Most of us have fears.
It’s part of being human.
But when we give too much focus and energy to fear, we risk becoming exactly what we fear most.
Fear can be sneaky like that. It creeps in, takes root, and grows stronger the more we feed it. Eventually, it can start to shape how we think, how we act, and even how we show up in the world—often without us even realizing it.
Fear can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What we focus on, we feed.
And what we feed, grows.
Fear Is an Invitation
I’ve written before about attracting the kind of energy we want in our lives.
When we live in fear—or negativity—that’s often what ends up circling back to us.
It’s not magic. It’s not instant karma.
It’s energy.
It’s focus.
It’s the silent agreement we make with our fears every time we let them lead.
When I was living in my illness, I was consumed by fear.
It was everywhere—under the surface of every thought, every decision.
And the more I ignored it, the more power it had.
I didn’t want to face it, so I tried to numb it, outrun it, distract myself from it.
But fear doesn’t disappear just because we look away.
It waits. It grows. And eventually, I started to become what I feared most.
When Fear Becomes Identity
I was aware of what was happening.
And still, I didn’t stop it.
I fed my fears with avoidance, with negative thinking, with silence.
And my fear evolved into a kind of paralysis—I couldn’t see a way out, and I wasn’t asking for one.
But then a different kind of fear showed up—the kind that keeps us safe.
The kind that whispers, “You can’t keep going like this.”
The kind that leads to action.
I was terrified of being judged, of being labeled “crazy,” of being too far gone to help.
But I was also terrified of where my life was headed if I didn’t get help.
And that good fear? It won.
I reached out.
I asked for help.
And for the first time, I found a door out.
Reclaiming Power Over Fear
I’ve learned that I don’t have to live in fear.
I still feel it, yes—because again, I’m human.
But I don’t live there anymore.
I’ve learned to acknowledge it when it shows up and then move through it.
Today, I focus on:
- What I want to see in my life
- What I hope for
- What positive energy I can put into the world
I’ve built a spiritual connection that guides me and keeps me grounded.
I stay open to signs and nudges from the universe.
And I trust that fear is not something I have to surrender to.
It’s something I can listen to—but not let lead.
Use Fear as a Signal—Not a Sentence
Fear can be a compass.
Sometimes it points to the exact place where we need to do the most work.
Ask yourself:
- What am I really afraid of?
- What small action could I take to begin facing that fear?
- What would it feel like to stop giving that fear so much power?
This is a challenging time.
But it’s also the perfect time to focus on the good you want to create—for yourself, for your family, for your life.
You don’t have to become what you fear.
You can choose something different.
You can choose to SLAY.
SLAY Reflection: How Are You Using Your Fear?
- Do you tend to live in fear or let fear guide your decisions?
What are you most afraid of right now? - Do you notice yourself becoming what you fear?
What behaviors or beliefs might be feeding that? - What action could you take today to work through your fear—just one small step?
What would shift if you took it? - How does fear affect your energy and mindset?
What happens when you redirect your focus? - How can you bring more positive action into your life today?
Where can you reclaim your power?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s one fear you’re ready to stop feeding, and what action can you take today to move through it?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s stuck in fear or letting it lead their life, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
