Feelings can be powerful storytellers—but not always reliable ones. They shout in moments of hurt, fear, or doubt, demanding you take action, say something, quit, or lash out. But when you give your emotions time to breathe, your wisdom steps forward. Your truth finds its voice. And your story becomes something you can stand by—without apology.
This is your reminder to pause before you print.
SLAY on!
Energy isn’t invisible—it’s contagious. The way we move through the world speaks volumes, long before we say a word. That’s why it’s so important to be mindful of the energy we give off. Because whether we mean to or not, we’re always sending out an invitation—and what we invite will show up.
You don’t have to be in someone’s presence for long to feel their energy. Some people lift a room. Others bring it down. We’ve all felt it. And whether we like it or not, we’re putting out our own energy, too.
If I’m being real, there were times in my life when I walked around spewing frustration, negativity, or fear—and then wondered why the same kept showing up in return. The truth? The energy I put out was the energy I got back. It wasn’t personal. It was physics.
I had to learn the hard way that if I didn’t want chaos, I couldn’t keep putting out anxious, defensive energy. If I didn’t want drama, I had to stop contributing to it. The way I spoke to myself, the way I reacted to others, the thoughts I repeated silently—all of it was casting energetic invitations out into the world.
And the guests always showed up.
It took time and effort to shift the energy I was putting out. But once I started leading with calm, openness, kindness—even when I didn’t fully feel it yet—everything around me began to change.
Let’s be clear: we all have hard days. You’re not expected to radiate sunshine 24/7. But awareness is key. Ask yourself:
Your energy doesn’t have to be perfect—but it should be honest, compassionate, and intentional.
Today, I try to think of my energy as a handwritten note I send out to the universe. What does it say? Is it welcoming, kind, curious? Or is it guarded, judgmental, defensive? Whatever I send, I know it’s going to bring something back to me.
So I try to send what I’d want to receive: peace, patience, gratitude, joy. And on the days I can’t muster those feelings genuinely? I pause. I breathe. I reflect. Because I’d rather send nothing at all than send something I’ll regret.
You’re always casting invitations. Make them count.
SLAY on.
SLAY Reflection
S-L-A-Y:
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I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one shift you can make today in the energy you’re putting out into the world?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s stuck in a negative loop, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
Words can build bridges.
Words can burn them down.
They can make someone feel seen, valued, loved—or they can tear open wounds that never fully heal. The truth is, words are some of the most powerful tools we have. And yet, many of us throw them around carelessly, forgetting that once spoken, they can’t be taken back.
We’re living in a world that feels more divided and reactive than ever. Which is why this matters so much: the way we speak—to others and to ourselves—matters. It always has. And it always will.
Before I began walking this path, I used words as weapons.
I used them to hurt, to manipulate, to control the narrative.
Even more painfully, I used them on myself. Quietly. Cruelly. I would tell myself I wasn’t good enough, that I didn’t deserve love, that I was destined to fail. And those words? They stuck. They festered. They kept me small.
I remember being told early in my recovery that I had a barbed tongue. At the time, I almost wore it like a badge of honor—proof I could defend myself in any verbal battle. But really, I was just scared. I was always in fear. And fear made me lash out. It made me forget that love—real love—starts with what we say when no one else is listening.
If you wouldn’t say it to someone you love, why say it to yourself?
That was the question that changed everything for me. Because the truth is, we’re always listening to our own inner dialogue. And when we speak harshly to ourselves, our body, heart, and mind all take that in.
So I started small.
I started with one kind sentence a day.
Sometimes I didn’t believe it. Sometimes it felt fake.
But I kept going.
And eventually, those gentle words turned into something bigger: compassion. Forgiveness. Even love.
When I shifted the way I spoke to myself, something else changed: the way I spoke to others. And sometimes that was easier—giving kind words to others, even when I couldn’t give them to myself. But what I found is that the more kindness I gave away, the more I saw myself as someone capable of kindness. The cycle slowly started to shift.
Today, I try to ask myself before I speak:
Will these words hurt or heal?
That one question has the power to change a conversation. A relationship. A life. Let your words be the ones that bring light—not pain.
SLAY on.
SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise
Do you pause before you speak, or do your words just pour out?
Have your words ever hurt someone you love? What happened?
How do you speak to yourself—especially when you’re struggling?
Can you remember a time when your words helped someone heal?
What would change if you made kindness your default language?
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I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one small way you can use your words today to heal instead of hurt—either for yourself or someone else?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s been hard on themselves lately, send this to them.
Sometimes, the right words come at the right time—and change everything.
I was speaking with someone recently in recovery about something that was weighing heavily on my heart. I was stuck in my head, unsure what to do, and she gently asked me if I had run it through The Four Absolutes.
That gave me pause.
It had been a while since I’d thought about those—honesty, unselfishness, purity, and love.
She reminded me that those four questions are meant to help guide us in times of emotional confusion:
Is it true or false?
Is it right or wrong?
Is it selfish or unselfish?
Is it loving or unloving?
So, I did just that. I ran my situation through this filter. And what had felt so emotionally tangled began to make sense. The noise fell away, and I could finally see what mattered—and what didn’t.
