There was a time when silence terrified me.
Back when I was living in the dark, silence didn’t feel still or serene—it felt suffocating. The moment things got quiet, my head got loud. I filled every corner of my life with noise: music in my ears, background TV, endless scrolling, constant distractions. Yoga? I had long quit that. Sitting alone for an hour with my thoughts? No thank you. I was afraid of what I’d hear.
But here’s what I’ve learned on the other side of that fear:
Silence isn’t empty. It’s full of answers.
What We Avoid Is Often What We Need
When I made the choice to get better, I had to learn how to sit with myself.
With my thoughts.
With the truth.
With the shame.
And ultimately—with the peace that waited beneath it all.
It didn’t happen overnight. At first, I had to work hard to ignore the lies my mind still wanted to tell me. But little by little, the static in my head started to quiet. And what I found in that silence wasn’t danger—it was guidance. Clarity.
Peace.
I realized that the silence I’d run from wasn’t trying to hurt me—it was trying to help me. I just had to be well enough to hear what it was saying.
Cleaning House to Find the Calm
In order to make peace with silence, I had to do some serious housecleaning. I worked to replace negative self-talk with words that were loving, kind, and true. I took ownership of my actions, stopped blaming everyone else, and started healing the parts of me that kept replaying old stories.
It wasn’t easy. My old patterns wanted me to believe I was always the victim, that life just happened to me. But I learned that I had choices. And even when I couldn’t control what was happening, I could still choose how I responded.
Taking responsibility gave me back my power—and that is when silence started to feel safe.
Today, silence is where I reset. It’s where I check in with myself. It’s where I listen to what I really need.
It’s no longer something I fear—it’s something I crave.
Let Silence Speak
Silence isn’t the enemy.
It’s the sacred space where our soul gets a chance to speak.
So the next time you find yourself wanting to reach for the noise—pause. Ask yourself what you’re afraid to hear. Because what scares us in the quiet is often the very thing trying to guide us forward.
Let silence be a space of peace, of presence, and of power.
SLAY on.
SLAY OF THE DAY: Reflect & Rise
Are you afraid of silence? Or have you found comfort in it?
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What comes up for you when things get quiet?
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Are you filling your time with noise or distractions to avoid something?
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What’s one thing you’ve learned when you’ve allowed yourself to sit in stillness?
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How can you use silence today to guide a decision, check in with yourself, or realign with what matters?
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What would it take for you to see silence as a friend, not a threat?
The answers are already inside you. You just have to get quiet enough to hear them.
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What’s something silence has revealed to you that you wouldn’t have discovered otherwise?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who avoids stillness because they’re afraid of what they’ll hear, send this to them.
Sometimes, what we fear is where the healing begins.
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