions

When I began my journey in recovery, one of the first things I heard was:
“Live life on life’s terms.”

That didn’t sound like fun.
But neither was the anxiety of constantly avoiding things, or the shame of regret from acting out of fear.

So I tried something new.

I started addressing things as they came up.
I got honest about what was happening.
I asked for help when I needed it.
And I made the best decision I could with the information I had.

Then—I let it go.

Even typing that?
It still feels like a deep exhale.

The Power of Responding, Not Reacting

Here’s what I learned:
When you meet problems in the moment, you keep them in their right size.

You don’t allow them to grow into something overwhelming.
You don’t back yourself into a corner.
You don’t hit the panic button and take drastic action that you’ll later wish you hadn’t.

You give yourself the chance to choose a solution, not a reaction.

Because the truth is, a lot of the things we avoid aren’t actually that big.
They only feel big because we’ve been sitting in fear, feeding them with delay.

But when you face a problem early and with intention, you take back your power.
You act instead of react.
And you protect your peace in the process.

You Deserve Better Than Regret

These days, it’s easy to feel like everything is too much.
But avoidance won’t make it easier.
And quick-fix decisions rarely leave us proud of how we showed up.

You don’t need to solve everything perfectly.
You just need to do the next right thing.
Address what needs your attention, make the best decision you can, and then—let it go.

Honor yourself enough to stop running from the things that need your care.
You are capable.
And you deserve peace, not permanent regret from a temporary storm.

SLAY Reflection: Are You Choosing Peace or Panic?

  1. Do you tend to ignore problems until they become bigger than they need to be?
    How has that affected your life?
  2. What emotions drive your decision-making—clarity or anxiety?
    What patterns do you notice?
  3. Have you ever made a permanent choice in a moment of panic?
    What did you learn from that experience?
  4. What would it feel like to address issues with intention instead of urgency?
    How could that shift your daily peace?
  5. What’s one problem you’ve been avoiding that you can face today—with care, calm, and clarity?
    What’s the next small step?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one moment where you learned the value of pausing instead of panicking—and how did it shape your choices going forward?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s caught in reactive patterns, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Faith Is Hope With A Track Record

Some days, it’s harder to write than others.
Especially on the days when my light feels dim, when I’m tired, and when the fire that usually fuels me flickers a bit lower.

Today is one of those days.
And yet—these are often the days I most need to write.
To remind myself of what I know deep down:
This moment will pass.
This weight I’m feeling isn’t forever.
And no matter how disconnected or overwhelmed I feel, I’ve made it through harder days than this.
Faith reminds me of that.

Life may feel uncertain and unsteady at times, but faith is what brings me back to center.
Because faith isn’t just a feeling—it’s a belief rooted in evidence.
It’s hope that’s been tested. And proven.

From Hopelessness to Hope

Before I began this journey, I didn’t have much faith.
In fact, I didn’t even have much hope.
My mind always defaulted to the worst-case scenario.
And on the rare occasion I dared to hope, I quickly snuffed it out with a familiar voice in my head that told me I didn’t deserve good things.

But then someone shared their story with me.
Where they had been.
What they had come through.
And where they were now.

That single story sparked something.
A flicker of hope.
It was small, but it was enough to help me pick up the phone and ask for help.
And that call changed everything.

How Faith Is Built

Hope came first.
Faith came later.

Because faith doesn’t magically show up—it builds over time.
It’s earned through experience, through consistent effort, and through the proof that change is possible when we do the work.

As I began taking positive steps in my recovery, I started to notice shifts in my life.
Support showed up.
Healing began.
My mental health improved.
And slowly, I started to believe that I could feel better.
That I could build a different kind of life.

That belief—backed by action—became my faith.

Faith Isn’t Passive. It’s a Practice.

Faith isn’t just sitting back and hoping things will change.
It’s rolling up your sleeves and doing the work because you believe change is possible.

Faith can be rooted in something greater than ourselves.
In a higher power.
In the belief that we’re being guided or protected.

But it’s also in the way we show up every day—especially on the hard days.
When we take small, positive actions even when we don’t feel like it.
When we keep moving forward, even if we’re unsure of the destination.
That’s faith in motion.

Share the Flame

Today, if you’re in a low place, remind yourself of what you’ve already overcome.
Look back at the track record of your survival, your growth, your strength.

Faith is built on the moments you didn’t think you’d get through—but did.

And if you’re struggling to find your faith today, start with hope.
Hold onto that spark and trust that it will grow.

If your flame feels dim, share it anyway.
Because when we pass our light to someone else, it only gets brighter.

SLAY Reflection: Are You Holding Onto Faith or Reaching for Hope?

  1. Do you feel connected to your faith today?
    If yes, how does it support you? If not, what’s made you feel disconnected?

  2. Did you always have faith—or did you find it later in life?
    What helped you begin to believe again?

  3. When you think about hope, what comes up for you?
    Are you nurturing it—or avoiding it?

  4. What action helped you move from hope into faith?
    What did you do that built trust in your own journey?

  5. Who in your life might need a reminder that faith is possible?
    How can you be the light that helps spark theirs?

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one moment in your life where hope turned into faith—and how did that change your path?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s searching for that spark, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.

