You Don’t Have To Be Perfect, You Just Have To Be

I used to believe I had to be perfect to show up.

Perfect timing. Perfect skills. Perfect hair, even. And if things didn’t line up just right—if I didn’t line up just right—I’d sit it out. I’d pass on the opportunity. I’d talk myself out of the dream. Looking back, I can’t count the chances I missed because I let perfectionism run the show.

But perfection is a lie we tell ourselves when we’re scared.

It gives us a reason to wait, to hide, to stay small. We convince ourselves we’re not ready, not worthy, not enough—so we don’t begin. But here’s the truth: Perfection is not required. Showing up is.


It’s Never Going to Look Perfect—Do It Anyway

No one has it all figured out. No plan is bulletproof. No path is paved just right. Life is messy, and we’re messy too.

The trick is to move forward anyway.

Start with what you’ve got. Doubt? Bring it. Fear? Take it with you. Confusion? Totally normal. You don’t need to wait for the moment to be perfect—you just need to be brave enough to begin.

It reminds me of being a kid on the playground, standing in front of a merry-go-round already spinning. I’d spot my opening, take a breath, and jump. Was it scary? Sure. But it was also thrilling. I didn’t need a guarantee—I just needed to go for it.

So why do we stop doing that?

Because we’ve fallen. We’ve been judged. We’ve been told to wait until we’re “ready.” But the only way to be ready is to start anyway.


Flaws and All, You’re Already Enough

Let me say this loud for the people in the back:

You are already worthy of showing up.

You don’t have to be “fixed” or “perfect” or polished to begin. The real magic happens when you show up as you are. That’s what makes you relatable. That’s what makes you real.

You are perfect in your imperfection. Unique. Valuable. Needed.

And when you let go of chasing perfect, something incredible happens—you start living. You stop waiting. You begin to believe in what’s possible for you.

So whatever it is you’ve been putting off—start it. Show up. Say yes. Jump in. Your life isn’t waiting for perfect. It’s waiting for you.


SLAY Reflection

  1. What’s one thing you’ve avoided because you were waiting for the “perfect” moment?
  2. How has perfectionism kept you from living fully?
  3. What would it feel like to show up just as you are?
  4. What’s one small step you can take this week toward something you’ve been putting off?
  5. Can you write down 5 things that make you uniquely you—and remind yourself why they matter?

S-L-A-Y:

  • Start without needing it to be perfect.
  • Listen to your inner voice—not your inner critic.
  • Accept yourself as you are, flaws and all.
  • You are the magic you’ve been waiting for.

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I’d love to hear from you.
What have you been putting off because it wasn’t perfect?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.

And if you know someone who’s stuck waiting for the “right time,” send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.


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4 thoughts on “You Don’t Have To Be Perfect, You Just Have To Be

    1. Do love “imperfection is beauty” because it truly is what sets us all apart, perfection would be boring, if it were at all attainable.

      “Madness is genius” can’t say I’m in agreement there. In my experience madness has been madness, bringing me down to a pit of darkness.

      In the end it’s really about living your life to the fullest, being honest about who are you and what you want, and going after it. No apologizing for it. Being brave, bold, and to never loose your sense of fun and adventure.

      So, can’t say I agree with Ms. Monroe fully here, also, don’t know about taking advice from someone who’s actions led to their early demise, but I admire the spirit of be letting your true self shine and sharing that with the world.

      Nice to hear from you Lisa, SLAY and SHINE on!

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  1. I understand your view. Referring to perspective – I see the reference to madness, as people once thought Christopher Columbus was mad for not believing the world was flat. Eisenstein for research of relativity, and others. The madness and genius of it is believing in self and not always staying inside the box of conformity.
    Slay on Queen

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    1. That I can see, I think when thinking of that word in reference to Marilyn I look at it as a mental health issue, as she always seemed to be on a fragile edge of a breakdown. But yes, people have thought I’m mad for trying new things, putting myself out there or believing I can without proof, just a belief in myself, so in that respect I agree.

      At the end of the day it’s about listening to your heart, and then having your heart tell your head to believe you can.

      SLAY on.

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