You Don’t Have To Be Perfect, You Just Have To Be

I think of all the times I didn’t show up, or start something, or even try because it wasn’t perfect, or I wasn’t perfect. Too many to count. And I think about all of the opportunities I may have missed because of it, times I cheated myself out of things because things didn’t look the way I thought it should look, or I didn’t deem myself ready. I was full of self-doubt, self-hatred, and self-sabotage. I could always justify my excuses back then, but they were all bullshit. Nothing is ever perfect, we can always find excuses to not do something or start something, but what is perfection anyway, it’s really just a matter of perspective. The perfect time to start something new is right now, without hesitation, even with doubt, fear, or without knowing how it will end, it doesn’t have to be perfect, you just have to show up, and start.

First off, no one is perfect, no situation is perfect, but you can make it perfect for you. Flaws are what make us interesting, what make us us, and make us human. Sometimes we can get messy or things can get messy, more than sometimes, life has a lot of moving parts, as do we, and a lot of the time they’re not all moving in the same direction. It’s about learning to navigate through the messiness, through the challenging, through the imperfectness of life to continue to move forward, regardless of what it looks like. It’s unrealistic to think everything and everyone has to be perfect before you jump in, because it never will be, the thrill of doing it anyway is where it’s at, do your homework, gather up as much knowledge as you can to make your best decision and then jump in and trust that you are enough, more than enough, and the rest will work itself out as you go. It reminds me of being in the playground as a kid, and standing in front of a merry-go-round that was already in motion, I would stand there, spot my place where I was going to jump and I would just do it, feeling the exhilaration of what I had just done as I spun around with the other kids who had done the same. We just did it. So, why do we stop doing that?

Well, for one we’ve put on a few more years since our playground days, and, probably have fallen off a few times since then, so the trick is to get our courage back, to find that part of ourselves that used to just go for it, or if you never had it, to find it now, it’s in there, that fight, that drive, that freedom to just go. And sometimes it isn’t about finding it, it’s just leaping first and trusting that you’ll find your way. I have found that to be the case, there are many times I just have trust that I am exactly where I am supposed to be and what’s in front of me is not an accident, so just go, jump in, leap and figure it out.

Second, you are perfect. You are perfectly you. Flaws and all. Stop trying to achieve something that’s unachievable, delaying the time you actually participate in life. Believe in who you are, what you can offer, and what you can do! No two people are the same, we each have something special to bring to any situation, so share it, share you, I promise you, the more you do, the more you stop focusing on what’s wrong with you and start focusing on what’s right, and trust, me, there’s more in that second column. Don’t believe me, start showing up anyway, even when it’s not perfect, in fact, especially when it’s not perfect, jump in and just start, participate, and show up, see what happens, and see if things don’t start looking a little more perfect, or at least, perfect for you SLAYER.

SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you stop yourself from starting something new or getting involved because it’s not perfect? Do you stop yourself from starting something new or getting involved because you’re not perfect? What does perfect look like to you? Is it attainable? Is it realistic? What if you started anyway? Just did it. What do you think will happen? What if you tried? You are in the perfect place to try to something new, to start something, or to get involved, make a list of 5 things you think are your greatest attributes, look at that list as you make a plan to get started on something you’ve been thinking about and make a commitment to start it this week. It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be you. SLAY on.

S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you

4 thoughts on “You Don’t Have To Be Perfect, You Just Have To Be

    1. Do love “imperfection is beauty” because it truly is what sets us all apart, perfection would be boring, if it were at all attainable.

      “Madness is genius” can’t say I’m in agreement there. In my experience madness has been madness, bringing me down to a pit of darkness.

      In the end it’s really about living your life to the fullest, being honest about who are you and what you want, and going after it. No apologizing for it. Being brave, bold, and to never loose your sense of fun and adventure.

      So, can’t say I agree with Ms. Monroe fully here, also, don’t know about taking advice from someone who’s actions led to their early demise, but I admire the spirit of be letting your true self shine and sharing that with the world.

      Nice to hear from you Lisa, SLAY and SHINE on!


  1. I understand your view. Referring to perspective – I see the reference to madness, as people once thought Christopher Columbus was mad for not believing the world was flat. Eisenstein for research of relativity, and others. The madness and genius of it is believing in self and not always staying inside the box of conformity.
    Slay on Queen

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    1. That I can see, I think when thinking of that word in reference to Marilyn I look at it as a mental health issue, as she always seemed to be on a fragile edge of a breakdown. But yes, people have thought I’m mad for trying new things, putting myself out there or believing I can without proof, just a belief in myself, so in that respect I agree.

      At the end of the day it’s about listening to your heart, and then having your heart tell your head to believe you can.

      SLAY on.

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