There comes a time in life when you realize—not every space is meant for you. Not every conversation needs your input. And not every audience is ready—or even willing—to hear what you have to say.
For years, I believed I had to be everywhere, say everything, and make sure I was heard. Even if it meant squeezing into spaces that didn’t feel right. I thought that was how you made an impact. Be louder. Be present. Be seen.
But experience has taught me something far more powerful:
True empowerment comes from going where your voice is needed, not where it’s merely tolerated.
It’s a shift from trying to fit in to standing tall where you belong.
The Myth of Being Everywhere
We’re bombarded with messages telling us to “show up everywhere.” Post more. Be visible. Stay relevant. Hustle harder.
But visibility does not equal value.
When you stretch yourself thin trying to be in all the rooms, you lose something essential—clarity. The more you chase attention, the more disconnected you become from your true message.
Impact isn’t about volume. It’s about resonance.
The power of your voice isn’t in how many people hear it, but in who hears it and how deeply it connects.
Quality over quantity. Alignment over attention.
Your voice deserves to be heard in spaces where it is valued—where it can make a real difference.
How to Know Where Your Voice is Needed
Not every invitation is an opportunity.
Some spaces want what you represent, not who you are. You might be included to check a box, but your actual voice? It’s sidelined.
That’s not your room.
Ask yourself:
- Does this space genuinely value my voice?
- Is my presence here aligned with my purpose?
- Am I heard and respected, not just seen?
If the answers are no, it’s not your place to pour your energy into.
You deserve spaces where your contribution matters.
Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone
It’s human nature to stick with the familiar. But sometimes, the places we’ve outgrown are holding us back.
Finding where your voice is needed often means stepping outside your comfort zone.
Try new communities. Enter unfamiliar conversations. Build fresh connections.
You might be surprised how much common ground you discover when you truly see and hear others. Different backgrounds, same dreams. Different paths, shared values.
That’s where genuine community begins—with curiosity, openness, and the courage to explore beyond what feels safe.
Building Meaningful Connections
As we grow, so do our relationships. Not everyone who started with you is meant to go the distance. And that’s okay.
Invest in connections that:
- Encourage your growth
- Challenge you in meaningful ways
- Support and celebrate your voice
The right connections won’t just tolerate your voice. They’ll make space for it. They’ll value it. They’ll help you carry it further.
The Power of Walking Away
One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is knowing when to walk away.
Leaving a space that doesn’t align with you isn’t failure. It’s wisdom.
When you walk away from what no longer serves you, you create space for what does. For the right people. For meaningful conversations. For opportunities that honor your voice.
Walking away is a declaration of self-worth. You’re not here to prove yourself in rooms that don’t value you. The right spaces will invite you in, not because they have to, but because they want to hear what you have to say.
The Ripple Effect of Showing Up Authentically
When you focus your energy where it’s truly needed, you create a ripple effect.
You may not always see the immediate impact, but:
- A story you share helps someone feel less alone.
- A truth you speak encourages someone else to find their voice.
- A perspective you offer opens minds and hearts.
Impact isn’t always loud.
It’s the quiet strength of showing up authentically, in the right spaces, at the right time. That’s where real change begins.
State of Slay™: The Return
Even as I stepped away to focus on other parts of my life, the State of Slay™ blogs never truly went silent. More people have been reaching out, telling me they’ve been revisiting old posts, finding guidance, connection, and reminders that they’re not alone.
And as you may have noticed, I’ve quietly been writing and uploading new posts over the last few weeks—preparing for this very moment.
So today, on the 8th anniversary of the launch of State of Slay™, I want to say it loud and clear: I’m back.
This next chapter will bring new energy, fresh stories, and the same commitment to real, vulnerable dialogue that started it all. If you’ve been wondering when the blogs would return, this is your answer.
I’m here. My voice is here. State of Slay™ is here.
Final Thoughts: Go Where Your Voice is Needed
You don’t need to force yourself into spaces that don’t align with you.
Instead:
- Seek out rooms that resonate with your values.
- Build relationships that amplify your voice.
- Step out of your comfort zone to discover new communities.
- Know when to walk away from what no longer fits.
- Speak your truth where it will be heard and valued.
When you go where your voice is needed, you don’t just create change—you create connection, fulfillment, and purpose.
That’s where the real magic happens.
SLAY OF THE DAY
- Are you investing energy in spaces that no longer align with your purpose?
- What communities or conversations feel aligned with your voice?
- When was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone to explore something new?
- Who in your life helps amplify your voice?
- What’s one intentional step you can take today to bring your voice where it’s needed?
Call to Action: Join the Conversation
I’d love to hear from you.
Where is your voice needed right now?
Share your thoughts in the comments. Let’s support each other in finding those spaces.
And if you know someone who needs this reminder—send it their way.
We rise when we lift each other up.
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