Become Aware Of What’s Really Worth Your Energy

Not everything deserves your energy.
Not everyone deserves your light.
And before I began walking this path, I gave too much of myself to things—and people—that didn’t give anything back.

I stayed in relationships long after they served me. I committed to obligations that drained me. I was loyal… but loyal to a fault. And I confused that loyalty with self-worth, not realizing that I was spending my energy in all the wrong places.

The result? I was exhausted. Depleted. And stuck.

What You Feed Grows—So Be Careful What You Water

For years, I never asked myself what I truly enjoyed. What sparked something in me. What made me feel alive. Instead, I filled my schedule with what I thought I should do—and surrounded myself with people who didn’t challenge me to grow.

I gave my energy to places that led me deeper into the dark.
And then I wondered why I always felt empty.

When I began my journey of recovery, I had to reevaluate everything—starting with where I spent my time, attention, and heart. I was building a new life, one that was rooted in healing. That meant I had to get honest about where my energy had been going, and whether it fit the future I was trying to create.

Spoiler alert: it didn’t.

Say Yes to What Fills You

But here’s what that shift gave me:
Permission to explore.
Permission to say yes to new things.
Permission to relearn what I actually wanted from my life.

I began investing energy in what inspired me. I sought out supportive friendships, joyful experiences, and moments of growth. I said goodbye to relationships that only existed to keep me small. I stopped chasing validation and started chasing purpose.

That’s what recovery gave me: the ability to choose where I shine my light—and the awareness to know when I’m shining it in the wrong direction.

Energy Is Currency. Spend It Wisely.

I still get it wrong sometimes. I still overextend myself. I still jump in too fast, too hard, too deep. But today, I know how to check in with myself. I know what it feels like to be energized versus drained. And I know when it’s time to pull back, realign, and reinvest my energy where it belongs.

Energy is precious.
It’s your power.
Protect it.
Spend it wisely.
Let it guide you toward the light, not drag you back into the dark.

SLAY on.

SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise

Where are you spending your energy—and is it worth the cost?

  • Do you find yourself giving too much to people, places, or things that don’t give back?

  • What makes you feel depleted? What fills you up?

  • Are there relationships or obligations you’ve outgrown?

  • Why do you think you stay? What would it look like to step back?

  • How can you redirect your energy toward what brings you joy, purpose, and peace?

You are allowed to protect your energy. You are allowed to choose yourself.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way you’re reclaiming your energy and investing it where it matters?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s giving too much of themselves to the wrong things, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a reminder: your energy is sacred. Treat it that way.

We Never Know Whoes Lives We Touch

Most of the time, we go about our lives unaware of the impact we’re making. We don’t always get to know whose day we made a little brighter—or whose life we helped change entirely—just by showing up. But that doesn’t mean the impact isn’t there.

Years ago, I was attending a support group regularly—committed to being there every Tuesday night. I didn’t think I was doing anything special. I was just showing up, doing the work, and trying to get by. Then one night, a man walked up to me and thanked me.

I didn’t recognize him. I didn’t recall ever having a conversation with him. So I asked why.

He said, “When I first started coming here, I didn’t have anything consistent in my life. But you were here every Tuesday. You were the only consistent thing I had.”

I was stunned. I had no idea that my quiet consistency had become someone else’s anchor.

You Have No Idea Who You’re Inspiring

That story came back to me recently at an orientation meeting for a volunteer program—one I joined to help people in their darkest hours, much like someone once helped me in mine.

A woman sitting beside me raised her hand and shared that she had once received support from the very program we were now volunteering for. It saved her. And now she was there to give back.

That’s the ripple effect in action.

Even on our lowest days, we still have something to offer. Even in our silence, someone might be watching. Even through our quiet perseverance, we may be inspiring someone else to keep going.

It doesn’t take grand gestures. Sometimes it’s a simple smile. A kind word. A warm hug. An act of respect. A bit of compassion. These moments matter more than we know.

You Matter More Than You Think

I’ve learned to treasure those seemingly small moments—the ones where someone feels seen, held, or heard. The moments that remind us: we’re not walking through this world alone.

We’re part of something bigger. A community. A collective. A heartbeat that echoes through every connection we make.

We all have stories to tell. Even on the days when we feel like we’re barely holding it together, those stories carry weight. Especially on those days.

So keep showing up. Keep sharing your truth. Keep offering what you have—even if all you have is a smile. Because someone out there might be praying for exactly that.

You never know who’s watching.
You never know who you’re helping.
You never know whose life you’re touching—just by being you.

SLAY on.

SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise

Are you aware of the light you bring to the world—even on your darkest days?

  • Do you notice the people around you, and how your presence might affect them?

  • Have you ever discovered that something you said or did helped someone, even when you didn’t realize it?

  • Do you recognize how your experiences, even the hard ones, can offer hope to others?

  • What small act of kindness can you give today?

  • What moment in your past made you feel seen? How can you give that to someone else?

You matter. Your story matters. Your presence matters. Even when you don’t feel like it.

Call to Action: Join the Conversation

I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one way someone unexpectedly impacted your life—or one way you’ve discovered you helped someone else?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who needs a reminder of how much they matter, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a little light to lead us out of the dark.