There are so many things in life we have no control over, but what we always have control over is our reaction to life. Before stepping on this path I always played the victim, I looked at life as something that was happening to me, and, felt I was always on the wrong side of good. Feeling like my problems were mounting and becoming too big and overwhelming to overcome, and not realizing that most of my problems were the results of choices I was making, I wanted to point my finger and blame everybody else, but my finger should have been pointed at myself. When I was finally in a place where I could take responsibility for the choices I had made and got rigorously honest with myself, I had to really look at all of those choices, and even in some instances where I was not in control of what happened, I had invited that person in myself, chose to engage with them, or got myself into that situation in the first place, all my choices. It was a tough realization to recognize that I was the source of much of my anguish and heartache, but, as difficult as that was, I also realized that it also gave me the power to make positive changes in my life.
We always have a choice how we react to the people, places and things around us. No matter what the situation, we choose how we are going to react or participate from that point on. Now I think that’s pretty cool, because there are so many things we don’t have power over, but when they happen, that’s when we get to take our power back and make the right choices for us. And, sometimes, the right reaction is not reacting at all, but simply walking away. At the end of the day we should be making choices that are best for us, mentally, physically and spiritually, and no one else gets to say what those choices are, only we get to decide for ourselves, so, in a sense, we are not powerless once we decide to take positive action, or no action if that’s the best action for us, and we can move off in a direction that helps us, rather than one that hurts us. Even in the most difficult of situations, it is up to us to choose how we’re going to react, but as long as we are clear with ourselves on what is best for us, whatever we choose is what is right. It keeps things clear. We look at the problem, and we get into the solution, staying in the problem only makes more problems, it’s the solution that’s going to keep us in the light, and the solution is where problems go to die.
For me, when I started to look at my problems this way, things became easier. Now that’s not to say that sometimes I don’t get frustrated, or angry, at what may have fallen in my lap, or what I may have invited in, but I now know I have the power to disinvite it and to show it the door. My problems became fewer when I started taking responsibility for what was showing up in my life, and for making better decisions as a result. When we are reacting in a way that honors who we are and where we want to go, sitting in the problem no longer feels good, or like a place we want to be, so we stop letting ourselves go there, and we stop seeking those places that will take us there.
Today when a problem pops up, I try to have the right reaction to it, right for me, and sometimes that might mean a moment or two of stomping my feet in frustration, but then I need to get into the solution, and ask myself if I let this problem in in the first place. When we clear the path of the problems we used to let in, we leave it open to discover new things, new places and new ways to live our lives in a way that is more harmonious to our spirit and where we are destined to be, where we are at our highest good. So next time a problem pops up, ask yourself, what is the appropriate reaction, what choice can I make right here and now that allows me to be my best self? That is the right reaction. SLAY on!
SLAY OF THE DAY: Do you let your problems define you and dictate your mood? How many of your problems are from choices you’ve made? What can you do to change that? How can you make better choices going forward to lessen those problems? What choices can you make going forward to lessen the reactions to the problems that occur? How can you take your power back when you are dealing with a problem in your life? You have more power than you think. You always have a choice in any situation to react, or not react, in away that reflects your true self, or what’s best for your true self, so don’t react without taking yourself into consideration instead of reacting in retaliation.
S – self L – love A – appreciate Y – you