There are monsters that live in our past. Some still haunt our present. They take from us. Our joy. Our confidence. Our peace. But here’s the truth:
They only keep taking if we keep letting them.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean making excuses. It doesn’t mean forgetting. It means cutting the cord. Reclaiming your power. Choosing not to carry someone else’s damage on your back any longer.
You Can Forgive Without Forgetting
When I started to heal, I was told I needed to get honest—rigorously honest. That included facing the monsters I had let into my life. And yes, some were people who had deeply wronged me. Others were habits, patterns, or situations I kept returning to even when they hurt.
What I realized? I had played a part in letting some of those monsters in.
Whether it was staying in toxic relationships, seeking validation in the wrong places, or betraying myself to avoid being alone—I had to own my side of the story.
That doesn’t excuse the harm. But it gave me the clarity I needed to say: enough. And the strength to walk away.
You Are Not Powerless Unless You Say You Are
Monsters thrive in silence. In secrecy. In shame.
They feed off the energy we give them—even if it’s hate, resentment, or pain.
But we have a choice.
You can take that pain and turn it into wisdom. You can use your past to protect your future. You can decide that today, right now, you will no longer allow what broke you to define you.
Forgiveness is not a gift to them. It’s a gift to you. It’s how you say:
“You no longer get to live rent-free in my mind.”
The Monsters Don’t Disappear, But Their Power Can
For many of us, the past still whispers. The memories still echo. That’s okay.
The goal isn’t to erase it. The goal is to disarm it.
To say:
- I see what happened.
- I know how it shaped me.
- And I am choosing to rise anyway.
That is real power.
You can carry the lesson without reliving the nightmare. You can remember without re-opening the wound. You can forgive the monster and protect the warrior you’re becoming.
Take Your Power Back
If your monsters still show up in your thoughts, your choices, your relationships—ask yourself why. What are they still taking? And more importantly, what are you ready to take back?
You don’t need to justify their behavior to forgive them.
You just need to stop letting them lead your life.
Forgive what you can. Accept what you must. And then: leave the rest.
There is no space in this new chapter for what tried to destroy you.
You are the author now. And your story gets to look different.
Let your purpose lead. It knows the way.
SLAY Reflection
- Who or what still holds power over your peace?
- In what ways have you given your energy to the past?
- How might forgiveness free you, not them?
- What lessons can you carry without carrying the pain?
- What boundary or action will help you reclaim your power today?
S – Stop giving power to the past
L – Look at your part with honesty, not blame
A – Accept what you can’t change, change what you can
Y – Yield to growth and move forward free
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
What have you learned by forgiving someone who hurt you?
Share your story in the comments. Let’s cheer each other on.
And if you know someone who’s stuck in their pain, send this to them.
Sometimes, all we need is a nudge.
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“Focus on there here and now. What you have. Who you have in your life. Focus on the good, and leave the rest. Find a way to take some good from the past, from the bad, and turn the bad into good. It’s possible. Use the past as information, as a guide of where you don’t want to go, and learn how that information can take you to were you want to go moving forward. The monsters are only monsters if you let them be, otherwise they are merely just damaged or sick individuals who may be doing the best they can, or not, perhaps they are doing what they think is their only choice, but we have a choice today to let them go, because we are taking away what makes them most scary, their ability to make us feel helpless, we are not, and when we live in that truth, those monsters become just a memory from out past, and the path to a bright future. SLAY on.”
I Love This.
I have been working so hard, so passionately on getting better for me. There’s been moments when I find myself focusing too much on myself yet lately – I’ve been stepping out of my comfort zone to change. Focusing on the good and leaving the rest; using my past history to guide me forwards and how I interact with others is where I’m at. I’m learning to forgive and also learning to readjust myself. Thank you again Carrie. Keep SLAYING. ❤
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You have no idea how timely that section of my blog is for me this morning as well. Thank you for your comment and sharing it.
Keep moving forward, it’s a journey, not a race. Find that place inside of you that seeks the truth, for you, and is a place of self-love, operate from the place, always, and let the rest go. There are many of us on the same path, you are not alone, and if you stumble or trip, it’s OK, that’s how we learn, just keep going, there’s something beautiful waiting for you on the other side.
SLAY on!
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