Before walking this path, I never questioned my feelings.
If I felt it, I believed it.
If I believed it, I acted on it—no pause, no reflection.
The problem? Feelings aren’t facts.
And when you let feelings run the show, especially feelings fueled by fear, pain, or ego, you can spiral down a path that leads to more chaos, not clarity.
That’s why these Four Absolutes matter. They strip away the fluff—
the defensiveness, the assumptions, the justifications—and leave only truth.
They allow us to pause before reacting.
They offer perspective.
And sometimes, they stop us in our tracks—before we say or do something we can’t take back.
These days, I try to run my emotions through this lens before I act.
Is it true?
Is it right?
Is it selfish?
Is it loving?
If I can’t answer those honestly, I pause.
If I can’t say yes to “Is it loving?”—I definitely pause.
That moment of stillness, of reflection, can be the difference between peace and regret.
And it’s not just about being kind to others.
It’s about being kind to ourselves.
Because we’re the ones who have to live with the aftermath of our actions. And when we move through life with intention, we create space for clarity, connection, and growth.
In a world that often rushes us toward reaction, pausing is powerful.
Especially during stressful times—when everything feels heightened and emotions are raw—it’s even more important to approach life with intention and grace.
Lead with compassion.
Be passionate, yes.
But don’t let your passion cloud your perspective.
Let your response come from a place of truth, righteousness, selflessness, and love.
Ask yourself:
Is it true? Is it right? Is it selfish? Is it loving?
Then act—with clarity and care.
SLAY on.
Do you pause before reacting—or do you tend to jump in headfirst?
What’s your typical emotional response when you’re triggered?
Have you ever reacted quickly and later realized your feelings were misdirected?
How could using the Four Absolutes have changed that outcome?
What tools or “safety nets” can you put in place to help you pause before reacting?
How can examining your feelings—rather than acting on them—help you grow?
When we respond from a grounded place, we create a ripple of calm in a chaotic world.
Let your next action reflect the best version of yourself.
I’d love to hear from you.
Have you ever used the Four Absolutes to guide a difficult decision?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who could use a moment to pause and reflect—send this their way.
Sometimes, all it takes is a question to shift our perspective.
When the world feels uncertain, it’s natural to search for answers. We scroll, click, refresh—hoping that one more headline will bring us peace. But more often than not, the opposite happens. We become consumed.
In times of crisis, fear drives us to seek control. And in today’s world, control often looks like consuming as much information as possible. With news available 24/7, alerts pinging constantly, and social media spinning every story into a wildfire—it’s easy to lose ourselves in the noise.
Staying informed is important. But there’s a difference between being informed and being overwhelmed. There’s a line where knowledge becomes anxiety, and awareness turns into obsession. If we want to stay grounded, present, and well—we have to learn how to navigate that line.
Before I began this journey of healing and self-awareness, I didn’t know where that line was. When national tragedies or global emergencies happened, I’d get hooked. I’d sit in front of the news for hours, scroll endlessly, and tell myself, “I just need to stay updated.”
But the more I consumed, the more I spiraled. I wasn’t calming my fear—I was feeding it.
And here’s what I’ve learned: when I don’t check in with myself, when I don’t have balance in my day, my mind will find the darkness. If I give my energy to fear-based media or worst-case-scenario stories, that part of my brain that wants to spiral takes over—and fast.
It’s true: we find what we’re looking for.
If we’re looking for fear, we’ll find fear. If we’re looking for anger, grief, chaos—we’ll find it, and then some. But if we make the choice to seek calm, hope, and positivity, we’ll start to notice those stories too.
Our perception is shaped by what we consume and who we surround ourselves with. The news we follow, the conversations we engage in, the content we share—it all matters. It all shapes our internal world.
That’s why I’ve learned to set boundaries. I limit the content I consume. I check my sources. And then, I require balance: something that feeds my mind, something that fuels my body, and something that lifts my spirit.
When I follow that formula, I feel grounded. I feel like me.
In this 24-hour news cycle, information never stops. But that doesn’t mean you have to keep consuming it nonstop.
Just because it’s available doesn’t mean it’s healthy. We don’t need to know everything in real-time. We don’t have to refresh the feed to feel in control. Sometimes, turning the news off is the healthiest decision we can make.
Information should support you—not suffocate you. It’s meant to help you make informed decisions for your life and your family. But it should never be the thing that consumes your energy, time, or peace.
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or hopeless—it might be time to check in.
Ask yourself:
How much news have I consumed today?
Have I moved my body?
Have I taken a deep breath?
Have I laughed, reached out to someone, or stepped outside?
The news will still be there when you get back. But your peace needs to be protected now.
Take the break. Put the phone down. Fold up the paper. Let your mind rest. Engage with your life—your real, tangible, beautiful life.
Let’s check in together, SLAYER:
S: Do you find yourself consumed by news or social media during difficult times?
L: How does this impact your mental, emotional, and physical health?
A: What’s one boundary you can set today to create more balance?
Y: What can you add into your daily routine to feed your spirit and shift your focus back to the present?
I’d love to hear from you.
How are you protecting your peace while staying informed?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s feeling overwhelmed by the noise, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
