When Others Inject Their Fear Into Your Life

It takes a lot of courage to go after your dreams. To share yourself with the world, a piece of you, something that has come from your heart and your soul. Many times we walk on new ground to get to a place we’ve never been and that leaves us feeling vulnerable. We would think that those around us, those who love us, would be there to support and cheer us on, but that is not always the case. Sometimes, even from the most unexpected sources, we don’t get that support, what we get is a projection of their own fears as they try to discourage us, or even tear apart what we’ve worked so hard for. It could take the form of jealousy, it can look like pessimism, or it can come as an ultimatum, where you are told if you were to move forward you would be ending a friendship or relationship. All of these things put us in an awkward position as we attempt to fulfill our hopes, dreams and goals.

What we have to remember in these moments is that it is not our job to make someone else more comfortable. We are all responsible for ourselves. We should never dull our shine our dumb down our talents or efforts to make things easier for someone else, you are not only doing yourself a disservice, but you are also do the same for them. Their fear is not going to go away if you stop yourself from reaching your goals, and possibly walking through your own fears to get there. Everyone in our lives should be happy for you when you reach a new milestone, or accomplish something we’ve worked for, if they’re not, they’re not true friends, or someone you should be investing a lot of time in because they are only focused on themselves and are not interested in what’s best for you.

This may also appear in less obvious ways, and may be so ingrained in a relationship you may not even know it’s happening. Sometimes people have a way of injecting some negativity into any situation that may look like you’re moving forward, growing or challenging your limits. It can come in the form of little sarcastic comments, a look, or even not returning calls, emails or texts when something great is happening for you, causing you to wonder what’s wrong and shifting the focus back on them. And that’s really what’s going on. They want your attention on their wants and needs because if it’s not there they feel abandoned or betrayed, but it’s not your job to do that for them, it’s theirs. They need to fill that space for themselves, they need to learn to be happy for others and maybe even get inspired by it and go after something themselves. They should always support the people they love even if they don’t understand it, they should understand it’s important to you, and if they don’t, they should ask why it is. We fight enough of our own fears without also having to battle someone else’s.

Stand up for what you want, for who you are and what you’re working hard to accomplish. If the people around you can’t be happy for you then it’s time to start evaluating the people you have in your inner circle. We rise by lifting others and when one of us rises, we all rise. Don’t let someone else dampen your spirit and drive for great things, shine bright, and maybe that light will illuminate the path for those who haven’t found their light, and if not, you’ll find others shining their lights on your path who will cheer you on. SLAY on!

SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you feel guilty if you find success when friends or family are not? If yes, why? Do people in your life try to discourage you from accomplishing your goals? If yes, why do you think they do that? Do you discourage people from accomplishing their goals? If yes, why do you do that? What fear is that kicking up in you? Do you allow people to dampen your spirit and not go after your dreams? If yes, why do you let them do that? SLAYER, we are all meant to shine, to succeed, to do our best, if someone in your life doesn’t want you to be your best self and share yourself with the world then you need to take a look at that relationship, and, you may need to end, or put a pause, in that relationship until that person can be happy for you by conquering their own fears and supporting those in their lives. They’re fear is not about you, but you have to take care of you and not let someone else stand in the way of you dreams. Go get them SLAYER!

S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you

2 thoughts on “When Others Inject Their Fear Into Your Life

  1. “Many times we walk on new ground to get to a place we’ve never been and that leaves us feeling vulnerable. We would think that those around us, those who love us, would be there to support and cheer us on, but that is not always the case. Sometimes, even from the most unexpected sources, we don’t get that support, what we get is a projection of their own fears as they try to discourage us, or even tear apart what we’ve worked so hard for.” (C.G.)

    This, right there – this is one of the big millstones around my neck. I have often listened to people around me the moment I share my dreams and they tell me why I could not possibly do something. The moment I share them my thoughts or my dreams – there is often a silence suggesting: “Yeah, right – you’ll never get there, you’re too lazy and too easily distracted to make it.” Someone in my youth may have planted that negative seed in my head out of their own insecurities. Over the years between me and those around me – that seed grew into a negative tape that seems to wrap itself around me every day.

    I wanted to go to school to get a degree in Development Studies – something I could use to work Internationally and abroad. I had dreams of using that degree coupled with getting a TESL certificate so that I could teach overseas, travel, explore the world, do things with my life. However – by the fourth month of school – the discouraging tape I had heard over the years rang loud and clear. I quit school and fell into debt because I couldn’t finish what I began. It’s a bad pattern I found. I thought I could do something only to find myself unable to do so.

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    1. But you are able to do it, you just have to allow yourself to do it, and when that negative tape, or people, chime in, thank them for their comments and then hit DELETE! Challenge yourself each day with things you will show yourself you can do it, and deserve to do it. As you accomplish each one , those voices will get quieter as you prove to yourself that yes you can, and yes you will! SLAY on!

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